Is living together neccessary in a relationship?

[cloudy]

Can a relationship survive without living together or living together is the best way for a relationship to go on?

[drummer]

Let's start with the folks who are all for shacking up. Can you deal with your partner's morning breath on a daily basis? What about their weird habit of leaving socks everywhere except the laundry basket? Plus, there's that sweet, sweet perk of splitting the bills. Because, let's be real, adulting is expensive.

But then, you've got the camp that's all about keeping their own digs. They're flying the flag for independence, personal space, and, let's not forget, the thrill of planning those sleepovers. It keeps things spicy, you know? There's something about having your own sanctuary to retreat to that just feels... refreshing. And it's not like living apart means you love each other any less. It's more like you're choosing to love each other and yourselves, by respecting that personal space.

The thing is, there's no right or wrong answer here. It's like choosing between pizza and tacos — both are awesome, just depends on what you're in the mood for. The real deal-breaker is whether you and your partner are on the same page. Communication is the secret sauce. You've gotta be able to hash out your feelings, expectations, and deal-breakers like you're plotting to take over the world together. Or at least figuring out who's turn it is to do the dishes.

And hey, let's not forget the practical bits. Maybe you're pooling your resources because it makes sense for your budget, or maybe you're in a long-distance thing that's got more hurdles than a track meet.

At the end of the day, it's all about what makes you and your partner click. Some folks can't get enough of that 24/7 togetherness, while others treasure their solo time like a cat treasures its independence.

So, whether you're sharing a closet or just meeting up for date nights, the real magic is in understanding and respecting each other's vibes. Just make sure whatever you decide, it's making both of you happy campers. Cheers to navigating the relationship maze, with or without the blindfold.

[Mr_twoface]

I would say that in general terms, living together is necessary in order to understand each other well through the roller coaster journey of being in a relationship. It's easier to feel and act through all the ups and downs in once relationship.

However, whether a relationship can survive without living together, depends on various factors unique to each couple. Some considerations are: couples who live apart need to put in extra effort into communication and trusting one another. It is crucial to keep each other informed and feel connected. Understanding each others independence and personal time is something one needs to verbally share with each other so the other understands and respects your needs.

Couples who don't live together need to put in the effort and find the time to spend it together so it can be more focused and meaningful. It's about the quality of time, not just the quantity. Living separately can have financial implications and practical challenges, like maintaining two households. Can this be achieved in today's expensive world? Will one help share if the partner is undergoing a burden or loss of income? It's important that both partners are on the same page regarding their future.

The success of a relationship often hinges more on mutual understanding, communication, and shared goals than on the living arrangement itself.

[velvetheart]

It really depends on needs and expectations of people in a relationship.

I know a couple who have been married for about 30 years and most of that time lived in two different countries because of work. Couples who are long distance, see each other only every weekend. I know couples who are inseparable, live together, do everything together. All of these are happy (or at least they seem to be) and find ways for the relationship to prosper.

I think there is no ONE best way to go about it. Although it seems like the general consensus (psychologists say so too lol) is that you should at least try living together and travelling together before marriage (if marriage is your goal, at least). You can certainly learn a lot about a person by living together, even if you think you already know them very well...

[katiesmuff]

My husband and I just returned from a 14 day cruise yesterday and on that ship we had a couple in their mid 80's at our dining room table. They are both previously divorced with kids and have been in a non live-in relationship now for 12 years and they love it this way. They have dinner together several times a week, travel together and so on. Holidays the families mesh. So this is an example where No actually living together is not necessary for a good relationship to work.

[Finchie40]

It’s usually best to live together if the relationship is great between you both , mainly so you both can see how well you both handle each other living together before making the big decision to get married to each other , There might be things that you don’t really like about your partner that you don’t know they do , until you live with them , Why I think it’s stupid for people to wait to have sex until they are married , If your partner sucks in bed , then now you are stuck in a marriage where you aren’t being fulfilled , so now you have to go through the whole process of divorce , so on my opinion it’s best to move in together and have sex before you even consider marrying them

[Pinay_ako]

Never thought of it. But I know of couples who lived together prior to marriage and ended up divorcing once they married. But depends on the people really.

[moneymagnet24]

Ma'am why did you change your pfp?

[handsomelad70]

Perhaps, but I don't know if I would.

[Alwayreckles93]

I dont mean to ask this in a judgmental way. Were they catholic?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Not necessary, but I have a short attention span and I might forget him, if I am not often exposed to him 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[EmyyWolf]

Girl, I wish I was like you. I can’t seem to forget my most recent ex at all. And he was only a friends with benefits

[RoseySarah]

Living together without being married is one of the fastest ways to break up!

