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It doesn’t need to be gender-specific.
But, I believe role-delegation makes a lot of sense, whether in a male/male relationship or a female/female relationship or male/female relationship, things run smoother when there are people in designated roles.
Whoever takes on what roles and responsibilities is going to highly depend on the couple, what works well for them, what feels right for them.
For me, I don’t mind working 70+ hours a week, night shifts, to support my significant other and I.
For her, something that intense would burn her out.
She’s happy to help me out in other ways whenever she can and she provides me with a lot of emotional support.
If her and I were to swap genders, the roles would be the same, because our personalities would still be the same.
Instead of the male breadwinner, I would then be the female breadwinner, providing for us financially.
Separate roles can make practical sense without being tied to a particular gender.
You just need to find what works best for your unique personalities and situation.
Thanks for the MHO! 🙂
Very true. Not all men have the same personalities and strengths and likewise with women. Every couple needs to figure out what works for them. Whatever is “traditional” might not work for many couples.
Nice! 💪 You’re a good example of someone who enjoys and prefers being the breadwinner, despite whatever “traditional” gender roles dictate. I too, would enjoy and prefer to be the breadwinner, even if I was born a woman.
Thanks! 🙂
Well, I'm nonbinary actually, partly because of how I feel about this question. I enjoy lots of things that are seen as "female": sewing, cooking, cleaning, childcare, shopping. But also I think it's completely fabricated that those things are "female" in the first place. Gender roles are illusions, at least imho. I get that other people feel they are very real, and so they are: to them. That's how illusions work.
I agree we all do something to contribute or end up out in the cold so to speak, caveman times to current era. It's the idea that "men only do _____, and women only do ______" that is illusory 95%+ of the time. There are certainly differences anatomically and some biochemical as well, but having a male body never kept me from doing anything I was interested in.
@grega239 https://youtu.be/pybhT3G0OxQ?si=8bOOtr5c2WVVJc4C
one of many easily googled examples
People are much harder to gaslight when your words are right there and you can’t edit or erase them.
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I am a man and not a woman. There are things for which I have more aptitude and ability because I am a male. And I enjoy doing those things. On the other hand, there are things for which my fiancee seems to have innate abilities, she enjoys doing them, and I don't. Traditional gender roles make perfect sense for us. . . and it's not an illusion, as some may rather arrogantly claim.
To a point. I'm perhaps a bit on the spectrum so what matters to me above all is efficiency. If I see a tall person working on floors or a partially deaf person working in customer service some back part of my brain spits out a compiler warning - surely, there is some task the company needs performed that can take advantage of someone being 8 feet tall that doesn't just add more strain on him than it would on most to stand up and kneel down as part of their job. And surely there is some other task at a company a person who has trouble hearing could perform - preferably one that doesn't require them to routinely hear what customers are saying.
That said I don't really know that there are gender roles. Birth and breast feeding, sure. But beyond that it doesn't seem like any particular gender is better suited to any particular task. Men were generally better at the heavy lifting until someone invented fork lifts, for example. I'm mildly competent at car repair but my cousin (girl) can run circles around me, because she has a whole shop at her disposal. The gap between what men and women can do has narrowed with technology and so what gender roles really seem to be about is people insisting certian work is be beneath them (or beyond them) due to their gender.
I know better than most that there is substantial overlap between laziness and seeking greater efficiency, but the way people argue for gender roles is not in that overlap - it is neither lazy nor seeking efficiency. It is pure malice. They are creating what is called a "wedge issue" to keep people mad at each other. Because angry people don't think they just seek more anger to keep feeling young and powerful. But if these people did start thinking they would consider who is trying so hard to keep them mad and what are they doing with that distraction. And the answers are right wing political operatives and writing unpopular republican legislation into law.
No not to me..
If I EVER in my life meet someone nice and is ready to marry me and he wants to be a stay-at-home dad and I bring home the bacon so to speak, then yeah I'm down with that I don't mind! Not at all.
I think it would be a cute thing if he were like that Mr. Mom movie!
