Is it lust of love if someone is unwilling to compromise on things in a relationship like kids, marriage, and more?

[hardboiledink]

My ex said she "loves" me yet wasn't willing to compromise on kids, marriage, and also forgiving past things said and done so is that "love" at all?

[HelpfulWoman]

it can still be love. love has healthy boundaries too.
Kids are a big deal.
for most, marriage isn't really a big deal/something that needs to be done.
Forgiving what? again, healthy boundaries can still be love.

[hardboiledink]

Accidental name calling as a joke or bringing something up the other person doesn't like on accident and not forgiving it. Wouldn't those things be forgiven if it's really "love?"

[HelpfulWoman]

accidentally is still a grey area, because it shows the partner couldn't be arsed to respect a simple boundary if it was told before hand...
But if you're asking this type of question, if this is your relationship, do yourself and partner a favour and end it.

[Anonymous]

Being able to compromise is one thing, asking someone you love to sacrifice for you or vice versa is different. Like I would never ask a man to sacrifice his beliefs to accommodate mine. I’d never force parenthood on someone or threaten to leave or say they don’t love me. Same with marriage, I won’t push a guy down the aisle in a shut-up wedding.

[molonski2]

No , thats not LOVE at all , she doesn't love you..

She may well have lusted after you , but she is making no compromise.

[LazerBean]

Its Def not lust to make intelligent, long term choices. Y'all shouldn't be together

[ThrillSeeker01]

Not compromising is kind of a deal breaker for me.

[Anonymous]

Lust