So here’s the backstory.
In my vastly oversimplified explanation here though, it was an online relationship. I was a shitty boyfriend.
I said something unintentionally hurtful. She decides to block me.
Here I am probably just around a month and a half later.
I notice she unblocked me. But she did not message me. She did not send me a follow request either.
After she blocked me tho, the day after I did talk to her brother and tell the story and he said “All good don’t worry about it” kind of thing.
Anyway, I already made amends some time ago as best I could.
So I don't know if that’s why she decided to unblock me, or if for some other reason.
At the same time though, knowing I wasn’t right for her, part of me feels that my best option is probably just to leave her alone to try and build a happier life without me.
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If you try to reach out to her, I'd gamble on the side that keeps the first contact brief and light like, "How's life? I hope you're doing well! [maybe add a little something about how your life is going, nothing dramatic]" or something to this effect. It's a gamble and it could backfire like she could interpret this as though you never learned anything. Yet I think it's still a safer strategy to invite further communication than going into a long-winded and dramatic apology, e. g., which typically has a very strong risk of stirring up negative memories for her when she might be in the process of moving on.
At the same time tho. I feel like I mostly want to just not initiate contact
Actually erring on that side might be best although it's unclear to me reading both your original post and this one whether you miss her or not. It also seemed like a knee-jerk reaction on her part to just block unless I missed something of the build-up to the point where she just blocked you.
I don’t miss her. I feel I’ve moved on from it
There was a reason why she blocked me. It was because I said something she found offensive
I love how accountable you are reflecting on your past mistakes. That shows a great deal of maturity. Usually most people your age have the opposite problem of blaming their ex for all the wrongdoing, when even the most lopsided relationships usually involve both partners doing some wrongdoing.
That said, impulsively blocking someone for saying something offensive doesn't show great maturity on her part unless you were relentlessly so. I only point this out because you seem to be shouldering all the blame on yourself and might have the opposite problem most people have of not recognizing areas where she could be at fault.
So you might genuinely be better off with someone as mature and willing to recognize their own mistakes as you are.
You’re right. I was not suggesting that I try to get back together with her. I was more just wondering why she decided to seemingly take a corrective course of action
Specifics are really needed.