Can a toxic relationship be fixed or is it better to break up?

[Lisia]

[Finchie40]

If it’s toxic then you are best to walk away , only if you know for a fact , that you aren’t toxic as well , A relationship takes 2 people , 2 people that should be choosing each other over everyone else , period , not the other way around , Most people assume they are always right and their partner is wrong , so if you aren’t pointing fingers at yourself first before pointing them at your partner , then that makes you just as wrong as well and makes you a selfish person , if you aren’t wearing your partner’s shoes the same way you expect them to wear yours, then your relationship Neil not last , it needs to go both ways or the relationship will not survive. Most people in general have a very hard time admitting to themselves that they are wrong , it’s usually always their partner’s fault no matter what. So if you have that type of mindset and a tendency to always blame your partner for things that go wrong then you will keep continuing having failed relationships , because you will always think you are right and never wrong. You can’t always get your way in a relationship, understand you are no longer single anymore , so no matter what decisions you make in life you are best to always include your partner in those decisions as well , not just assume things always have to go your way , Most people that are in relationships project their own insecurities onto their partner without realizing it , Understand you are not perfect , nobody is, we all make mistakes and sometimes we make stupid choices , when you learn to remove selfishness from within yourself , it makes it easier for your partner to remove selfishness from within themselves for you , without that, you have nothing , the relationship was a total waste of time. For love to grow between 2 people , both people have to choose each other over everyone else in this world , over your friends, over your family etc. if you can not do that for your partner, do not expect them to do that for you period.

[RingOfFire]

Toxic relationships can be fixed, but I am not sure it is worth the sacrifice to do it in many cases. In my case my most toxic relationship was with my father. He was a very tough man and difficult to get along with. He pretty much alienated everyone in our family. My older sibling didn't want to have anything to do with him after they moved out at age 18 and had virtually no relationship with him after that. They still remain angry with him to this day.

When I tell you he was a difficult man to get along with, I mean it. And he was a professional in medicine. You'd think he'd have people skills since he dealt with his patients all day. Hard for his family to believe... but all his patients loved him. Maybe that's why he was always so rough with his family... he had to hide his bad side all day with his patients.

Anyway, long story short it took me my entire adult life until he passed away at age 97 just a few years ago to get to a point where I was able to mend the relationship. And it never would have happened if I had not sacrificed everything in my life to take care of him in his last years. In his final times, he somehow found it in his heart to apologize to me for all he put the family through and actually showed appreciation to me for what I had done for him and I found a way to forgive him which I never thought would be possible. It was some kind of miracle because I had never heard him apologize for anything in his entire life. He also did something else I never heard him do and told me about his father and how he was mistreated by him which really was the turning point for me in understanding why he was the way he was. I paid dearly to achieve this result with my father, but to me it was the greatest accomplishment of my life.

Toxic relationships can be mended, but it can take one hell of a toll on you to do it and unless you have the strength and maturity to achieve it you should think twice about whether it is worth it or not.

[AmandaYVR]

The crux is what one labels "toxic". It is a wildly overused term nowadays. It's therapyspeak used to bolster and militarize one stance, one person's point of view, very often. It's too subjective to be quickly and easily conclusive.

Culture is changing, and more people are putting their hands up and feet down. This could be good in some cases, and it can be highly intolerant in other cases.

[Apple1996]

I think it depends on why it's toxic. Somethings are small and can be fixed. Other things are big issues that won't be fixed

[HeartRob25]

Small things can't be toxic
Talk some sense.

[love_conquers_lust]

@HeartRob25 They in fact can be toxic, like your opinion.

[caring__1]

When we see things as challenges, they can be addressed and overcome. When we see them as obstacles, they become impassable. Once the label of toxic has been applied, the door is closed, as this would be an unhealthy relationship, not just one with challenges. There's no such thing as a little toxic. That's like saying a person is a little dead. It is or it isn't. Be cautious about applying labels to anything, as those labels can very well determine the future.

[AviatorTom]

Some toxic relationships can be fixed, but only when both partners are committed to the relationship. Most of the time in a toxic relationship, at least one of the partners is not fully committed to the relationship, and if you find yourself in a non-committed toxic relationship, it may be better to break up and find someone else.

