When people cheat why is it that the first thing they say is "it just happened and it meant nothing"?

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ChiTown33 · Accepted Answer

Because they know saying "I was in the moment, and they were giving at the time what you were unwilling or unable to, and I was feeling selfish and thinking only about me and what I wanted". Wouldn't go go over very well with thier partner. Even if it IS the truth. So they just remi d thier partner that they still have feelings for thier partner that run much deeper then the person they cheated with (if they have any feelings for that person at all). Which may be true. But they clearly don't love their partner. Or have a very selfish, warped view of love. Because you don't cheat on someone you claim to love. There is no defense for it, EVER! NONE!

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

People could say, "I met her, I thought about it for awhile, I decided it was worth risking my marriage/relationship, I fucked her, it felt great, I love her, and her pussy is much better than yours."

But that's probably not gonna happen!

Apple1996 · Answer

They are guilty and don't know what other excuses to use since there are no good excuses for cheating

Chevy1_kb · Answer

to make it look to you as if it was a mistake and your the only one i love but if he did love you he wouldn't go with another women to start with some men mean it and don't do it again but mostly of them they just say it to get a 2 way when the other one is not there if there horny at least that was the shit my ex hit me with i live you all the time he said after a year he started cheating then cheated on her aswel no ma type a guy so that's how we just remain friends even though i shouldn't even stay his friend he doesn't deserve it but he was generous now and then making breakfast for me let me help myself to stuff in his mum's house hold me if I took a sezuire i helped him to though watched over him if he was ill head rubs back rubs shoulder ones play with his hair and just say to him yeah that it just relax ahhh I just relax get wee sleep or clean up his mum's house for him do the dishes Hoover make his bed now thats why i remained his friend but that no excuse for him hitting me and calling me hurtfull names thretning me dangerously i didn't take his shit though i hit him back aswel a dont let anyone away with shit or trying to buily me or take the piss av never lost a fight in my life and a won't let anyone either a don't give in till I win

Finchie40 · Answer

Because they know they are a piece of shit , and they know they were wrong , Most cheaters can’t admit to themselves that they were wrong , they usually point fingers at their partner and blame them for the reason they cheated in the first place , When a cheater doesn’t have a reason to blame their partner , they make up another lame excuse for their selfish actions. Sadly cheating has been happening for centuries , with today’s world with cell phones , Cell phones just made it easier for people to do to each other. But little do cheaters realize , is their cell phone can also get them busted as well , So if you suspect someone is cheating on you and they aren’t being honest with you , get a hold of their phone and you will probably get all the evidence you need if you want to go down that road , That’s how I busted my ex wife that was cheating on me and I was able to take her ass down in court for being a cheating whore. Don’t think you are safe on your phone what so ever

Barbievan · Answer

Because it was purely physical for the moment of attention. Peoples sex drives are through the roof and sometimes it just that.
see The person they're doing the cheating with isn't a anything great, they just were hot for them and there at the right (or shall I say wrong...) moment of weakness. Just because I bone someone doesn't mean they're the love of my life or marry them... it was just some playing around.

Fireguy17 · Answer

adding even more lies does not solve the problem.
You know it was wrong as soon as you started, and you know exactly how it happened.
If it didn't mean anything why didn't you tell your partner what you were up to or why did you do it in the first place?
I'm going out and get laid tonight, it doesn't mean anything and do you need anything from the store on my way home?
Ya that would go over just fine.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

I thought the first response should be "It's not what it looks like!"? :-P

electromagnetic · Answer

Sounds like guilt to me.
Cheating is foul. I’d rather just get broken up without an explanation than cheated.
I think when guilty people get caught, they’ll do anything to make their choices justifiable. Similarly to them saying ‘I’m sorry’ when most of the time they’re sorry for getting caught. Not committing the act.

normalice · Answer

I think cheating (or at least getring caught cheating) might be an point of enlightenment to some people. They didn't realize they even had feelings about someone until they could satisfy their need to find more ass then could step back from their own sex drive and realize it wasn't really what they wanted all along.

inhua · Answer

what's funny is how much society preaches anti-cheating but practice pro-cheating much like they preach anti-bullying but practice pro-bullying

msc545 · Answer

Well I suppose they have to say something. This seems as good as any other stupid thing they could say.

Bitterness · Answer

When someone who has cheated on their partner says, "It just happened and it meant nothing," they may be offering a common explanation or justification for their actions. This statement can be understood in several ways, although it's important to note that people's motivations for cheating can vary widely, and not everyone will use this particular phrase or reasoning.

RobT312 · Answer

I didn’t say that…I was honest. Not sure that’s an honest answer, it’s a guilty one

exitseven · Answer

They are always sorry after they get caught.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Because they're trying to make excuses for their behavior.

Staximus · Answer

It sure as hell means something to the person who was cheated on

FreyaRed · Answer

because it means nothing when the person who was cheated realizes real love was never a topic in relationship with the person who cheated

zoe2187 · Answer

Because if they said it was meaningful you’d get caught! If you said it was planned you’d get dumped.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Don't they say "i slipped and it went inside her"?

Nikki1989 · Answer

Or they use the “it was only sex” line.

Libarena · Answer

If it meant nothing, why do it?

When people cheat why is it that the first thing they say is "it just happened and it meant nothing"?

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