Do you believe in gender roles in a relationship?

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englisc · Accepted Answer

Yes I do.

I think it's best for young children. We have 3 kids, one of them a 6 week old baby. I work, she stays home and takes care of the kids. All are breast-fed because that's the healthiest option, we aren't feeding them powdered shit. That means she can't work at this time. She might do at a later stage, but not for now.

I also think it's just better for the relationship in general. In general, women are more attracted to masculine men, and men are more attracted to feminine women. They say otherwise just because the popular culture seems to want to encourage androgyny and brainwashes people into obsessing over equality. That's all it really is.

For example here, a study shows that women are more satisfied during peak fertility when their husband is more traditionally masculine:

www.psypost.org/.../wives-masculine-husbands-satisfied-peak-fertility-study-finds-48909

There are plenty of studies showing the same thing:

www.livescience.com/...ertile-women-manly-men.html

Feminists think that "sexist" men are sexier than "woke" men. What they mean by that is benevolent sexism e. g. chivalrous behaviour, protective behaviour, paying the bill - the opposite of what most feminists say they want:

www.psychologytoday.com/.../feminists-think-sexist-men-are-sexier-woke-men

Here's the funniest one. Feminists say that the sexiest thing a guy can do is to help with housework and do the dishes, right? Men who do more housework actually have less sex:

www.scientificamerican.com/.../

That's mainly because the masculine-feminine polarity is out of balance. People are so obsessed with trying to make men act like women and women act like men, and it's just not attractive. This should be common sense.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I am very comfortable with traditional gender roles in a relationship. I don't think that we should be so rigid about those roles that we have no flexibility to make some modifications, but I am good with about 95% of traditional male/female roles in relationships.

BluesheepOwl · Accepted Answer

No, I am personally against them. Like when it comes to cooking I think both people should cook in the relationship. But some people say that if you are home first from work then you cook first. But what if one person in the relationship is always home first? I feel like that would be messed up to always assume they'll be cooking. It's good to switch it up. Make it fair and on the weekends cook together and make it this cute little date with each other. Cooking doesn't have to be perceived as this awful thing that only one person has to do. Cooking is nice and you are making delicious food at the end of the day. Both partners should be part of it. I also think women should work along side with their guy. You know there's that gender role where some guys want their women at home taking care of the house and just waiting on him hand and foot basically. They don't want their women working they want them home just basically doing nothing unless there are kids. I would prefer to work and help with the bills. Plus I am going to school, I'm not going to waste my career. I know there are more guys wanting their women to work which is better in my opinion.

mistixs · Accepted Answer

Yes, but that doesn't necessarily mean what a lot of people think it means. The woman is allowed to have a job - the virtuous woman commended in Prov31 ran a business - but is not obligated to do so. It's the man's responsibility to provide for his wife (Exodus 21:10, Eph 5:28-29, Prov 19:14).
Furthermore, the man is in authority in the relationship, but Biblical authority is about serving the people under your authority, and putting their interests before your own needs (Matt 20:25-28, Eph 5:25, Phil 2:3-4).

StingRayxoxo · Answer

For day to day things, no. For certain other things, yes.

Pinay_ako · Answer

No I do not. A man can do what a woman can like washing dishes, cleaning the house, babysit the kids and a woman can be the backbone when her man is at his weakest...

MzAsh · Answer

Not for me. I don’t care if others want to but definitely not for me.

mattdzz · Answer

I'm a traditionalist, and I accept the responsibilities that go along with that, but it's reciprocal, meaning that girls have to be willing to take on their responsibilities too.
Too often we get into this habit of ranting about how women/ men have gotten worse, i. e. women don't know how to cook, sleep around, and generally don't do anything other than take selfies, gossip, and demand attention/ money, while guys are no longer brave/ honorable/ or assertive enough to take on their role in the workplace, too immature to leave their parents basements, etc. etc.
Ofc this isn't everybody, but a vast majority of people need to pay more attention to be worth someone they'd like to be with, which typically fall within the traditional roles.

VIVANT · Answer

No I think everyone should contribute equal effort but threats in which they contribute are dependent upon their personal skills and weaknesses.

I don’t think requiring a person to to possess certain skills and behavior based on something that existed before they were conscious and is entirely out of their control , is rational nor practical.

I think you can lose a lot of the heat in people by ignoring who they are.

