I've known this guy for years years before he and his 1st BM got 2gether and had a child. We saw each other on a fling back then so before her time. Somehow our paths separated and he found her and I found a boyfriend. Me and my boyfriend broke up at the time and this guy went after me again. Him & her was broken up at that time. So fast forward we started seeing each other for 3 years and I found out about them having a child together and he would say nah they not together and blah blah. I believed him and I fell inlove with him. We never stopped seeing one another. Then he started fully investing in me and bought me gifts and asked me to be his girlfriend as they were broken up at the time. He took me to his mom and she didn't seem very fond of me but she knew we had something on. So fast forward he would take me out on dates buy me gifts and stuff. Yeah we made many memories. Beach days just outgoing and fun. I would meet his friends and so. Fast forward we started getting serious this year. And he straight up told me he wants to make me pregnant and we planned the child. Obviously I told him many times he must first marry me before we have 1 because that's how I wanted things. We had sex and I gave into it as I also really did want a baby. So I'm currently pregnant of this man. They werent together went we made the child. He seemed pretty invested into this and was so excited and there for me tru everything since we found out. He helped me financially tru alles. got me a new bed. we had many more plans man. Went with me to the scan recently and this was just last week. This week on Monday this day I just couldn't get a hold of him and I was getting suspicious and I had her number on my phone so I called her. Guess what I found out she is over at his house cause I heard his voice in the background. I immediately called things off with him cause I knew what this was and all he said to me was :'Let me know when you give birth. I won't let you do it alone' devasted.
Why would a guy leave his 1st baby momma to go and be with the other lady and get her pregnant and went back to his 1st baby mom? I can't understand?
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I mean, this dude gave all the flags that he was not someone to open legs for really.
I am so heartbroken how a man can't even think or imagined what a woman goes through when being pregnant and with his child all of the stress and emotions he makes me go through and this unbothered behaviour
they never experience it so why would they? especially an immature and dick of a man like that.
Okay.
He still has my name tattood on him on his chest and everything
refer back to immature part. That he ever got that tattoo'd should have shown you he was unstable in every sense.
Okay thanks for the advice. I think I'm ready to let go of this man now. This is the last straw. I'm pregnant and it will be tough times but I'm ready to let go. I do see him now as immature and selfish and he has a lot of work to do. So his first baby momma can have him. I'll be single until I'm ready one day when my child is old enough to go out in the dating world. I also feel like going to court for non support and stuff is a waste of my time. Like I just wanna live in peace be in peace and not bother nobody. Think my child will have to grow up telling another man daddy other than him because I don't feel like he is fit to raise my child in any sense with that messy behaviour and negative image and light. So I'm letting it all go.
TOO MUCH STRESS AND DRAMA
Because he is an idiot, and those women are idiots for taking him back and for having kids with him.
He will probably do that again and again.
Thanks but I've learned my lesson. Even though I'm pregnant rn but he went back to his first baby momma. Nah don't think they back together really but he is sleeping with her and spending time with her. While I'm pregnant and didn't know about it and he thought I'd never find out. I'm super done yeah I'm hurt but I will get over it.
Hoping for the best for you in the future.
Thank you so much