Do you think a relationship where the woman loves more will work?

[justkoala]

relationship

[dynamicyandere]

There are downsides to both.


If a guy loves too much, he may lose the interest of a woman who isn’t as invested.


If a girl loves too much, she may lose the interest of a man who isn’t as invested.


It’s important to both be in the same headspace when it comes to emotional investment.


Instead of thinking about who loves who more, both should just love without keeping score.


It’s not a 80/20 or 20/80 or even 50/50, but a 100/100 mentality that is going to make a relationship strong.


Just love. Without keeping score.


Be a giver that finds another giver, and you’ll find love that lasts.

[dynamicyandere]

Can it work? It depends on what you mean by ‘work’.

There are plenty of marriages where it’s pretty one-sided. Where one spouse cares more than the other. But those marriages are never very happy.

It takes 2 people to be both fully invested for a happy marriage.

[caring__1]

Any imbalance in a relationship will cause you to have to work unrealistically hard to hold everything together. Would it be easier for you to carry a million marbles in your hands or in a jar? Never assume others will change for you. What you see as an insignificant change that should be easy to make could be seen by the other person as you expecting him to change his basic essence. Other people are as likely to change their basic essence as you are to change your basic essence. You will always feel happier and more fulfilled in a relationship with someone who enjoys and appreciates you as you are, rather than for the potential you can become. For every type of person, there are people who appreciate that type of person. Be true to yourself, and you'll find an amazing connection. Never settle... just to be in a relationship.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Terrible advice.

[_Maya_]

Hiya and welcome! To answer the question no that doesn't work. Relationships are all about equal effort. There isn't a way to measure or calculate love or any emotion for that matter but you can see effort. If one person is always the one putting forth the effort and the other person doesn't that isn't a good sign. The one always doing those little things to show their partner how much they care is eventually going to get tired of not seeing anything back. Both should show how much they care about the other. People do it in different ways but you can always tell when they do.

[Charliefretz329]

💯 % agree with this. Both sides should give 100%. It’s not 50-50

[Rei13]

It should be around equal for both parties even if one loves a little more than the other. If there is a huge imbalance where either the man or woman loves the other a lot more (like 80% one and 20% the other) that relationship is probably destined to fail and even if it does work that is unfair on the person putting in so much more. Don’t settle for that. Go for a relationship that is fulfilling to both parties

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope. Men like to be the ones who love more. If you show them love, they don’t know what to do with it. Let him love you and enjoy it, I guess.

[Vegasrunner]

@lafemmefatale_1 That's kinda how the average relationship works today and most of them fail. If the woman doesn't love you more you can expect the relationship to not work. I'm fact the evidence shows that women want to be the one that love more.

[Radiate143]

@Vegasrunner yes, we do BUT it usually ends up in the man devaluing us so smart women know not to make the man know we do even if we do love him more. If a man thinks you will mever leave he will instantly start taking advantage. Forst in small ways then in bigger ways until he loses all respect.

[Vegasrunner]

@Radiate143 The evidence doesn't back that up. Women leave relationships about 4x as much as men. If a man loves a woman more he instantly puts himself into the same category as all the other simps that provide free attention to females. Men that have success w/ women make it clear early on that that woman can replaced and when women understand this they are much more likely to fall in line?

[Radiate143]

@Vegasrunner that's nice.

[Vegasrunner]

@Radiate143 TY, it's just easier to operate and have success w/ women as a man when you adhere to those principles

[Radiate143]

If the man appreciates it and is respectful and loving in return even if less. Not taking her love as a reason to take advantage of her then there is no issue. But I think it changes. Sometimes he man loves more then the woman will. It's fluid.

[Joshydavid25]

You can't love a person more based on how actual love works.. You either love somebody or you don't.. No relationship works when anybody is more invested than the other.. Although it has been shown that if women are not as invested the relationship usually does break apart as opposed to men..

[HippoDino]

I don't know what love more means. If they are both in love then they are both in love, which means they would do almost anything to please the other. One doesn't simply do more if they are both trying their hardest to please eachother.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

That’s basically every heterosexual relationship I’ve ever seen. It works for a long, long time, the man usually won’t leave a woman who takes such great care of him, at least until he finds out he can do better.

[Chthou95]

That's how it should be. The relationships last longer when the woman is more invested. When a guy is more invested, the woman gets bored and thinks he's desperate. The woman should always feel like she can easily be replaced to keep it going

[justkoala]

This is a different and beautiful point of view.

[Chthou95]

Oh people aren't going to like this opinion of mine lol but it has validity to it

[Chthou95]

@oksoundsgood I dont care. Im talking in the general sense.

[Chthou95]

@oksoundsgood I've had enough to learn about them. Men have to understand women if they want to be succesful. And i never listen to what women say, i listen to what they respond to

[Chthou95]

@oksoundsgood They knew enough and had experiences to learn how to attract women. It worked. Women contradict their words with their actions which is why men should pay attention to what women respond to rather than words because actions are the most consistent way to figure out something

[Chthou95]

And should i get a pillow and lay down and tell you about my parents while you write it down?

