Guys, When should I set my limit?

[Cali86]

So lately my boyfriend and I have been having problems. As a result we've grown distant. I still love him and want it to work. So I decided to get closer to him, put aside my ego and try and spend more time with him and help him w/what he needs. That way we can make our way back. But I've noticed I'm making the effort. He has things going on in his life and I understand. But I feel like he couldn't be bothered right now that our relationship is going downhill.

So we get little alone time since we both have kids. So when we first started dating, if we had evenings just to ourselves we'd spend it together. But tonight for example, he didn't even bring up where we're sleeping. I had to ask him. And then the next night, I was going to come over, he didn't ask if I was sleeping over. I mentioned I would be leaving and he didn't care.

I don't know where my limit should be? Am I overreacting?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay yo ay yo ma, slow ya roll for a second aight? Fo' one, breath - this stress ain't good for nobody.

Real talk, I feel ya frustrations 100%, but stormin into recklessness ain't it either feel me? Y'all both goin through the motions, emotions runnin high on both sides fa sho.

Seem like homeboy bein distant cuz he stressed n need his space maybe. But homie prolly still care, just strugglin to show it right now. Y'all been through a lot, trust take time to heal.

For now, ease off a little. Don't be doin all the heavy liftin while he restin up - that'll breed resentment fa sho. Keep lines of communication open tho, let dude know you there when he ready.

If weeks go by n still radio silence tho, then it's prolly boundary time ya feel me? For ya own good mentals.

But for now give it some breathe room. Y'all history run deep - few bumps ain't enough to slam the breaks overnight. Stay strong boo - you got this! Xo