I have an unhealthy dynamic with a guy wherein he tells me his issues and I try and help him by comforting him. Needless to say this has been going on lately more frequently. Because he tells me he has no one else to talk to about it or as what he said I'm the only one who can relate to his fears and panic attacks or can understand him. He mention often that he's all alone.
Why do i feel like it's my responsibility by the things he's saying? I feel confused, guilt and concern.
A huge part of me wants to help him but at the same time i'm also not well myself. The guy knows I'm battling with health issues as well as anxiety. We both have anxiety and panic attacks so although I enjoy our conversations as it feels like therapy, most of the time I just want to be still. Not hear any problems or comfort anyone.
I wanted to be comforted. Not the one comforting. Although to be fair he also comforts me and gives me advice about my health. I don't know what's happening but I seem to just want to focus on myself first.
I'm also a bit bothered because he said he will relocate to my city (it's also where his parents are)
With him in the picture, my thoughts get diverted to him not to myself. I find myself being guilty about this but i may be feeling burnt out. Somebody help. How do i fix this?
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Well, looks like what happened with me. So I also have retinopathy but this girl kept telling me about her mental health and stuff and finally I could care less about it.
Seems like you are having same problem. Fact is I also wanted to relocate to the girls place just to be with her and finally she backed off.
So, I don't know where it goes for you but I hope it's not too hurtful for you in the end.
Tell him you need to work on yourself and he needs to work on himself. You should want to help somebody but at the same time you're not his psychologist. Tell him you need to deal with your own problems before helping him with his.