This guy likes me but I don't like him. How can I tell him I don't want to be in a relationship/I just want to be friends?

[Anonymous]

Context: A little while ago we found out we liked each other through a mutual friend and since that we have gone on a couple dates and have kissed and stuff. Now, I do not like him like that anymore and I just want us to be friends. I am worried if I tell him this, it is going to hurt him and the friendship that I have with our mutual friends that I care about a lot and love having in my life. If I hurt him, he will go to them and then they might become angry or upset or something and not want to be friends anymore. This is also both him and my first relationship but not really relationship and we were each others first kiss. He is a very sensitive person and I don't want to hurt him but I now only see him as a friend. I'm worried that he will think we have formed a deeper connection then I think we have and I don't know what to do. Also I am sorry this is a lot of rambling

[Anonymous]

It's important to be honest and considerate in this situation. You can express your feelings kindly and gently. Here's a suggested way to approach it:

1. Find the right time and place to talk privately.

2. Begin by thanking him for the time you've spent together and the positive experiences you've shared.

3. Let him know that you've enjoyed getting to know him better but feel that you'd like to remain friends.

4. Be clear and honest about your feelings and mention that you don't see a romantic relationship developing between you.

5. Emphasize that you value the friendship and would like to continue being friends.

6. Reassure him that you both have formed a meaningful connection as friends, even if it's not a romantic one.

7. Allow him to express his feelings and reactions, and be empathetic and understanding.

It's essential to remember that his reaction is not something you can control, but being open and honest is the best way to maintain a foundation of respect and trust in your relationship with him. If he goes to your mutual friends, you can address the situation with them directly, explaining your perspective, and that you value the friendship with them as well.

[Avicenna]

The longer you wait to be honest with him, the worse it will be

[SueShe]

What is better for you. To hurt him or to be hurt yourself. You have to make a choice because there is no way that you will not hurt him if you confess that you have no feelings for him.

If he is really a friend, he will understand that you have no more feelings for him, despite the fact that you did "stuff" with him, whatever this "stuff" is.

He will most probably be upset or angry but if you don't do anything, you will end up suffering from then entire situation. It is best to do what has to be done with the risk of losing your friendship. That is something that is unavoidable but people seldom look at that point when they start an ephemeral relationship.

You simply tell him that he is not the guy that you though he was when you did "stuff", that you were fooled by your rushed decision to kiss but that you did not feel the connection.

[rachel776]

[In_Trance]

Smh... no you don't.
Don't bother with this shit

[Anonymous]

You just tell him how you feel. Don't sugarcoat it.