i have been dating this one boy for about 2 years now. we’ve both done things a little toxic and childish. this past situation, caused our families to get involved and some of his family members are upset with me and my actions. where my family is upset with him and his actions. he went through my phone and read conversations between me and my cousins and they flipped out. they began to feel disrespected by him. i felt bad and overwhelmed by all the emotions that i asked him to take break to get my feelings aligned. i was contemplating on breaking up. but he’s fighting so hard for me to stay and work things out. i told my cousins that i’m willing to work things out with him but they feel like i’m putting him over them, and i hate to have them feel that way. especially if that wasn’t my intentions. my papa and mom believe i can and deserve better. but i just don’t know what to do in this awkward situation. ofc my boyfriend is like who cares what they think but this is overall really weird for me. i was already losing feelings before they started stating their opinions but this past problem has been an icing on the cake. and i expressed to him that i love him but all the romantic feelings aren’t there anymore and he’s telling me not give up and let’s talk to fix things. and i appreciate him but i’m just more confused on what to do. i know people who have been married for a long time probably express the ups and downs they’ve been through but I don't know i’m just lost.
What do you do when your family doesn’t like your partner?
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I understand how you’re feeling. Sometimes our loved ones see things in our partner that we ourselves struggle to see. I can understand why your cousins are upset, and they’re justified in feeling that way. Based on what you’ve said in your question, it sounds like the relationship is already going to end. If you’ve got no romantic feelings for him anymore, what is left? Sex? That’s not enough to maintain a healthy relationship. And this relationship does not sound healthy to begin with. It sounds like you already know deep in your gut that the relationship is over, but you’re stuck in “limbo” where you don’t want to act on that feeling.
he keeps asking what he can do to fix it and to keep fighting for our love. he was saying why waste our time after everything we’ve been through. I was telling him my thing is, I would rather walk away now, instead of wasting time down the road trying to make us work, and I still feel like this. i want to walk away but i want to hold on to that little piece of hope
Sometimes there is nothing left to fight for. Not giving up on a relationship for the sole reasoning of you two being together for as long as you have been, is a very bad reason to stay together. As you said, you’d rather walk away now instead of wasting time down the road. I believe that that is the best action to take. I understand why you’re wanting to hold onto hope that things will get better, but it seems to me as if you’re holding on to an idea rather than the reality of the situation. You’re best to end the relationship.
I would telly family they can feel whatever they feel, but find someone else vent to because I'm not going to listen to them insult girl. Same with friends.