Should people just stop complaining about being ghosted in 2024 because it's pretty much the norm now?

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It's pretty much the norm now.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Well, no one should complain FOREVER.

But there are rude, unmannerly things that have become "norms." Doesn't mean they're right and doesn't mean they're acceptable.

If you're ghosted by someone who doesn't matter to you, well, that's one thing. Forget about them. But being ghosted by an old friend can be devastating.

What did you do wrong? How has this happened after all the years you've been friends and what you've meant to each other...

It's terribly hurtful, and I don't know about you, but I don't have a lot of friends. I'm close to about five or six people I'm unrelated to. In the past 7 years, a good friend ghosted me right before she died. She has an excuse. Still stung. But the other very good friend just disappeared. I saw him on a zoom retreat, sent him a missive and he never responded. Again, stung.

Have no idea what's happened between us and I feel sad that I can't make amends, or they simply didn't say, it's been nice, but good-bye. Closure is important.

But if it's impossible because someone who mattered ghosted you, I think it might have more to do with THEM than with you.

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

People are still getting ghosted? I would think people would be more confident with just saying I am not interested or I change my mind in terms of going out with you

blueonblack22 · Accepted Answer

Well if anyone you try to date could be a potential ghoster then why take the risk? Who can you trust? Why make the effort to getting to know somebody? This is dangerous and destructive for both men and women

In the digital era this started as female behavior. She thinks the guy will “get it” if she ghosts him. She’s really being a selfish coward but she rationalizes that it’s the easiest way to go about rejection.

But now men are doing this to women (which is also cowardly and wrong). And suddenly it’s getting more attention because women are experiencing how painful it is.

Funny about 5-10 years ago feminists were going around saying “the friendzone doesn’t exist”. But they are no longer saying that. Why? Because more women are now getting friendzoned themselves (because more approaching men) including feminists. They now can see exactly how that feels.

Anyway I dunno if the ghosting culture will improve. But women DO listen to OTHER women. And if they hear other women complain about this they might think twice about doing it to someone else.

TonyMetal___86 · Accepted Answer

Some people are just trying to become ghost busters 🤣

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Jumping right in! The ghosting phenomenon, huh? It's like the unwelcome Halloween trick that keeps on giving, no matter the season. Here's the deal: while ghosting seems to have become a modern-day love tale tragedy, brushing it off as the norm isn't doing anyone any favors. It's about respect and communication, folks! 💔

But let's not get too gloomy. Every "boo" you get is a chance to reflect, learn, and move forward to someone who appreciates your worth. Remember, it's not you, it's them missing out on the fabulousness that is you. 😉

So, should we stop complaining? Maybe not. Let's call it sharing lessons learned. After all, a shared ghost story around the campfire of dating life can be quite bonding. What's your ghost story? Slide into my comments; let's swap tales and tips! 👻💕

HawkPerception · Answer

I think it should always be known that ghosting is the incorrect way of doing things that shows a lack of respect and care for the other person. It's very simple to say "Hey, didn't want to leave you hanging, but I don't see a fit with us. I wish you all the best though!" That gives you closure and let's you not dwell on the past. Is it that hard for people to say that?

Good behavior should always be encouraged and negative behaviour should always be discouraged.

jshm2 · Answer

Being "ghosted" is something no amount of money, status, education or ego can "fix". So it's why it upsets people, as it hit their insecurity and worthlessness just right.

People feel entitled to closure and satisfaction. It's a mental disease most have. People like to talk "equality" and "freedom" - until someone uses theirs in a way they don't like!

Ghosting is just that, in most cases. They are not wasting more time on you, not even to cuss you out. That tends to burn most weak minded people.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

I perfer ghosting rather being risk of getting punch in the face or much worse end up on national News that two inviduals shot one another because for whatever reason. All because people hate ghsoting I had to witness physical fights. Gosh my grandmother is right silence is the smartes thing to do. I don't care what people say. Silence aviods conflicts. I ghosted my sister guess what arguments had stop.

Anonymous · Answer

I have a certain philosophy in life and that's treat others the way you would want to be treated. We live in tough times man, economically, socially, and other areas of life. We normalize taxes and interest and inflation when in reality that's all BS. Society normalizes bad behaviour especially for corrupt politicians invoking trust in those political "leaders" but why do we accept bad behaviour, is this the new norm which includes ghosting? Nah, it's heartless, its childish/immature. Grown ass adults above age 25 should not be dressed like emos/goths. I can understand a 17 yr old who's acting rebellious and wants to "shut out the world" but as we get older there should be dignity and respect.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Because people have no empathy these days and don't want to deal with consequences. Only they put themselves in more danger by doing it in my opinion

Bricealan · Answer

I don't know, Coach. I never knew what that meant anyway?

Booklover_90 · Answer

No. It needs to be exposed as much as possible. Ghosting is rude and unacceptable.

Dargil · Answer

We all should be more choosy before we hang out heart on anyone. My feeling is that if you get ghosted, you served them something they didn't like. And I think people have a cruel streak. They like inflicting harm for its own sake.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

If I get ghosted then I know I’m being ignored and also I move on cause if I text and text and text it would make me look desperate

Anonymous · Answer

No, I want to complain! It hurts and it’s unnecessary. Why can’t people just be honest? Tell the truth. Grow some balls.

laly520 · Answer

ig yes its pointless to complain if they wanna ghost then thats it

Anonymous · Answer

Kinda--yeah. Like, you can choose not to do it yourself, but you should expect people, companies, everyone really, to do it to you all the time.

handsomelad70 · Answer

A bit different importance, but that's like saying that because we blacks have suffered from U. S. racism since 1619 , we should be used to it and shouldn't complain about it. Wrongs towards people ARE NEVER RIGHT and mustn't be normalized.

Anonymous · Answer

No one should complain forever. But the fact that it has become the norm is an issue. I think you at least owe a person the courtesy of a message saying that whatever was there is now over. In a polite way as well. Anything else is just. Cowardly and rude I think.

Nikki1989 · Answer

They really need to grow up and get over it.

NathanDavis · Answer

I'm still not dating online... maybe by 2026, I might venture...

msc545 · Answer

It's actually very appropriate to complain about being ghosted since it represents cowardice on the part of the person doing the ghosting.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I’m more surprised people are still attempting to get into relationships anymore

magiusX26 · Answer

i'ld take it step further and suggest people just stop dating/hooking up altogether.

grega239 · Answer

Im suprised people still want to date considering what a joke it is

thegreenyogi · Answer

Yeah I think that's a fair equation.

douride2 · Answer

Just move on & stop whining about it.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

or do everything to not let this happen...

Anonymous · Answer

I respect the dead

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