Why are people ok with loveless relationships?

Question

i am not sure if maybe its because i am french but i could never date someone i dont love yet everyone else is doing it.

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

People make decisions for their own personal reasons. Those reasons won't necessarily make sense to others, but they make perfect sense to them. If something doesn't make sense to us, we won't make that decision. Sometimes people get in relationships for security or prestige or power or in order to prove something, or to avoid being alone, or seeing it as giving them access to something more important, or just wanting to be a parent and not interested in being a partner, or a simple solution for warming their toes on a cold night. Let's say you, as a straight person, can't understand how someone could be in a same sex relationship. Just because it doesn't make sense to you, don't assume it doesn't make sense to others.

Sometimes it can be due to different definitions for common words. For instance, some people may define love as sex, while others define it as a special connection. An asexual person may be perfectly happy with a platonic relationship. Always make sure to learn how people define important words rather than just assume their definitions must be the same as yours. Sometimes one person may be satisfied, as his/her needs are being met, and there is no thought about whether the partner's needs are being met. In other words, "I'm meeting my needs, so you should meet yours."

Sometimes people don't discover until after they commit that something significant is missing in the relationship. This often occurs as a result of people pretending they're one thing (in order to get chosen), though not expecting to maintain that thing after the other person is hooked (ie maintaining a career or staying in shape). In these situations, some people see starting over as more stressful than just tolerating what exist. Some people are very uncomfortable with change of any kind. People tend to gravitate toward what is familiar, not necessarily what is functional.

Kris31 · Accepted Answer

I think there's bunch of reasons.
First would be people don't like to be lonely and can't learn or handle being alone.

A worse one is that you get someone so you can drag her / him around as a trophy to show off because that's the kind of character you have.

Next one on the fly that comes to my mind is finances like moving in together with someone you date just because living expenses get halved.

From personal experience I think it's terrible all of those above And I couldn't live like that. Like sure I'm from time to time lonely alone after my break up but I wouldn't date anyone just for above mentioned stuff.

nastyb · Accepted Answer

because you don't realize that most relationships do change over time.

If everyone divorced every single time their feelings changed... there will be no families. Everyone will be divorcing... families will be broken everywhere.

you can't go through life thinking that you will throw away a relationship anytime you feel like it... you will just go through an endless cycle of partners through life. you're constantly trying to look for someone better than the last.

there will be no such thing as family if you keep changing husbands.

you will never get married if you keep trying to find that "perfect man".

Because in the vast majority of cases, the "perfect man" doesn't exist for most of us.

Not everyone is going to find their soulmate or prince charming.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I don’t know.  For me it’s important to have deep feelings with someone I am with.

Bruce24 · Answer

Maybe they where in love in the begining but somewhere along the way the love Faded and they just stayed with each other. Because of children or thinking thats the best that they can do. Also it is hard to find a good partner, someone that will commit, stay loyal and somewhat responsible. One think to also keep in mind is the honeymoon fase last about 5 to 8 months. It's not that they aren't in love any more after that fase it's just the fact that they've became comfortable with each other. Not having the desire to cling to the other like they did at the beginning of the relationship. It's not a bad thing that that fase is over it just the fact that they have are secure in a long term relationship. But they should still love each other. If they don't then there probably doing it for the kids or the old saying the devil you know is better than the devil you don't know.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I've noticed that a lot of people drift through life. They do a lot of things that they don't really want to do because it's not an actively unpleasant thing for them to do. They make lots of decisions like that and just lose track of the years.

Kudos4U · Answer

In American culture, lust has taken priority over love. People want instant gratification because they don't want or can't handle the responsibility of a genuine stable relationship.

Its like gambling away your money because slot machines are more fun than stocks.

ohmyguy · Answer

like which ones

how do you know

what about all the hidden love compartments

people stuff those to the rim

and because people aren't show casing public physical forms of it flashing it around like a digital store light for all to. marval at.. doesn't seem unfair to claim its loveless

prakhindev92 · Answer

Hook up culture , i really do not wish to opinion! , But! , the car who has run too much doesn't have value over time , but the driver has value , because he drew a lot of different cars , you know , i could have said it nasty , but I am gonna be a little decent😊

Daniela1982 · Answer

You don't date a person you love, you date people to find out if you share values. Then after dating a while you may find out you are in love, but it isn't after a few dates.

Samhanks · Answer

I can never be Ok with loveless relationships ! Relationships not based on love tend to go sour because the person who does not love me in return can easily resort to hurting me, displaying anger, showing resentment, etc. or at any point of time, start hating me? Who would like that>? You expect to get back what you give out. If i give out Hate, I will be hated.

ronaldo75 · Answer

Real relationships are rare these days. Today people just want a body to say they're "going out with" but in reality it's window dressing. People are too self-aborbed in social media and their own desires to truly commit to another person anymore.

