Is my boyfriend trying to force his opinions about kids on me?

[Anonymous]

So, my boyfriend and I are about to finish college and have been dating for 2 years. We're both sure we want to settle down and get married. However, where we differ is wanting kids. He's sure he wants them, but I'm not. I've told this to him many times, but he tells me, "You'll be sure don't worry" "U don't have to be scared." He even discusses stuff related to babies and pregnancy with me. I think if I'm not sure in the future as well, he'll leave me if I don't willingly give him kids. Is he trying to force his wishes on me? Or I'm just overthinking?

[Nirmroth]

Kids are a boundary I would end a relationship for, I don't know why you are still toghether. He won't be happy with you and you won't be happy if you back down and get kids.

[Asker]

Well, I'd have no choice but to raise the kids then tbh...

[Nirmroth]

Have some backbone you're in a relationship not in a onemanship it takes two and kids are a very important factor.

Worst case you spend 2 more years not changing your opinion only to have wasted them. Or you get yourself convinced but its not really your opinion but his and you just adopted it.

If you have a kid you will keep it your entire live, no turning back

[Nirmroth]

It should be a thought out and willing decision you have to be 100% sure

[Berethor]

He sure try to change you, why else he stay with you? not wanting kids is a big flaw.

[DarkLegacy]

ff you cannot make your mind up about the most natural think there is then yeah yu have problems. You are going to have to make your mind up at some point before your body does it for you.

[Iron_Man]

You better talk to him seriously about that

[Asker]

When it comes to kids, all we've had are serious discussions

[HelpfulWoman]

yeah thats kind of dodgy.

[Jones_Feb22]

are you ready that's matter most...

[Asker]

Well, I'm pretty conflicted about it. I don't hate kids, but I'm also aware that raising a child is a huge responsibility and I'm scared I might screw up... He says that "I have time" till he proposes to think about it. I don't know what to do.

[Jones_Feb22]

if you love him, and he wants you in your life...
first marriage then having kids is my way and wishes...

but having kids and waiting in pregnancy amazing... I hope you will be a better mom for sure in future