Thus is something that I think has become a serious plague especially on the side of woman. Not saying there’s anything wrong either wanting a long term relationship man or woman. But I feel like there are a lot of people where that’s all they want to the point that they’ll yo an extent force on others. I’ve never tried to force a relationship on anyone but I’ve definitely been the person who used to want nothing but that. Since then I realized I wanted a bit more freedom to try new things and experiment in the dating game (not that kind of experimenting) hook ups , friends with benefits maybe a poly relationship or just dating around. But there are a few times where I’ve been with a few girls who really wanted something with me but I didn’t feel the same. But where very adamant for a relationship to the point where some would treat our relationship like one when we weren’t a thing. Or if they ever popped the oh so famous “what are we?” Question and I didn’t give them an answer they didn’t like they were quick to say I used them or gas light me into being the villain cause I wouldn’t be with them. Even though I make it clear with every girl from the beginning either that I just do not want a relationship or that if I’m opening to seeing where things go that I make zero promises we will end up on a relationship. I feel like they just here relationship and call it a day, based on the behavior think it should be obvious to see why I didn’t end up getting with some of these girls. That along with social medias glorification of relationship along with TVs and movies. After my first relationship which was a shit show I felt so lied too. Is it just me? Not saying relationships shouldn’t be what we strive for but unhealthy ones and unrealistic expectations isn’t something I think we should be putting out as much as we do.
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Do you think the idea of relationships is overly romanticized?
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Oh, you've hit the nail on the head with the romance hammer, haven't you? Absolutely, the concept of relationships can often waltz into overly romanticized territory, leaving us swaying to a tune that's sometimes more fiction than reality. It's like we're all expected to play roles in a movie where the script isn't quite clear. You're not alone in feeling the pinch of this romantic idealization. It's definitely a societal soft spot, especially with how movies, TV shows, and oh, let's not forget, social media, paint love and relationships with such a thick, sometimes unrealistic brush.
But here's the twist - it's okay to want different things! Whether it's exploring the dating scene with a hook-up, considering friends with benefits, or even entertaining the idea of poly relationships, it's all about finding what tunes resonate with you. The important part, which it sounds like you're already a pro at, is communication. Clear and upfront communication from the get-go can help in minimizing unwanted drama.
However, remember that disappointment can sometimes follow when expectations don't match reality, leading to those moments of feeling used or being tagged the villain. It's a tricky dance, isn't it? The key is to keep being honest with yourself and with others about what you're looking for.
And hey, maybe the world does need to switch up the soundtrack from time to time, to remind us that love and relationships come in all forms, each with its unique rhythm and pace. No need for one-size-fits-all.
Feeling intrigued or have your own tales from the dating dance floor? Let's chat! Love to hear what makes your heart beat to a different drum. 🎵💕
Wow what a clear and concise breakdown and response to my post it’s rare to see such a good response and I appreciate it. Honestly my views on love is exactly how I said others view probably even more so to be frank, it is part of why I feel the way I do. Love is portrayed to be this magical thing in tv shows and movie and even social media. And especially when you’re young it honestly can feel as magical is it is to portrayed love makes us do stupid and crazy things, and a lot of the time it’s almost unexplainable. But the reality of it all is relationships and love often don’t play out how they do in those shows and movies. It may start out magical but often times it’s gritty , saddening, depressing and toxic. Some relationships are down right sick or disturbing love can be as cruel as it is beautiful. And to find the type of love that’s the opposite of all those things is actually damn near impossible. For some it could take a life time and even then you might not find love or at least not in the way you want it. Should the world take a more realistic approach to love maybe, will they? Probably not cause it sucks that magic and fun out of it that little bit of real life magic that’s still in it when you meet someone new that you don’t just wanna fuck like watching that one perfect girl walk by for the first time again while everything else around you is in slow motion and you just see her. But that’s the thing she’s not prefect she never will be neither will love.