I slept with the groomsman how to handle it?

Question

my wedding is in two weeks, the groomsman is my fiance best friend, he had to come to my place for something (can't mention it) we talked then kissed and it escalated to having sex
now I regret it a lot and I can't deal with the feelings of shame
do I need to tell my fiance to put my mind and heart at ease or should I keep it a secret and suffer?

Updates

3 mo

it got more complicated
the groomsman wants to propose

pinkydaze_ · Accepted Answer

Girl, you don't love your man one bit, tell him so he doesn't live with a person like you, look girl, calm down, understand this, if you really loved him, you wouldn't fall for his more handsome best friend, with a "better character" than him and a potentially bigger penis, please don't hurt that man that likely has never cheated on you and has big dreams for you and y'all's kids, his best friend maybe richer, more good-looking, has a bigger penis or has a potentially better character than your man whom you just cheated, but marriage is a life time commitment, if you were loyal, in 30 to 45 years if God had kept y'all thanks to your loyalty {that can't happen now cos you're a cheat, a liar and a fucking backstabber}, if God had kept you'll see that his gonna be uglier than he is today, you're gonna be sick of him and stuff, but for the fact that you remember all the promises by the altar, all what made you fall in love with him year ago and what not, you'll kiss him and say to him, "I'm glad I stuck with you all these years and we stuck through thick and thin, I love you babe, you're my man and I can't replace you for no one baby, I love you, I really do." Now even if y'all eventually marry and you get to say all this which isn't likely, you can't say it with a straight face, disgusting!, you're a shame to femininity. 🤮

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Yes, you need to tell your finance and deal with the backlash and consequences and whatever he decides to do.

You have issues. You cannot be trusted. A person who could do this, and be so cavalier, two weeks before their wedding, is not someone he, or any man, can trust.

Unfortunately, he also needs to know that his best friend is the same, and not a good friend to him. He has been betrayed twice. Poor guy.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

1. Getting married without telling your fiance would be like committing a fraud.

2. Of course, when you tell your fiance, it will end his relationship with his "best friend."

3. Of course, when you tell your fiance, it will end his relationship with you.

4. EVERYONE faces temptation and the test is how you respond to the challenge. You failed horribly.

5. The fact that you did this strongly suggests that you don't want to get married and the best thing you can do for your fiance at this point is to cancel the wedding and end the relationship. Embarrassing? Of course. Getting divorced two months after you get married? Even worse.

6. Once you get through the trauma of this, you need to take some time out. Don't go back and start fucking the groomsman. You need to spend some time reflecting on what you have done, learning some lessons, and making yourself a better person so this won't happen again. Start boning the groomsman and you won't learn a damned thing!

ImHere22 · Accepted Answer

Here's what you do:

Stop lying to yourself and your fiance. Tell him what happened. Tell his (ex) best friend that you told your (ex) fiance. Leave.

Leave the relationship, leave the area, leave any ties or connections to your (ex) fiance, because, girl, you burned all that to the ground. By the way, no one justsohappens to go for a walk, make out, and then have sex with your man's best friend. Obviously you don't love your fiance; you'd rather have some other dick. That's fine, that's on you. But you should leave your fiance's life so you don't hurt him anymore.

You f*ed this one up.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I hate to break it to you, but you NEED to tell your soon-to-be-husband. Whether the wedding is off or not is a different story, but it'd be awful to marry and feel shame for the rest of your life since you know you just cheated on him. Especially if he trusted you to commit and remain faithful to him (which is going to be lost once you tell him, sorry). Face what it is you have to face. But it sounds like to me you've accepted you've messed up so I'm not going to say anything else from here. 🤐

Daniela1982 · Answer

Honestly, this sounds like a fake story to me. No one is that stupid or that big a Ho. You have to be trolling for comments and attention. 🥱😴

selfish-and-cruel · Answer

It's hilarious. Shouldn't you now talk to your fiancé and try to solve it without having anyone beaten up or killed? You fucked it up, girl. Have the pride and courage to tell the truth to your fiancé. He deserves it, right? Apologize and disappear. The guy deserves someone better.

fafylone · Answer

Damn I feel sorry for him. He deserves better.

boggboss · Answer

Why are u even asking like y truly care u know telling him js the right thing to do but u will come up with excuses why u can't do that and it will break his heart or all that shit so what do u want

Mr_twoface · Answer

Put yourself in his shoes, would you want to be in such a marriage? Tell your fiance now and as quickly as possible before he is told by the groomsman or someone else.

EmmaMary · Answer

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exitseven · Answer

You should tell him. There is no way he won't find out. It will be really messy once you are married.

Anonymous · Answer

It's Our Anonymous Guy-Pretending-to-be-a-Girl Fake Question of the Day!

Alex-Snow · Answer

Well u were not married yet but it was wrong. I would keep it a secret cause it will definitely fuck up ur wedding or have him call it off. Was the sex any good? Was it a one and done or did he spend the night and go for round 2 or 3?

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

tell him so he can get a proper wife and leave you at the curb with the rest of the trash

JacobJordan · Answer

Relationship over well done. Destroyed multiple good things because of no self control

slatyb · Answer

Your fiancee probably slept with one of the bridesmaids. Maybe you should have an open marriage.

RavVid · Answer

You need to confess and break off the wedding. It is immoral to go ahead in these circumstances.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Admit you're a tramp and your marriage is doomed if you marry anyone. Because you give away your pussy like loose change.

CozyCoffin · Answer

Tell your fiance. It's not complicated. You're an idiot. You just ruined his life.

JayBones · Answer

You should leave town and never come back. Your life in that town is over.

Wise4myage · Answer

Yeah" can't mention what he came over for" says it all.

jahaims · Answer

Dang he has to find out his friend and girlfriend are trash at the same time.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

YOU... ARE A HORRIBLE PERSON

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