What exactly does a narcissist want in a relationship?

[sushi]

How narcissists treat their partners in relationships? Have you ever been with a narcissist person? How was it?

[blunty]

Dealing with a narcissist in a relationship can be quite a challenging experience. Here's a rundown of what a narcissist typically seeks in a relationship:

Admiration and Validation: This is like the bread and butter for a narcissis.

Control and Dominance: Narcissists often like to have control over their relationships. This can manifest as making decisions without consulting their partner, asserting dominance in various aspects of the relationship, or trying to control how their partner acts or appears to others.

A Sense of Superiority: They often want to feel superior to their partner. This could be intellectually, socially, financially, or in terms of physical appearance. It's not just about feeling equal; it's about feeling above.

A Lack of Boundaries: Narcissists may not respect their partner's personal boundaries. They might expect to have access to all areas of their partner's life, insisting on knowing every detail, or may not respect their partner’s need for space and independence.

A Partner Who Reflects Well on Them: Often called 'trophy' partners, narcissists may choose partners who they feel enhance their own self-image or status. This could be about looks, social status, wealth, or the partner's achievements.

Lack of Empathy: In relationships, narcissists might struggle to recognize or respond to their partner's needs and feelings. They often focus on their own experiences and dismiss or ignore their partner's emotional states.

Resistance to Criticism: A narcissist in a relationship often reacts negatively to criticism or perceived slights. They may become angry, defensive, or even retaliate if they feel they are being criticized or not given the respect they believe they deserve.

Manipulation: They might use various manipulation tactics to get what they want, including guilt-tripping, gaslighting, or playing the victim.

Remember, not everyone who exhibits a few narcissistic traits has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). NPD is a clinical diagnosis and involves a consistent pattern of behavior that significantly impairs someone's ability to function in relationships and other areas of life.

[bingbongbangbung]

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[austinbooth]

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[AutumnSerenity]

A narcissist’s sole mission is to seek situations that validate them, offer them reassurance, and feed their egos. So a narcissist in a relationship would be selfish, self-important, incapable of taking accountability, jealous, and competitive. The relationship is for their emotional/psychological and financial benefit, not yours.

[ArrowheadSW]

@autumnserenity I used to work with a guy like that. He was a womanizer and the way he led his life is pretty much just what you describe. He had no trouble initially attracting the women but usually they would catch on to him.

[AutumnSerenity]

Yeah, Narcissism is the most common personality disorder, unfortunately. It can happen very easily (these people were either criticized too often or praised too often during their youth) creating a sense of personal superiority and entitlement.

[bingbongbangbung]

Most people are narcissistic to a degree, but people with NPD are uncommon

[AutumnSerenity]

For once, I disagree with the statistics.

[Anonymous]

Do you mean like a real narcissist? It's hard to tell which one people are referring to nowadays. So I am not sure what you mean by narcissist. It's become a trendy way to call out anyone who seems self-centered or arrogant. People often use it to describe someone they think is acting selfishly or not considering others' feelings.

On social media, complicated ideas often get boiled down to something simple, and that's what happened with the term "narcissist." It's a psychological term that's actually pretty complex, but online, it's often used more loosely. Plus, when someone's upset about how they've been treated in a relationship or a friendship, it's easy to just label the other person a narcissist.

Also, lots of folks share mental health stuff online, and talks about narcissism catch on quickly. But not everyone who talks about it is an expert, so sometimes the information isn't totally accurate.

There's also this thing where social media can kind of echo back what you already believe. So, if you're in a group where people often call others narcissists, you might start to see it that way too.

And, of course, sometimes people just jump on the bandwagon of using popular words, even if they don't fully get what they mean. The real deal, narcissistic personality disorder, is something only a professional can diagnose, and it's more complicated than just being selfish or attention-seeking.

[bingbongbangbung]

My parents are narcissistic as are most Asian tigers. My mom is way more narcissistic than my dad though. They're obsessed with asserting authority, stroking their egos, and invading me and my sister's privacy. Although in recent years it has dialed down as they're much older now, so they just want to retire soon and us to move out.

[Leapfrog00]

I have been with a couple of them. From my experience, they don't know what they want, and even then, they want to make all the choices in the relationship, and when things don't work out, it's your fault. They pretend they've done nothing wrong. They will try to convince others that you're an abusive person, when actually... they are. They are dangerous. They're a danger to themselves and you. Be careful if you're in one of these relationships or are thinking about going into one.

[Flatmanlewis]

Sometimes they want somebody to control.
Sometimes they are seeking the stability they themselves don’t have in life. Often they want badly to be loved but just don’t know how to make that happen. Usually, a lot of the above.

[sage2021]

If you need info about narcissists go to Quora. com They have a lot of information about narcissists.

[bingbongbangbung]

Quora has a lot of misinformation on it spread by pseudo intellectuals no different than Wikipedia and Reddit. At least here on GaG, people don't try to seem smarter than they actually are while ironically embarassing themselves. That site did have potential early on, until it went super woke and accommodating to normies; now it's Yahoo Answers 2.0 with a shitty BNBR policy in place.

[pascal_climbs]

Narcissist just want themselves. Their partner is needed to be humiliated to confirm their superiority.

[Tapeworm]

I'm a narcissist. Curious? Come start a relationship with me, му мом's ваsемеnt has enough room for us both!

[Anonymous]

No I haven't ever been with one but I know someone who has and they are a lot of work. It's all about them. Never about you. What do they want? To be adorned all the time and for you to take their bullcrap.

[AMS700CX4u2]

They are very demanding. The world revolves around them. To hell with your needs,

[systemsareyo]

I've calmed down a lot lol over the years and 29 I instead just want to be hugged and appreciated and vice versa 👀👌

[Minahh]

It's complicated because they can be very complex. It's a personality disorder so there are a lot of grey areas. I highly suggest studying this topic thoroughly.

[DreamLife7]

Just bc he doesn't like u doesn't make him a narcissist

[IslaTheWitch]

my way of the high way

[IslaTheWitch]

or* :(

[jimmy2]

No my wife was one and they only one attention from everyone

[strateguy632]

they make everything about herself. ugh

[sheikalana]

He wants everything to be about him and only him.

[ProbablyClueless]

Attention... someone to worship them...

[austinbooth]

They’re very controlling and demanding