[Tinat]

👏👍

[devilish-cutie]

It can survive but it's best to live together

[imtiaz45]

Living together is not necessary for every relationship, as each couple's dynamics, values, and circumstances differ. While cohabitation can offer benefits like increased intimacy and shared responsibilities, some couples may prioritize maintaining separate living spaces for personal autonomy or cultural reasons. Factors such as financial considerations, career commitments, and individual preferences also play a role in the decision. What's essential is open communication and mutual understanding about each partner's needs and expectations regarding living arrangements. Ultimately, the success of a relationship depends on the strength of the emotional connection and the ability to navigate life's challenges together, regardless of living situation.

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[RavenBear0]

I mean it's not completely necessary depending on your situation I guess, if you're married and have kids I'd say yes it's necessary for you to be living together, if you're only dating then no not so much, it also depends on how you 2 are, are you very clingy with each other and love being around each other? If yes then I'd say it's better to be living together as long as it's healthy and not to over the top. Or do you 2 do better with lots of time apart and feel like the relationship is more meaningful because of that little bit of time you get to spend together? If so then no living together wouldn't be an important thing at that stage, so I guess it really just depends on your situation and what you 2 are like together

[Screenwriter]

Living together, as studies have shown, is not a prequel to longterm partnerships.

You can get the temperature of how a person lives without living with them.

It would be very unusual for someone to keep up a "fake" living situation to impress a potential partner.

But studies have shown that if a person lives together it doesn't forecast what longterm, marital-like partnership will be once people stop putting up a front.

Adults emulate the adult partnerships they witnessed growing up in role modeling and how they keep their homes.

So visit parent and grandparents' homes and see how they live to get a feel for what a potential partnership with that person will turn out to be.

[JoePro_]

Relationships surviving is more about the personality of the individuals and not whether or not they spend nights under the same roof or in the same bed. If you're someone who's willing to put in effort toward fixing something in the relationship that might be broken, that means more than anything else. If you have a fight, but then come back together later to talk about the situation peacefully. Then once you understand what needs to change, you're both willing to make changes to behavior, commentary, or whatever else. A little give and a little take. Etc. That's what will make the difference in the long term. Everything else is secondary.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

It actually seems ideal to me to live separately if you can afford it but not too far from each other if there are no plans to raise kids, like as a neighbors. Don't have to share laundry and can keep every encounter exciting and romantic.

Main reason I chose to live with my wife (also main reason I married her since I was finally able to purchase a home without a mortgage) is for affordability and also because we had plans to raise children.

[Horse-girl]

I think if you're planning on having a family together then it's probably best to live together for at least a year to make sure you're compatible and don't annoy eachother too much. But I guess if you're just planning on staying at about the same stage in your relationship then it'd probably work out fine. I personally would want to live together because it makes it feel more like a relationship and you can start a family of your own.

[Roxilicious]

I feel like it’s very much unnecessary if you’re not married I feel like it’s just such a bad idea I personally been in this scenario and at a really young age which was such a silly idea and yeah, It’ll lead you to a lot of heartbreak. If you’re not married, I just feel like the relationship isn’t sacred and shouldn’t be treated as such.

[sawno]

Its not required at first, I had a successful long distance relationship for two years. But the key is that there is a plan to bridge the gap and live together so you can properly spend time together and have a family if that's your thing. Mine fell apart the moment our plan to move failed and we could not find a way to live together before she could no longer spend time in my timezone.

[DizzyDesii]

I think its needed BUT I don’t think its needed until at least engaged. I don’t really want to shack up. At least with first being engaged, I see greater potential in moving forward to marry within say a year or less. My mom let her dude live with her for 8 years and after that she was offered a “promise” ring. Hell no

[Amara_09]

Yes and no


Living together has nothing to do with the relationship itself


Relationship works if there are trust, respect and reciprocation between the two people who then end up living together and even staying together for as long as possible

[mono_gram]

I feel like if you’re planning on having a serious long-term relationship then eventually you would want to live together. I would even say before marriage in my opinion so you can see if your lifestyles are compatible. But also not too soon either because you don’t want to jump into things too early in case it doesn’t work out. Also people need their personal space.

[IslaTheWitch]

so... what would be the difference between a romantic relationship and friendship? or a committed relationship and friends with benefits?

let's say that if I love this man I would like to be exposed to him as much as possible :D

[Drew-1990]

No it is not necessary in fact if you look at studies people who wait till marriage to live together actually have a higher success rates in marriage. Living together before marriage raises divorce rates

[lightbulb27]

I think spending long time together is healthy so you see each other on day to day basis. this generation different than ones in the past and their tolerance to change and commitment is less. So need to discover and work out issues.

[nawtee_me]

What is the end goal of the relationship? If being together is part of that end goal then at some point yes it will have to be. Either living together or as in marriage… I f the end goal is just dating then it really isn’t a relationship is it?

