[PART 1] Why do I still want to talk to him?

[adawong416]

I (26f) have a friend (25m) who I met on a Facebook in 2016. We talked a lot and I felt like we were really good friends. He's 3 hours away. We have never seen each other face to face, only talked on discord. When I met him, I had never been in a relationship. And the first year of talking I was like yay! I can talk to him about anything without worrying of getting romance in the middle. Well, by December of the same year he told me he liked me, as more than friends and I remember my first reaction was 'fuck'. We just kept on talking as usual, but he might have felt rejected because at that time I didn't have nor wanted to have that kind of feelings. And thus began a back and forth were when I realized that I liked him as well, he didn't feel like being on a relationship with anyone. Then I started dating a girl (I'm bi and he's always known that) and he confessed that he had been stupid because now he had lost ' precious opportunity' because of his stupidity. I later broke up with her and when I thought he wanted to date he told me I could date whoever I wanted because (despite my original impression) he wasn't in a mental state to be in a relationship with anyone. He was also unattracted to me because I had started sending him full body (non sexual) pictures of me and I used to be overweighted.

We talked almost everyday, and often found each other having heart to heart conversations.

There have times where we fought and stopped talking, but it was always me one that apologized and began talking again. In 2019 I lost 35 kg.

I see Rodrigo as a closed person, who doesn't let much of himself be seen by others. I always compare him with a tired, old dude because he doesn't like to go dancing, he is serious, not romantic and he himself has a quote on his whatsapp that says 'God, i feel old'

It somehow feels tiring to be around him. He's not romantic, which is something I want in the people i date.

PART 2 in my profile since i can't paste links here

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you've had a complex and emotionally challenging relationship with Rodrigo over the years. The dynamics between the two of you have evolved, and it's clear that you have had strong feelings for him, even though he hasn't been as expressive or reciprocal in his emotions. It's natural to feel hurt and frustrated in such a situation.

Friendships and relationships can be complicated, and sometimes they change or fade over time, especially if there's a lack of mutual emotional investment. If you feel the urge to talk to Rodrigo and express your feelings, it's entirely up to you. Communication can sometimes lead to clarity or closure, but it's important to be prepared for various outcomes, including the possibility that he may have moved on.

Ultimately, the decision to reach out or let go of a friendship is a personal one. If you choose to reach out to Rodrigo, be honest about your feelings, but also be prepared for different responses. If you decide not to, it's essential to focus on your own well-being and seek fulfilling relationships where your emotional needs are met. Your feelings and desires are valid, and it's important to prioritize your own happiness and emotional health.

[MustafaAl]

You know relationships should be genuine and understanding in my past i always have to wear a mask it just made me depressed because i can't be myself.

This is what i dont like from human-human interactions as it is complex, sometimes it feels suffocating, sometimes it feels like your going crazy, you dont what to do, you've lost yourself...

I don't care about people anymore i just talk when i want to, nobody cares and its true i could make a scene and walk naked, act crazy no one would help me maybe some would throw a rope but thats it.
So nobody really cares...

[Avicenna]

Because you're curious about him

[In_Trance]

Tldr

[Anonymous]

You like him