My ex and his new girlfriend are replicating personal things we did in a quarter of the time we did them?

[pyalex8]

Me and my ex broke up back in April after 18mths and i still care deeply for him. Within weeks he was dating/sleeping with someone. Despite feeling like there was still love there, I wasn’t surprised to hear he was moving on as he is someone that can’t be alone and as far as I’m aware she is someone he knew before and a friend of a friend so i see how it has all happened. I was devastated to hear he was moving on as for me it was a right person wrong time thing but it’s actually what came next that hurt more. I heard the new girlfriend had got the same tattoo that me and him both have to mark the death of his dog back in March 2022. Next I heard she was wearing a necklace with his Initials on after he gifted me a necklace at Christmas with the first letter of his name on. Part of me thought perhaps these are both coincidences especially as I don’t know who initiated either situations, I. e. if it was him she wouldn’t have known that I had either. However since then she has slowly started following my friends on her business Instagram account… I know it sounds pathetic and I shouldn’t care but I can’t get my head around firstly why they seems to be replicating things me and him did over 18 months in just 4 months of knowing each other and secondly why she is following my friends who she knows are not going to come to her for business. Why is it not enough that she has the man we both have feelings for? Like I said this could all be a coincidence but with everything that’s happened over the past few months I’m just questioning everything. I truly do believe we loved each other a lot so it really hurts that they (whoever’s idea it was) are trying to replace what we did together. I think I’m in the accepting stage of my breakup but things like this just play on my mind and eat away at me no matter how much people tell me to not let it get to me. I want to feel at peace with it all. It’s hard enough watching an ex move on super quick but replicating the things we did..

[Sabsies]

I think it depends on what type of person he is. Maybe he's doing it to spite you, or maybe he's doing those things again because they did mean something to him and he wants to recreate that feeling.

Either way, try not to think too much about it. A fresh breakup, especially after being together so long, is going to sting no matter what way you look at it. Even if he wasn't recreating things with someone new, he'd be doing new things.

Don't hold yourself up by following in their story when yours still needs to be written. Do what you need to to allow yourself to heal and grow from the situation. It won't be easy, but don't make it harder on yourself.

[Avicenna]

This is really not a positive thing that you’re thinking about this. Your time and energy would be much better spent on things that don’t have you thinking about an ex.

[Anonymous]

You need to move on and ignore trivial things like this.

[Anonymous]

Go to professional counseling