Hanrej · Answer

Because it's comfortable. Love makes a relationship difficult. It needs constant care, thinking about eachother and trying to read minds for one or the other not to feel like love is lost and it's time to move on.

Exhausting beyond reason and stands in the way of your self care and improvement.

allaboutyou2 · Answer

Some people "don't want to be alone" but when you are with someone who doesn't love you can bring the worst feelings of aloneness.
One doesn't have to be by one self to feel alone.
I don't have to be in a relationship or even be loved by another to feel love, I love myself, who I am, how I treat others etc. Loving yourself is the one important step to finding true lasting happiness.

Fireguy17 · Answer

To them it's better than being alone.
It also could be because that is the environment that they grew up in, so that just seems normal to them, they don't know anything else which is very sad.
Life is short, why not be happy.

eds99 · Answer

Without love there is no heartbreak when it's over... Let's face it in this day and age nobody makes it. I used to believe they did , my wife and I made 24 years and she cheated and lied about it and. As far as I knew she walked on water and would never hurt me she showed me what true heartbreak is.

StormChaser838 · Answer

when you mean " loveless ", what do you mean ma'am, a relationship without affection for each other, or a relationship that is celibate?

shadowarrior99 · Answer

Personality difference -- some people are very emotional and care about love and some just dont. As someone who loves very deeply , it's strange to even considered something like that, like it's just business

lightbulb27 · Answer

define love... and what are those deep feelings really? and is that really true?

inhua · Answer

love can only exist when the two partners are physically attracted to one another

gayesblog · Answer

Are they? Actually I don't believe that I can be ok with loveless relationship :(

Jkgordon · Answer

A lot of people just want to be 3D have a mate one that pay bills a reg sex partner someone to talk about at work phony family conversations

Nik1hil · Answer

Well its is better than an empty house and asking questions like, "What is your favorite color?".

strateguy632 · Answer

if they share a home, better room mate than move out.

Anonymous · Answer

They're getting what they want from the relationship (sex, money, security, green card) and it isn't love.

Lynx122 · Answer

I'm not I'm good at being alone and I'll only be with someone if it's a good relationship.

no_feet_pics · Answer

Maybe because they are afraid to be alone, and lack confidence or self esteem, financial reasons, scared... not valid reasons, but oh well.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Love is there it’s just not the way they expected  just like how porn is completely different from real sex  true love is nothing like the fantasy in your head

MJtheCoach · Answer

those who are not likable will jump into any relationships to avoid their own thoughts. Blaming the other person. This is why relationships don't work in the West.

Guido · Answer

You have to date and get to know each other in order to fall in love. You don't fall in love with someone and then want to date them. That's backwards.

Anonymous · Answer

Because I don’t want to be alone and sometimes I can lie to myself enough to believe the men who fuck me actually love me. For some of us that’s as close to love as we will ever get.

Anonymous · Answer

What does being french have to do with it lol, but obviously its not just you who is not okay with a loveless relationship but some people are because theyd choose anything else over being alone.

Starrrboy · Answer

Because usually people care about the benefits more... Not the actual person.. " that's life " and all...

Backstage_ · Answer

People need some sexual needs but all these are virtual and temporary so they make nonsense ever. True love matters a lot.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

That sounds more like an arrangement than a relationship

SolitarySolace · Answer

Probably because love hurts too much but people are too stupid to jst stay single

fuddly · Answer

I think i know something about this . Better the devil you know . Loyalty . The children . Cost of housing

LunarEclipse433 · Answer

When you have been with someone for a long time you have so many bonds together. Love and sex left many years ago. I know sad

blondfrog · Answer

I have no idea I just want the 5 points lol.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

because very few people understand what being in a relationship is all about

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Because they think it's better than a loveless no relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Because for them it's more about the image. They don't really care if thier partner loves them so long as the play the part.

PeterLegg91 · Answer

The attention and company , gets you through your day

Guardian45 · Answer

I have NO idea why anyone would be involved in a loveless relationship!

krin_m · Answer

No one should be OK with loveless relationships.

zillllll · Answer

It’s a trauma thing wanting to do so much just to feel acknowledged.

boggboss · Answer

Because people don't want to be lonely

Anonymous · Answer

Just settling and in it for finances. Some people are afraid to be single and their pos family members force them into relationships.

Nephilim000 · Answer

Because the fear being alone much more

sheikalana · Answer

By relationships you mean marriage?

OddBeMe · Answer

What does nationality have to do with emotions?

CubaPirate · Answer

Whale oil beef hooked if I know

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I won't be in a loveless relationship

Raghce · Answer

Because of Social obligation

Anonymous · Answer

never said i was

Anonymous · Answer

Because love doesn't exist...

shades777 · Answer

says who

pethouse · Answer

I would not know

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