I'm from the Balkans (EU) and my boyfriend is from the East Asia (SK) we both live together in an apartment in New Jersey and honestly I don't know if there's smth wrong with me or how I was raised because the mentality in my country back then used to be fatal. If you ever had sex with more than 1 person or before marriage you would be considered a whore while my boyfriend doesn't really care much (wether that's only him or something that's in the family I don't know) and before me he has slept with other women as well (does not bother me) but my point is that I feel like he doesn't respect me or the ways I was raised. I feel bad as well when I don't give him what he wants but these days he has been trying to force it so we have sex but I'm scared and unexperienced and the thought of a male dingly wiggly being inside makes me go crazy😧😟. He even keeps touching me inappropriately in front of our friends and these days I don't want to even stay with him, it's so exhausting but I love him I really really really do!! My friends joke around about his smoking habits saying I should grow up adults can smoke but honestly I don't find smoking attractive and I've told him like 5 times but he keeps trying to make me try it. I wanna find a solution so bad just not breaking up he's everything left I have.
What do I do guys?
I'm from the Balkans (EU) and my boyfriend is from the East Asia (SK) we both live together in an apartment in New Jersey and honestly I don't know if there's smth wrong with me or how I was raised because the mentality in my country back then used to be fatal. If you ever had sex with more than 1 person or before marriage you would be considered a whore while my boyfriend doesn't really care much (wether that's only him or something that's in the family I don't know) and before me he has slept with other women as well (does not bother me) but my point is that I feel like he doesn't respect me or the ways I was raised. I feel bad as well when I don't give him what he wants but these days he has been trying to force it so we have sex but I'm scared and unexperienced and the thought of a male dingly wiggly being inside makes me go crazy😧😟. He even keeps touching me inappropriately in front of our friends and these days I don't want to even stay with him, it's so exhausting but I love him I really really really do!! My friends joke around about his smoking habits saying I should grow up adults can smoke but honestly I don't find smoking attractive and I've told him like 5 times but he keeps trying to make me try it. I wanna find a solution so bad just not breaking up he's everything left I have.
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You need to make compromises most of the time when you date someone from a very different culture. Try to talk with him and work this out.
You better have a serious talk with that guy and don’t ever let him touch you
You can't change him. Either deal with it or move on.