As for driving.. Long trips usually have at least more one driver. depends how many people are riding big it is def helpful to split the driving between at least two people. This helps avoid dangerous accidents.

.. life is a very long trip - hopefully 😊

Miss_Savanna_Dry · Answer

Nope. Every relationship I've been there has been no gender roles. Sometimes I would clean while they cook or vice versa. Sometimes I would make breakfast while they make the bed and tidy up the room or vice versa. Sometimes I would carry all the groceries bag or they would. There was never a "_¥€ should so this because you're a man/women". I prefer it this way.

R_Cakes91 · Answer

No not really. I refuse to stay home to be a house wife. I went to college for a reason. A man who can clean and cook is super sexy to me. I just think if there is something that needs to be done, either partner get it done. Of course it would be hard for a man to describe puberty to his daughter, especially when he doesn’t understand it from a female perspective.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I don't get the point. Why does it matter?  All this gender shit makes no sense to me lately. Look... I can beat people up, you can't. What is there to figure out?

Jjpayne · Answer

It depends... In some cases it could be helpful... Like for instance if a girl is better at cooking for example

Hurdleez-Swampede · Answer

I am not into gender roles. I only want a woman who can procreate with me basically.

I am especially not into your biased gender roles where women must wear make-up and be paid for dinner and a man must be a violent degenerate who beats up other men to prove he's masculine. People hurting others are ungodly and drawing blood from others is barbaric and no justification can you give me to prove it is sexy to hurt other people and make them bleed.

I don't agree with your MMA crap. It is not feasible in real life. Sure, you need to protect yourself but having arenas set to where they practice hurting others for training experiences is barbaric. You should only know how to do this if needed.

If your boyfriend hurts me must to make you happy, I'd call the cops on your man and make you weep.

Oram52 · Answer

I do not. I only date independent, ambitious women. I don't have any interest in traditional relationships. We both contribute equally, work, relationships, house work etc.

Izumiblu · Answer

I’m prefer more traditional gender roles than the idea that there is no difference between men and women

name_is_eric · Answer

Yes. It keeps the relationship together when both parts know their duties.

MyQuietLife · Answer

I do. When I get married, I plan on being a housewife and my husband would work.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Yes.. I am old school in many ways. Understand its never 50/50 but respect and support ea. other.  I wish we can all get along better.

Elliegirl · Answer

Kinda. I’m the girl and he’s the boy. Those are our roles. Other than that, like cooking, cleaning, walking the dog, etc. we share those roles.

Justcallmealy · Answer

Oh no! This is just boring It stops people from being who they really are

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

To a certain extent I do. Primarily the woman nurture her children while the Father disciplines the children. Stuff like that.

worldscolide · Answer

Yes and no.. In this day and age, if she is working, and he is working, than household stuff should be split.. If she is not working then I am 100% traditional.

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

Yeah in a way... i get uncomfortable when girls pay for stuff like dinner or whatever... but at the same time I dont want a stay at home housewife whos only entertainment is me... when I'm tired and burnt out from work or whatever

AcidT0y · Answer

If both people are happy with that dynamic then it can work really well. If they're not then it's best to have a discussion and figure out what will work best for their relationship.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Yes I do in every relationship each person has a part to play

Grond21 · Answer

Relatively, yes. In fact, for the most part yes. But not in any oppressive or rigid way. It should be a mutually agreed-upon arrangement

coolbreeze · Answer

People should be happy and express themselves in their relationships no matter who is in charge.

loveslongnails · Answer

You mean, Me.. Tarzan, you Jane? Me hunt and gather, you make babies and care for them?

MackToday · Answer

Of course , I also believe in gravity and that rocks are hard.

PrettyRegular · Answer

Yeah, but I don't think there should be a massive difference in those roles. Is that your boyfriend in the picture? He looks like an actor.

HereIbe · Answer

Yes, completely, distinct roles for all 39.773 genders.

bangyourhead · Answer

Yes. it works best that way.

Bluebot · Answer

well yeah, without them it gets messy.

dog1712 · Answer

Definitely not team work

PrincessJasmine24 · Answer

Ya I do.

Glen68 · Answer

I just go with the flow

PrinceOfAljazeera · Answer

90/30

Arielbubble · Answer

Not really

esotericstory · Answer

Yeah, they work.

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