Lol! It would be so sweet to see my husband looking like that with my breastmilk in one hand and the baby on the other! So cute!
Now THAT'S what nature intended for people to do! Why men don't like doing this puzzles me/confuses me!
I’m gay, so I don’t have to worry about “gender” roles necessarily. However I do think dominant/submissive roles are important to me.
i like to be the submissive one. I like to be with a man who’s gonna protect and take care of me, yanno? 🥲 it must stem from the daddy issues lol.
Absolutely, there is no getting away with it. I do prefer traditional gender roles since my job works best if I can work most days of the week and i'd love her to look after the children if we have any so they can be raised responsibly without other people putting weird ideas in their minds.
But lets say my girl would rather split 50/50, then you still have the exact same gender roles to fulfill just on different days like my parents used to do. Sometimes my mom was home, sometimes my dad was home. Both did housekeeping and took care of me, but not on the same day unless it was weekend. And both had a part time job.
Gender roles are a result of natural tendencies between men and women being used to help with the survival of the species.. With that being said, I don't have a strong desire for them per say.. When we mostly think of traditional, we think of the exaggeration of it.. When traditionally while men went out and women stayed home, it was always more of a team effort to each other's strengths and weaknesses..
People matter to me. Their uniqueness, personal preferences, and things which make them happy and satisfied.
My ego is not big enough to tell others what they should do and how they should live.
If he wants to cook or do laundry, why not? I definitely can provide for the family :D
But I'm a fan of communication and finding a balance in everything we do.
yes and no.
for job and career? i don't give a fuck about money or such things. i am a primativist.
for leading, roles in bed and social life? absolutly, iam the man of the house, i lead, you suggest, i debate/consider and İ decide.
in bed, i fuck, you get fucked, but i get serviced and you are serving, also girls are allowed with both of us consent but no other guys are allowed to be even mentioned.
I'm very traditional and old school so they do matter to me. I don't mind being a stay at home wife if the opportunity presented itself.
I'm not knocking the more progressive women out there that are not for traditional roles but I'm not progressive when it comes to that.
no... never cared for it, never needed to either
I might be traditional but I just can't see a man masculine enough if he doesn't work
Yes I do
Working and earning a living is a basic sign of masculinity, doesn't matter what the job is (In my humble opinion)
@Asad1ONE1 Oh shut up incel
I'm not going to say they don't matter at all. I'm sure she's like me to remember I'm a man. In certain ways I'd like her to remember she's a woman. But when you form a relationship and get comfortable with someone, those roles i do think get a little relaxed. Because if you can't relax with the person you love a bit what was the point of forming the relationship with them?
I love that my wife loves working and works, don't know if that's against the gender roles
But I don't know I just wanna work even if her income is enough, doesn't feel right
Things work better when a woman is feminine and a man is masculine, it's just natural.
AMEN! I can’t agree more with this
For 200K years plus (depending on your belief system), gender roles have served humanity very well. Only humans are so fucking arrogant that we think we can turn evolution 180 degrees in 50 years. IMHO, THIS is why we are in turmoil today.
@LadyKitty. On your death bed you will wish you had grandchildren holding your hand, and not just memories of a corner office.
@LadyKitty. Ok, that's better than a "boss babe".
"That's up to her"... no shit, tell me something I don't know. She can also worship Satan, become a meth addict, essentially be morally bankrupt.
@LadyKitty. The world (and families) used to work, now we are massively dysfunctional.
That's a cop out. The family used to do well, now the family is being driven out of existence.
Yes. Whether the man works or stays at home, it's still a role. And an important one.
Am depends on the people I need to work for mental health and I love my job
It really depends if the woman wants to be traditional herself, not just the man being traditional in the relationship.
Traditional gende roles make great sense in many relationships if you can pull your head out of the feminist books long enough think objectively and pragmatically.
And that's why I wrote "in many relationships ".
And when I said "you", I didn't mean you in particular. Sorry for the confusion.
Cheers
being trans gender roles changed drastically for me when I was 18
so yes they matter
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