I've found myself getting very jealous about small things, like small interactions my girlfriend has with other boys, and the fact that she reads smut (this drove me crazy but I never said anything to anyone). How do I overcome this jealousy? It's irrational and it really annoys me.
I think you need to find out why exactly you’re getting jealous. You said you don’t have the fear that she might leave you and that you trust her completely, but are you sure? Do you feel like you’re not good enough for her? What’s the worst scenario that comes to mind when you do get jealous tho? When you feel jealous, do you feel the negativity more towards your girl or is more towards the other boys/the smut stories?
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Don't overthink something.. if he's good for you and right for you he will actually always be with you, if you confront him and complaining oh.. it's a drama for guys, they dont need that kind of person.. you just have to "dont care" about everything.. really..
I felt this way as well when I first started dating but what helped me stop feeling so jealous was to openly communicate my feelings to her and she also is open to me about how she felt and that helped us both have a better relationship with eachother and build more trust
As a longtime victim of this phenomenon, I can tell you unequivocally, that when properly managed, monitored, and ultimately channeled efficiently, jealousy one most powerful, awe inspiring forces on earth. You just have to handle it judiciaiously. ❤️
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Ah, the green-eyed monster has got you in its grips, hasn't it? Jealousy, that sneaky emotion, can tiptoe into our lives without a loud knock. But don't worry, it's just proof you've got a big heart that cares deeply. The first step to taming this beast is acknowledging it, just like you've done—kudos to you! Now, it's all about building trust and understanding that these tiny interactions don't mean your relationship is in jeopardy. Communicating your feelings openly with your girlfriend might also shed some light on perspectives you hadn't considered. Remember, love isn't about holding tighter but giving freedom and earning trust. And while we're at it, why not spice up your own reading list? Perhaps exploring your interests together could lead to an exciting chapter in your relationship. Keep steering through these waves with love and trust as your compass; you're on the right track! 😉
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u r still young n will figure it out growing up
reading smuts is fine n if she has normal friendly interactions with boys then its also fine
focus on trusting her more than getting jealous n overthinking
for boys it is not small at all.
for smut you are overreacting.You said that your jealousy is irrational : what kind of behavior do you have towards your girlfriend?
You are still young and immature. You will snap out of it as you grow older.
You’re insecure. what do you have to be jealous about if she is with you?
Nothing. She picked you. She could’ve the others but didn’t.
Trust. You trust your partner or leave
How does her reading smut matter?
Suicide.
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