So I met this girl on tinder about almost 3 years ago and we added each other on snap so we talked for a while so I asked her out one time which she left me on read so we stopped talking then I found her on IG then few weeks later she followed me on IG then I started dm’ing her and we started talking again but one thing I never forgot about was her Bday so I always told her happy bday and I decided to kind of write a bday message to her and when I sent it she said she was waiting and said “thank you much love🫶” then she texted me a gif and said happy Thanksgiving then when I texted her again and we talked about music I told her my type of music and she said I figured and I asked how’d you know and she said “umm I don't know just stalking” so fast forward to Christmas shortly after I had something tragic happened to me socially and I was feeling lost and destroyed but literally the day after she texted first and we texted the whole day even though she was at work and I promised her I was gonna send her a Christmas present before so she told me in our convo to not forget about her Christmas and I told her to not worry because since when did I ever forget about you and she said one day and I responded with and that day will never come and she said we’ll see about that sure I known you for two years and forget anything and she responded with ok il give you a break. So I sent Christmas card to her telling her basically how I valued our friendship and it’s cool we know each other and we never met in person and she responded with the crying emoji and said thats probably the sweetest one I got💗. So fast forward to new years I texted her happy new years and I put “*new years hug* can’t do it over the phone lol” and she responded with xoxo and responded with two hearts and she liked my message. Then recently I texted her I hope she has a great day and week and she said Heyy friend you too! (She’s been sending hey with two Ys and sometimes with a smiley face)
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Is this girl flirting with me? (never met in person and we know each other for almost 3 years)?
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Hmm that's definitely some interesting vibes she's giving off dude. A few things that stand out to me:
- She seems really responsive when you text and willing to keep conversations going at length, even when busy. That's a good sign.
- Little things like remembering your bday, wishing you happy holidays back, sending xoxo/hearts - girls usually don't do that if they're not feeling a guy at least a little bit.
- Calling you "friend" like that could just be friendly, but paired with the smiles and extra "y"s in hey it comes across kinda flirty too me.
- Saying she's "stalking" you online and knows your music taste without asking is also a light-hearted flirty way of saying she pays attention to your profile.
It seems there's definitely some chemistry and banter there, even if you've never met up. My advice would be to try and set a concrete video call or date. See how she responds to the invite.
If she makes excuses or seems wary of meeting in person, it may just be an online pen pal thing. But her responses so far make me think there could be real potential there man! Go for it.
Her ghosting s not ok and should be adressed, sure people can get scared and such but you clerly want more and you shouldn't waste your time on her. You need to tell her you want to meet her and if that s possible etc. And if she ghost well who has time for that? And its certanly disrespectful to not let you know how you stand or simply respond within understandable time limit. If you fate her shell keep doing that to you even in reltionahip and you dont want that. So you can give her another chance but beyond that dont bother.
Yes, she's teasing you. What did you get her for Christmas?
A Christmas card