[Chthou95]

@oksoundsgood most men dont get laid. What are you talking about?

[Chthou95]

And i can have love for a woman but ill never fall in love

[Chthou95]

@oksoundsgood Yes i do. But most men dont and i dont use myself as the exception because exceptions dont disprove the rule. And i can have a relationship but i will never fall in love

[Chthou95]

@oksoundsgood And you're not asking me these questions to try and understand me. You're asking these questions to see if there's any dirt you could throw at me. Come on now lol

[Chthou95]

@oksoundsgood I'm calm. Usually though those kind of questions are asked and usually it's tied to a "Who hurt you?". And i know them better than they know themselves. I have to know them better than they do to be successful..

[Chthou95]

@oksoundsgood Be successful at attracting them and getting my foot in the door. And a wome can say she knows what she likes or wants but that doesn't mean anything when the actions tell a different story. Men would listen to women more on what they want if it was consistent with their actions but most of the time it isn't. So a man that attracts women knows them better than they do because he had to learn what they are actually attracted and turned on by. Men need skill to attract women and that's knowing her better than she does

[Chthou95]

@oksoundsgood What are you trying to figure out here?

[Chthou95]

@oksoundsgood a lot of women don't like the man chasing after them or giving a lot of attention. They want a man who doesn't give them a lot of attention and let's them miss them. Women want men they can't control. They like a man who's a challenge and doesn't give her what she wants. It fascinates her and turns her on

[Chthou95]

@oksoundsgood I've just been dating women. Women aren't as unique as they think they are. All are pretty similar. Same thing with men. Most people are pretty ordinary and not special. Women are attracted to men who dont give them attention. You can say all this "Not all women are like that" blah blah blah. In general women want men that aren't chasing them or giving them a lot of attention

[Chthou95]

@oksoundsgood I dont know

[Chthou95]

@oksoundsgood Yes i am

[Peanut_Lemon]

Already tried it and no, it usually turns out bad on both ends. A relationship shouldn't be one person pushing the whole relationship. If so, a girl can date herself, and take herself on a date.

[Anonymous]

I think in the West any halfway decent guy would be SHOCKED if that were to happen... because the only guys that seem to get that treatment from them are deadbeats, baby daddies behind on child support, drug dealers, wannabe gangsters and bums. ALL of those kinds of guys have multiple kids, there's your proof of how highly desired they are in the West. Any decent guy would be VERY appreciative, because he'd be STUNNED.

[ZackBan]

It's the only one that can work.

If the love is equal or the man loves more the relationship is doomed.

It's sad but very true when you factor in social dynamics

[boggboss]

When we say love more what does that intell or truly mean like he simply don't care asmuch or he settled like what

[jahaims]

Willing to sacrifice more for the other person than they are for you is how I would describe the situation.

[boggboss]

I dono no would be my guess for a relationship to work both parties need to be willing to do so

[jahaims]

Both obviously make sacrifices in a healthy relationship, but the one who is "more in love" will sacrifice more.

[boggboss]

But what I mean is are we in a situation where they both do this but one might do it more or is she the only one that does if both are doing ao and are happy in the relationship I dont feel it would be a problom but too much is left open here

[Minahh]

No. Actually it's set for a failure most of the time. She will do everything he wants her to do, he has her wrapped around his finger and play with her emotions easily, leaving her devasted and possibly also discarding her.

[Nikki1989]

That never works. Men who think this will always struggle in relationships.

[Anonymous]

no. never does. she'll be waiting forever for anything serious to happen. doubt she'll ever get engaged since she's the one who loves him more. awful.

[Kayla45]

Loves more than the guy she's with? Not at all, that's very much a one sided relationship.

[Unit1]

Yes of course.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/ZAfPqcBmnTM

[milademjay]

Thats the only way that it will work. If a guy likes the girl more than she likes him. game over.

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[LiamJHayden]

"Loves more" just sounds weird to me.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Yes they are the best kind of relationships

the woman needs to love more

[Agape93]

Nope. Welcome to the site

[justkoala]

Hey! Thanks

[Agape93]

Hopefully the site isn't too bad to you. Because holy hell it gets rough

[justkoala]

Everything's fine no problem

[butterly248]

Hi new admin! Welcome to gag ❤️

[justkoala]

Hey! Thanks :)

[Anonymous]

It'll work better than the other way round but ideally there shouldn't be any imbalance at all.

[shades777]

thats pretty vague, what is this "love more"?

[justkoala]

So it's kind of like an addiction to devote yourself to this relationship by sacrificing more and revealing everything.

[shades777]

like being vulnerable

[Billlewis]

In most cases, I would say no.

[Dargil]

Love should not be measured.

[RingOfFire]

Has to be mutual.

[Redstang88]

That’s the only way it will work

[In_Trance]

It could

[justkoala]

But how does it work?

[In_Trance]

Everyone is different so there's no answer for that

[DreamLife7]

Nope

[Kristierose]

Yes I do

[okquy]

No ❤️