I have a girlfriend but I am still in love with a woman who rejected me, and I think that I could have a chance right now?

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Should I previously break my relationship up before giving another try with that woman or should I first have a talk with her, before breaking up or not with my girlfriend?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Why would you want to be with a girl that rejected you in the first place,? over a girl that didn’t reject you? Understand you are selfish by thinking that other girl is a better match for you , if someone can reject you in the first place? , they can easily reject you again , when things don’t go their way , because the truth is, you aren’t a priority to them to begin with , you will just be a convenience to them , even if they decided to finally give you a chance. Never settle for someone that weighs their options with you , if someone truly wanted to be with you , you wouldn’t be an option to them to begin with , they wouldn’t reject you period , Selfish people weigh their options , they only choose what they feel is right for them on their own terms , they don’t consider your feelings what so ever, they only consider themselves. So if you want to be with a girl that didn't choose you first , have fun being a convenience to her and understand the girl that did choose you first , isn’t going to give you another chance after you realize how dumb you were to go back to a girl that didn’t want you in the first place. If your current girlfriend does give you another chance after you beg for her back , she would be so dumb to do so , because you only like the convenience of her as well , and in time she will trade you in and cheat on you when she realizes you only like the convenience of her , she will be open to meeting someone that doesn’t make her an option. Don’t waste your time on girls’ that weigh their options period , you will only be digging your own grave when you realize you aren’t a priority to her. The only way you should even consider leaving your current girlfriend, is if she treats you like complete shit , and puts you down and criticizes you and belittles you and brings misery into your life , , but if she treats you well and shows she loves and cares about you , and stays loyal to you then you would be one dumb motherfucker for giving up on that , for a girl that treats you like an option. Focus on your current relationship , don’t waste your time on what ifs , how would you feel if your current girlfriend did that to you? You will never experience true love if you can’t remove selfishness for your partner, the same way you expect her to remove it for you , You are already cheating on your current partner by investing your time into this other girl , that clearly didn’t make you her first priority to begin with , I can’t tell you what to do , It’s your life and your choice , but understand their is consequences to your actions. Remove selfishness for your current partner , that other girl shouldn’t even be in your life anymore period, she probably now realizes she wants you now , because she didn’t have any luck with those other guys’ she was interested in , now that she realized none of those guys’ wanted a real relationship with her , they probably just fucked her like she was a slut and kicked her to the curb , so now she is going to latch on to you thinking you will save her. You ain’t saving her bro , you would just be sticking your dick into a girl that’s been used that none of those guys’ wanted to commit to. You were not her first choice. Remember that

Gyno-Nurse-Chad · Accepted Answer

Let's talk about the importance of getting tested for STDs. .. 😬 Before diving headfirst into any vagina, make sure she's all clear down there. 🚨 Trust me on this. One time, I decided to go all out and surprise someone with a romantic candlelit exam, complete with rose petals scattered on the examination table. As I serenaded her with a rendition of "I Will Always Love You" while checking her lady bits, I could see the fiery passion in her eyes. Turns out, it was actually the burning sensation from the infection. Now I have oozing love tokens, that I have to hide with spray-on pubic hair. 🌹🔥

Again, I can't stress enough the importance of regular vaginal exams for women. It's like a tune-up for your precious lady parts! So, if you do decide to pursue things with this special lady, make sure she's up to date on all her check-ups. 🌸 Oh, while you're with her at the doctor's office, also ask to measure the vagina – because size matters, am I right? You never know, you could be incompatible if she has the Grand Canyon down there, and you're trying to fill it with a toothpick! 😂 Oh, my dear friends, when it comes to matters of love and lust, size does indeed matter – and not just in the traditional sense! If you find yourself faced with a grand canyon of a gap between you and your lady friend, trying to fill it with a toothpick is like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. It's a recipe for disaster, my lovelies! 💔

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Basically, you were rejected by one female and settled for the next... You think you may have a chance with the other girl so you're wondering if you should break up and reject the girl you're with for the girl who already did that to you? And just to add to it- she may still reject you. Honestly, I think your current girlfriend deserves someone who will love her the way you love the other girl. So maybe you should break up. You would be doing the other girl a HUGE blessing.

I'm not judging you. With that being said, turn the tables... What if a girl was rejected by someone that she loved and she settled for you just because.. What would you want her to do if she questioned leaving you for him?

