As you get older you hate everyone? Do you think it’s true?

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abc3643 · Accepted Answer

To some extent, yes.

Here's why...

When you are young, you are surrounded by the hopeless idealism from fiction and movies in which most characters are black and white so you develop subconsciously an optimistic worldview, especially involving people and fairness. After all, when young, you are cute and surrounded by family and people who appreciate your innocence and, for the most part, want you to have a happy childhood. This all gives a false sense of real "human nature" which is much darker.

As you get older, you come to realize the complexity of humans and the mercilessness of Nature. Hollywood endings are for Hollywood, not the real world. So, you are disappointed... disappointed because what you came to believe when you were young is, for the most part, horseshit. Worse, you become disappointed in people - not just the people now, but future generations as well. Sure, technology advances, but human nature does not, so the darker nastier stupider and more fearful side of being human will always remain.

Case in point:
In 1981, it dawned on me that everyone born in the US after 1976 was pretty much going to be fucked in the head.
This is because of many factors including the 12 years of Reagan-Bush which espoused a Hollywood version of America. But, also, with technological advancements which, while they made life easier, they made people both stupider (and thus more easily manipulated) and lazier (and thus more easily manipulated).

So, it isn't so much that you hate any specific people or even hate people in general. You just get to the point that you prefer not to be emotionally invested in them since, ultimately, they are a disappointment.

The more I know about people, the better I like dogs.

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

The older people get, the more set in their ways they tend to become, and they're not necessarily tolerant of differences. Seniors also find that things that didn't bother them when they were younger become more irritating. Some seniors tend to lash out more easily on others, while others start limiting their interactions with others.

Young kids tend to just speak their mind, without any awareness of how their words impact others. As we mature, we become more aware of how our choices impact others, and we develop a monitor in our brain that holds us back from continuing to make those types of insensitive comments. Seniors often lose that monitor, so they start blurting out insensitive comments like they did as kids. The more they lashed out as adults, the less likely they'll hold back on their urge to overreact to their experiences.

It's not that hate grows as we age; it's more likely to be increased irritability when we feel others are insensitive to us. Older people may want to pass on their experience, yet find younger people quick to shut them down, believing they know more than the older people. If we feel judged or pushed out of the picture, we may feel more of what people often label as hatred.

The opposite of love is not hate... it is apathy or indifference. When we say hate, what we're saying is we have expectations of those we care about. When those expectations aren't met, we feel hurt, angry, frustrated and disappointed... and we project those feelings out as hatred. There's a fine line between love and hate. If we don't care, we won't have expectations. If we have no expectation, we won't be disappointed.

Altheavas · Accepted Answer

As I get older, I've learned to prioritize my inner peace and concentrate on my personal growth and well-being, rather than becoming entangled in others' perceptions, behaviors, or arguments. I no longer feel the need to justify myself against ignorance, nor do I feel compelled to lower my standards by trying to convince anyones of my truth or character.

overthinkergirl · Accepted Answer

not hate but dislike. because u know how people are and how they can be nothing but bad for u

Finchie40 · Answer

For the most part yes, mainly because the older we get the more we realize how pathetic people are , mainly because we became wiser , mainly because we experienced right from wrong a lot more than someone that really hasn't really experienced it yet. It mainly stems down from generations So if you are older and you look at today’s generation, you will more than likely just shake your head lol As you get older you realize you mainly just want to be content and live out the rest of your life drama free as much as possible , When I was younger all I wanted to do was be out with friends , go to partys and concerts and hook up with girls ‘ etc. my elders looked at me like I was pathetic lol. as as I got older I realized I really don’t need that shit anymore , I feel safer and context sitting on my porch drinking a beer and bullshitting with people that matter the most to me , people that bring positive into my life, not misery. You realize life is too short to dwell on negativity

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Perhaps as YOU get older, YOU hate everyone, but I have experienced the opposite. As I get older, I am more tolerant of people with whom I disagree. That doesn't mean that I agree with them; it just means that I don't get angry at people who disagree.

DaveJord · Answer

NO not all. As I get older, I do not hate more people, actually I hate lesser people, and like even fewer, But I have a greater appreciation for the ones that truly deserve my respect and show respect to me.

normalice · Answer

Not for me. To me it's just a mounting sadness that everyone is going to die and there is nothing or even they can do about it but distract themselves until it happens. I can't even look at "hot chicks" anymore without seeing the corpses of their great grandchildren who die never knowing anything about their great grandmother let alone knowing she was someone guys knew they wanted to nut into just by looking at her, and their great grandchildren who are born and die, some in agony, so that other angrier people can have more to eat or whatever. No one can fix this on their own. It requires a collective effort but we are too busy being stupid primates at each other to get started in any lasting way. Democracy was a good first step but it seems like it's falling out of fashion as the stupid primates realize bashing our own brains out with megadoses of rage is way more satisfying than planning for the future. Short of reaching the next step, I think we're about to go backwards. We are too stupid to hate.

sawno · Answer

As I got older especially during the lockdown period I have lost faith in the majority of humanity, but that doesn't mean I hate them now. Instead of thinking they were misguided and in need of assistance from me I now just see them as perfectly content with the way the world is. Even if they complain about it, they fit in it perfectly.

DJB72 · Answer

No, but you do tend not to suffer fools as easily.

I have less tolerance for bullshit than I did 30 years ago now, which probably explains Gen-X and older having no patience with the alphabet soup fuckwittery. Behind closed doors do what you want to - it's between you and God. But the second some creep in a thong starts waving it in my five year old son's face I'll give him a free surgical alteration and feed it to him.

Have a nice day 🙂

NathanDavis · Answer

not in my case, no... the older I get, the more I love the people in my life and value them as well and also, the easier I have it, to get along with new people

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have not reached that point and hope to ever reach it. But I do find myself becoming less automatically trusting of people. In the past I would be that way. Now I take more time and want more evidence.

416chick · Answer

It sure can feel that way probably due to having a lot less trust and faith in most people.

mike5150 · Answer

Kind of but I am more of an introvert personality wise. So I have my wife, and my pets but everyone else can do whatever they want.

slatyb · Answer

No, I'm much more tolerant and sympathetic, even to people that irritate me.

sheikalana · Answer

The older you get the less tolerance you have for the BS.

genericname85 · Answer

yes. cause humans have a very strong bias to remember bad experiences and to forget good experiences.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I just have less patience for someone being disrespectful to me. But I don't hate everyone.

BourbonAndBacon · Answer

Nope. I am way more chill now than I was 20 years ago

RainBat · Answer

I've never liked people, I can't say they're getting any better as I grow older.

Ironic_Method · Answer

I think it's because the older you get the less tolerance you have for bullshit.

syncheart · Answer

Because a lot of people are jerks, and you get tired of putting up with it.

Likes2drive · Answer

Not really, just don’t have patience with some of them

dolemite58 · Answer

the less bs you tolerable from people, as you get older you definitely whittle down the amount of friends you have.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

LOL.. I definitely just want to be left alone not bothered as I have gotten older.

Anonymous · Answer

Its just because you are stupid and uncapable of love

Yannae · Answer

I actually like people more the older I get.

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

Not me, and I hope not anyone

Guido · Answer

Not true. We are less tolerant of BS.

HouseMoat · Answer

I've always hated everyone

alexiah · Answer

Yes haha

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I just tune out

Staximus · Answer

For sure

Iron_Man · Answer

no I don’t

Kelly6 · Answer

False

eagle1951 · Answer

False

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