[rosemilk]

you don't have to live together. it's fine to live apart if it's what you both want or can do at the moment. i've seen it done many times. but i just think it's better to live together, it's better for the future

[catiecatie]

I’d say yes, but not during the honeymoon phase. I’d wait a year or a year and a half to officially move in together. As if you move in sooner then it can just end in heartbreak and you have to move all your stuff out or even theirs.

[Tinat]

Not really. I believe living together is never a good thing, unless you are married to each other of course. To live together as an unmarried couples is a major sin. Anything could happen. That's my opinion 🤷‍♀️.

[Anonymous]

Despite everyone who says it’s smarter to “try before you buy” so that you can be sure your relationship will last, the numbers do not back this up. You are much more likely to divorce if you end up getting married if you’ve lived together prior to marrying.

[_amelie2]

I don't think it's a must, but it can be nice. I feel like it really depends on what you guys want. If you get married and have children, it might be the best.

[HawkPerception]

No, but I think it definitely adds intimacy and makes you bond on another level.

[Unycorn]

No, it is classic Butt everyone should go their own way, as it feels comfortable

Sometimes you need compromises

[strateguy632]

not even a "relationship" like that, just frend zone. can continue surviving but as frends. yes necessary.

[Simslover92]

It's not necessary but it would be wise to live together before marriage so that you know whether you can tolerate the person's flaws or not.

[EmmaMary]

I see no point whatsoever in being in a relationship/marriage and not living together... If you ask me it just defeats the purpose.

[TonyMetal___86]

Surely there is no need to live together before marriage, also you shouldn't live together before marriage, in my opinion a man and a woman can live together only after a sacred marriage when they become a family!

[Alex-Snow]

I think it depends on what kind of relationship each of you wants. Some may be happier with separate living arrangements while others like the 24/7 company and maybe more possibilities for sex.

[Unit1]

Its not necessary, however it is convenient and practical and you get to be with whoever you love every day. It is up to the people involved to do it or not.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Yes. There are many honorable reasons why some couples cannot be together for a long period of time, but otherwise if you're not merely based on distance or money or even laziness.. Than it's not much of a relationship.

[Nikki1989]

Why wouldn't I want to see the person I love every single day.

[HelpfulWoman]

absolutely should do. especially before people are allowed to marry

[dustybiker2]

"You don't truly know someone until you live with them."

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Nope, my cousin when she was married, her and her husband lived in their own houses.

[KittygosMeoWW]

Yes, although now that I have a child it’s really hard to picture living with a man.

[summiter]

I lived with my future wife before marriage and it worked out well.

[sheikalana]

Only if that's one of your goals. If the both of you are okay with living in separate houses then is not necessary.

[Likes2drive]

Not really, if you’re married then there’s a stronger commitment because you can’t just leave so easily so it forces you to work things out instead of just jetting from every little thing

[slatyb]

No, it's not. Woody Allen and Mia Farrow famously never lived together.

[Massageman]

I would think that people have "relationships" with dozens - if not hundreds- of people without living with them.

[Twalli]

Eventually you have to. Especially if you date with marriage in mind. I won't propose to someone before we're living together.

[OddBeMe]

It’s the only way to truly know someone. Divorce occurs over the little things. Toothpaste, dirty dishes, and laundry. Not religion or kids.

[Hanrej]

There are simply too many benefits to living together that people will keep looking if their partner isn't someone they can see themselves living with.

[LaurenM1997]

No you can live separately you don’t have to be together all the time

[eds99]

My wife and I are living in separate places per her request and it is killing our relationship. I don't know who she is anymore, it's like she's completely changed so I'm going to say if it's a serious relationship it will kill it eventually

[fantasticass]

I'm sorry to hear about your marriage. I'm curious, did something happen that upset her to moved out? What is her reasoning... maybe the two of you can find some middle groud in your marriage.

[JustRosie]

We've lived together a little over 2 years and it's been good for my own relationship, but I've seen it go south very quickly in other people's relationships. I do think it's necessary at some point in every relationship to move in

[Dargil]

I prefer against it. Overnights and weekenders, sure but faking marriage too often fails.

[genericname85]

without living together yes. but without spending enough time together no.

[HotLentilzzz]

I would love to live alone in a relationship but i just dont trust the man to not cheat

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

I dont believe so, however I do think living together is a condition toward progressing a relationship to the next level.

[JayBones]

Absolutely not. My Aunt dated a man happily for 30 years after divorcing my uncle. Never lived with him. Happiest couple I ever knew.

[Tractorguy13]

Yes the relationship can survive but it really depends on each individual relationship

[Peridot25]

I say it’s between the couple. People are going to do whatever works for them.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes living together is neccessary long term.

[Yannae]

I don't believe it is, but living together can be a good test.

[alexandraa1]

I'd like to live with my long-term partner when it comes to that, yes. With short-term, not so necessary.