[Paris13]

From My Recent Experience, Toxic is No Good and W@ill Not Change. Break Up. xxoo

[Billlewis]

I think it depends on how much the relationship is worth to you and your partner. Some relationships, no matter how challenging they may be to maintain, are just simply too good to let go of, so we do what we have to do to keep them working properly.

[Chevy1_kb]

Walk away forever my toxic relationship because of my ex put me into therapy I got through we remained friends he has two girlfriends we feel fuck all for each other In the living way it took me a long time to not have any feeling for him and a don't want to again and before you say it because we remain friends will not encourage me to want him back if he doesn't feel anything for me as a friend fuck it I can just be as tough

[Sunssong]

Yeah and easily. Even over night. Both people have to want too and the problem has to be clear. Requires a lot of discipline though. @Lisia Basically I disagree with @Matadorius

If a relationship is toxic it became that way from lack of direction, discipline, and or accurate thought. Talking about normal people.

Discipline is easy if you understand it. If you don't it's almost impossible to change long term.

[Matadorius]

What you said is already close to what I said. If the problem is independent and solvable between two people, then it can be solved through dialogue. But if the problem is completely related to character, I'm afraid that relationship will end because character settles into people after the age of 7 and generally does not change.

[Princessvarsha]

Break up dear..

toxic relationship are very bad, person get into depression and all stuffs.

so if you are going through it. Kindly leave the person. Or else it will spoil your life.

dear i have seen my friend going through this it’s very difficult believe me.

[Peter_Penetrator]

Better to just break up.


Toxic behavior is difficult for those individuals to recognize it in themselves.


Pointing it out to them makes them defensive.


Toxic people deflect.


Sort of like an addict or alcoholic. They first must admit it to themselves.

[Curiousminds2017]

If you don’t have children with him then absolutely break up. You don’t owe him your peace and happiness.
Your growth, peace and happiness is significantly important. Sacrificing it would be a high price to pay for his feelings.

Unless there is a child or children whom you need to think about, then leave him without a second thought. Drop the relationship completely.

[PeachesNCream98]

I rather be single than be in a toxic relationship. I was in a toxic relationship with my ex girlfriend. All she wanted to do was get drunk, argue, and cheat on me with other guys. Not only would she cheat on me, she would compliment and flirt with other guys in front of me.

I am glad that I longer have to deal with that noxious behavior.

[Matadorius]

It also depends on why the relationship has become toxic. If the frequency between the two is generally good but some issues wear out the relationship, the relationship can be improved if a dialogue is established on empathy and mutual understanding regarding those issues. However, if the problem is about things that cannot be changed easily, such as the person's character structure, perspective on life, habits, temperament, and behaviors, that relationship will not last long.

[AmeerX]

better to break up but before you do it's always better to get second or third opinion and think with a cool head.

Is something bothering you?

[Lisia]

No, I'm fine, thank you! 😊

[AmeerX]

Great 💯 )).

[Selliebeanz]

It depends on certain factors. Both have to want to lay their sword down. Love has to be the motivation for both to change. Compromise has to be there.

[hopegirly]

i think it is better to break up. It is very hard ro rebuild a toxic relationship, usually the person who made bad for us will not change at this point, in my opinion

[Friendlybro79]

I think it depends. Some people just need help and can evolve. Unfortunately some can't. Toxic used to easily nowadays. If a person has a bad day and days a few things they shouldn't (not horrific) that's not toxic.

But if it's truly awful and they try to make you the bad person somehow then get out

[A_Bell]

If it's toxic, it's toxic. It's like saying "let me clean this toilet water by diluting it."

[Screenwriter]

Toxic means poison. Unless there is an antidote to the poison, such as longterm therapy and medication, I doubt it.

[OddBeMe]

Honestly it depends on how sensitive each person is. My wife and I joke with each other on a “toxic” level occasionally that any newcomer into the house will be uncomfortable if they see it. But the sex is terrific.

That means we’re both cool with it.

If you aren’t cool with it, which may be why you’re asking, break up. Now. It’s not gonna change. Toxic people don’t change.

[whirled_up_girl]

I think it depends on how toxic it is and the individuals.

[DevikaButts95]

Both of these questions lean towards yes. Lmao.