Liste, your boyfriend's behavior doesn't sound very supportive. No one deserves to be with someone who constantly puts them down and doubts their abilities.
Just because you've struggled to find work yet doesn't mean you're a failure or useless. The job market is tough these days! As your partner, he should be building you up, not tearing you down.
That said, I get why his lack of faith could make you second guess yourself. But don't let it define your self-worth. Focus on what YOU know about your own skills and potential. One year isn't the end of the line either.
It might help to sit him down and openly communicate how his words make you feel. Set a boundary - you need his encouragement, not criticism. See how he responds. If he keeps it up, you gotta ask yourself if this negativity is really helping you or just holding you back.
Keep your head high. You got this - don't internalize someone else's doubts as truth about you. Stay determined to prove yourself in your own way and time. You deserve a partner who fully believes in you too.
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I would say he is not encouraging. It would help to explain more in what circumstances he is saying you can't do that.
If you are being fanciful in terms of a job I would probably pull you up short on those thoughts so you focus on the more achievable possibilities. Like my friend talks about being a crane driver which isn't going to happen for quite a number of reasons but I would strongly encourage efforts towards what she is qualified for.
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You can do better. My ex-wife was like you boyfriend and my life sucked. My now partner is super supportive and I feel like I can do anything. I make way more money because of her support.
>he keep saying things like “ you can’t do that”
That's not loving. Dump him and find someone supportive.
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