Do you think someone who remains single and childless by choice for their whole lives can truly be happy?

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sukumamu · Accepted Answer

Even if you want to find "the one" and never happen to, that doesn't mean you can't have meaningful friendships, be in a job you love, do things you love to do, etc. A loving husband/wife and/or caring for one's own children may be a PART of many people's formula for happiness, but in my opinion if you require these things to feel happy at all, you're missing huge chunks of life that can be just as rewarding, if not more in some cases.

Just as an extreme example, people who are aroace (aromantic asexual) literally can't feel romantic feelings towards potential partners, and aren't drawn to people sexually. Doesn't mean they HAVE to be single or anything, and doesn't mean they can't have sex or even enjoy sex. Just means they don't have the same impulses and temptations as most people. A lot of them are single by choice and are perfectly happy for it. So if someone were to say that everyone HAS to be in a relationship to "actually" be happy, that could be read as an insult for some folks in the aroace community.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

I think it can take a lot of courage to choose a path like that which bucks the normal societal trends but of course. Happiness should always come from within before people choose to have relationships. In a perfect world we should all begin from there. I often think that many seek a partner and perhaps even seek to have children because of norms rather than actively choosing it. Before I met my current partner 13 years ago I was resigned to that decision. Different circumstances yes and for different reasons but still arriving at the same choice !

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Studies show childfree adults are reliably (statistically relevant amounts) more happy than parents. Makes sense - kids are really hard work and very stressful and expensive.

Single, I don't know, but I know many older people who are single and they are quite happy being so.

I'm single, plan to be for a few more years before actively dating, and am very much enjoying my life. Oddly, my sex and social lives are much better now than in any of my relationships, lol!

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

My one friend (she was closer to my mom’s age and like a second mom) remained single and no children and she was happy with her life… sadly she passed about 8 years ago…

Not all single people are unhappy or lonely just like not all people in relationships are happy… And you can still be lonely in a relationship if it’s not the right fit

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I think that they can maintain an appearance of happiness, and many will say that you can’t miss what you never had, but. . . When you are 60 years old, alone and childless, and you see friends planning holiday gatherings with children and grandchildren. . . I think you ARE going to miss what you never had.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Yes 🙌. Not all married with children are happy either.

Avicenna · Answer

Sure, not everyone is happy with the same things in life

imtiaz45 · Answer

Yes, someone who chooses to remain single and childless can absolutely find happiness. Happiness is subjective and can be achieved through various life choices and pursuits. What matters most is living authentically and fulfilling one's own desires and aspirations, regardless of societal expectations or norms.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I'm pretty happy being single at the moment. I've always been happy being childfree. I see nothing to say that is going to change at this point. When I get some job location stability worked out I'll go back to dating. In the interim it gives me more time to work on my physical recovery and my rescue kittens.

Account · Answer

Of course. Happiness is not something that can be steady for any person in any situation (even for those who wanted children and have children and are in a relationship) , but a single person with no children can be perfectly content with the life they chose, yes.
Not everyone wants the same things. People need to remember that.

genericname85 · Answer

of course. being happy is a decision you can make at any point in time. it's not a factual thing that depends on factual variables. there are obviously things that "On average" make people happy or less happy. but the fact that these things vary from society to society means that it's not related to reality and facts but merely how one decided to feel about thigns.

magiusX26 · Answer

yes. the simple fact that happiness comes from within each of ourselves proves that. expecting happiness via others and material things is going to leave one unhappy every time. the reason hapiness can ONLY come from within is because it is an emotion. you control what emotions you feel, no one else. when you think someone else controls your emotions, it is because you are allowing their influence to superceed your own self control.

Paul09 · Answer

Why do you need to have children? I'm happy without kids. I play with my friends kids no problem. I love them like an uncle. But I get to go home to peace and quiet. I'm pretty happy to have plenty of time to do whatever I want. But yes I do t want to be single anymore. I would like to find "the one" to spend the rest of my life with. Then again people seem so hard to trust.

MikeyObrien · Answer

Depends on what you mean by single but I would much rather have a friend with benefits or booty call than a relationship. It a lot of Is unnecessary stress and standards start to drop. Don't believe me? Look at pictures of your parents when they first married and look at them now, I'm willing to bet they are fat slobs now.

At3mis24 · Answer

Yes, I will live a happy single life if my soulmate rejects me, sure! Being in a relationship is just a bonus, not the whole thing

sage2021 · Answer

I don't believe anyone can truly be happy for long periods of time. Happiness isn't something that you get and never lose. It's a fleeting emotion.

BCRanger10 · Answer

I don't necessarily think they'll be completely miserable, but I have to wonder if they'll be happy to the same degree as those with loving families.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I mean if they had no desire and found something else that could actually fulfill them in life, of course.. How many people actually go on and find it, is questionable..

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

Yep. Some people have no desire for a relationship. Nothing wrong with the Golden Girls lifestyle of hanging out with your friends as an elder

DaisyM23 · Answer

yes because happiness doesn't come solely from romance or having children

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is possible but far more unlikely. Loneliness kills.

HawkPerception · Answer

My honest opinion... not later on in life. But I do think they can be happy early in life.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I don't see why not :) so many things to do and enjoy.

Peridot25 · Answer

You have to remember that not everyone is the same and doesn’t want the same.

Unit1 · Answer

Contrary to what MGTOW keeps repeating? Absolutely.

Starrrboy · Answer

Childless? Yes... Single? Nah, doubt it.. it's gonna bite you sooner or later lol..

JayBones · Answer

Absolutely not. Every single one regrets it. My sister in law works Hospice care.

_justimagineit_ · Answer

Yes 🙌. Not all married with children are happy either.

ilovepeaceee · Answer

Absolutely why not? There's people married with kids absolutely miserable.

Charles47 · Answer

I think so. None of my relationships ever made me much happier. Sadly

HelpfulWoman · Answer

Easssssssillyy

Dinklex3 · Answer

If that’s their choice, of course.

QuickToAsk · Answer

Ve-ry  happy.

sheikalana · Answer

I'm not sure.

laly520 · Answer

if thats what they want then yes

NewgodOmega · Answer

Depends on that person

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

There are a lot of people who don’t have trouble

DextroShade · Answer

Unlikely, especially if she's a woman.

CandyLandAm3ircan · Answer

Not Possible They Gotta Be Lonely

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I'm proof.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure. Why not?

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

sure

Xia1994 · Answer

yes she can.

Yannae · Answer

One hundred percent.

jahaims · Answer

Duh.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Yes absolutely

Anonymous · Answer

Nope

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