How can someone go from kissing your hand all the time, saying they care about you and want to move in with you in the future, text and call you?

[Sweetsurprize]

everyday, taking you two EVERYWHERE, and saying they want long-term with you, to hating you and wanting nothing to do with you anymore lol.

Talk about bipolar!

[dynamicyandere]

They may have been either infatuated with you (which usually lasts for about 90 days or less than a year) but after the infatuation wore off your actual chemistry and compatibility was discovered to be a poor match.


That’s more like falling out of love though. That wouldn’t explain the hate though.


For hate, it would have to be something you did to them or something they THINK you did to them.


Like, did someone tell them you cheated on them? Did someone tell them that you did XYZ behind their back? Or perhaps did you say something that he took the wrong way?


If you didn’t do anything wrong, and nobody has been talking bad about you, then it could also just be him being manipulative, going hot and cold, so that you do what he wants.


Like, trying to get you to appease him when you’ve done nothing wrong.


So… Miscommunication, unresolved tension, or manipulation. 🤔

[Sweetsurprize]

I don't believe in chemistry. What is that anyway? I truly did think he was the best partner I have ever been with to be honest (and I have seen PLENTY of marriages and relationships that don't have "chemistry" but they've been with each other for a LONG time, and time is precious!)..

.. I guess he didn't feel the same. I made a lot of sacrifices with my time, energy, emotions, so... But at the end of the day, I'm tired. I am TIRED of trying to please people that are THAT hard to please!

[dynamicyandere]

When I refer to chemistry, I’m referring to how well two people naturally get along. How easy it is to converse with. How easy it is to understand each other. Like if you meet someone for the first time, but you can talk as if you’ve known each other for years. That’s good ‘chemistry’. 😊

That’s unfortunate. It’s sucks to lose so much time and energy over a relationship that didn’t end well.

Everyone should put effort into their relationships, but if you’re compatible, it should feel more natural and less painstaking.

That’s why finding someone who loves you for you is important. And I hope you find that.

[Ironic_Method]

What's the timeframe on this? The way I see it, most people will be someone they're not for the first 3-6 months. Then you'll see the real them. The first little bit is people peacocking and trying to impress, to make themselves look better than the rest. But that's not sustainable.

[Sweetsurprize]

Wow if that's the case, are having relationships even worth it anymore? Geez. If people have the gall to WASTE my time and just pretend for that long, how dare they!

[Ironic_Method]

It's not always intentional, it's just the NRE carries their fervor for the first little bit. People *want* it to work and ignore incompatibilities until the honeymoon phase wears off.

[Sweetsurprize]

NRE? And me liking the color pink and him hating it, or me disliking sushi and him liking it, SHOULDN'T be a deal breaker! ... Anyway..

[shortster]

Typically a switch like that requires cheating; either on his part or yours.

[spartan55]

He probably wasn't seeing any effort from you, and he grew tired of it.

[Sweetsurprize]

He hardly gave me a chance, and what do you mean by effort? I gave him PLENTY of admiration and love as well, invited him to my house multiple times, gave him good handjobs, spent my time and energy with him, tried to be the best girlfriend, etc. you have no idea, please don't assume.

[Christoff92]

Have no idea. Different personalities assuming

[Anonymous]

what did you do to hurt him?

[Sweetsurprize]

So it's always about him now? There have been things he's done to hurt me but I was very quick to forgive for the sake of the relationship working!

[Opinion Owner]

what did he do?