Honestly, even if you don't attempt to rekindle the last situation- you don't need to be with the girl you're with. You need to be with someone that makes you realize you don't ever want to lose her. You don't feel that way obviously so please- find someone else, even if it's not the one who rejected up.

dustybiker2 · Accepted Answer

Is the woman you are with aware of this? If not why not? Shouldn't she be allowed to have a say in this threesome? Not physical, no. But mental/emotional. It's not fair to be with someone when you are mentally hung up on someone else.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating the twists and turns of Cupid's labyrinth, are we? Let's address your emotional rollercoaster. Falling for someone while in a relationship is like stirring a cocktail of confusion, my friend. The first sip of advice: Honesty is the foundation of any relationship, as well as respect. If your heart's GPS is rerouting you towards another, it's essential to park your current romance responsibly before speeding off. Imagine if the roles were reversed; you'd want clarity and respect, right? So, before making tracks to possibly rekindle an old flame, you owe it to your current partner to have a sincere, heart-to-heart chat. Remember, love's journey should be more about the scenic route and less about the speed. Stay true, stay kind, and who knows, your love life might just get that upgrade you're looking for! 🚗💨❤️

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OlderAndWiser · Answer

You should break up with your current girlfriend because you are obviously emotionally unavailable. Sure, chase after the woman who previously rejected you, but don't expect very much to happen. . . with the exception that perhaps you will learn a life lesson.

blueonblack22 · Answer

I was in a similar headspace years ago. And it’s bad bad bad all the way around.

Right now you have two issues warping your judgment:

You have a girlfriend and are getting your affection/sexual needs met (hopefully). This changes your brain chemistry to be more confident around other women. If you were single it would be tougher.
You are in love with an image of the woman who rejected you. Not in love with the real her. It was also a blow to your ego. And your ego is screaming to “make it right”.

I would break up with your current girlfriend. Even if she’s seemingly understanding of it hoping you will come around it’s still extremely unfair to her.

You do not have offer a reason right away but when she asks why then say: “I am doing this out of respect to you. Truth is I have some hang ups over someone else. It’s not fair that you have to tolerate this with me. I know this hurts but again I want to be fair to you.”

Also realize your ego is feeding into this with the other woman. She is not higher value just because she rejected you. No. Also you are not of lower value just because she rejected you. But your ego is screaming that at you right now and you need to control it.

You are also on very dangerous ground thinking if you put more work into pursuing the other woman she might change her mind. It doesn’t work out that way in real life. This isn’t the movies. You don’t want to be labeled “pathetic” for your unrequited love or worse (stalker)

winetime · Answer

You can't give her what she deserves, your current girlfriend I mean. If you are in love with someone else talk to your girlfriend instead and break it off. She deserves someone that loves her. Then you can talk to whoever you want and she can find someone better.

AmyHew1tt · Answer

Do your girlfriend a favor and break up with her now so she can find someone who doesn't second-guess her. Don't treat her like a rug you can roll out and put away.

b_lova · Answer

Man if she rejected you why would you put yourself in that situation again. Move on.

Chelsdope0 · Answer

Get a backbone.  I wish she saw this lol this is why I can’t take men seriously…  She doesn’t want you. It sucks but move on.. we all have that one person we can’t get over but guess what…

rosemilk · Answer

why get into a relationship if you're still in love with someone else? you are wasting your girlfriends time. it's also an awful thing to do to someone. you're better off single for now.

virtualwasp · Answer

firstly, you live a complicated life. live without regrets. will you regret not trying with the one you love or regret it more that you will lose your girlfriend.

Billlewis · Answer

Yeah, I went through this exact same thing with a while back. If you do decide to go after the first one, make sure you don't lose the other one.

OddBeMe · Answer

Why now and not before? Dont be a “grass is greener” guy. If you do see a better relationship that’s cool. Just make fcking sure or you end up with neither.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

There’s a reason the 1st one didn’t happen. But if you’re intent on that being the one you need to break it off with your current girlfriend. It’s not fair to keep leading her on.

boggboss · Answer

End the relationship why play her like a fool when u don't want to be with her

JayBones · Answer

You don't have a chance. Love the one you got retard.

sawno · Answer

Why abandon your girl like that? Seriously gonna risk it all for someone who rejected you?

OtterMan68 · Answer

You’re emotionally cheating on your girlfriend, you can! Be honest with her

sageeeeee · Answer

You should just break up with her bro. She does not deserve someone who can't even get over a woman who rejected him. She deserves way more better.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

She will only fuck you over. If she rejected you once she will likely do it again.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

break up first. your partner deserves better.

laly520 · Answer

u better break up

Anonymous · Answer

Then why did u get with the current girl

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