Girls, Would you accept a guys downfalls then use those against him in the relationship as well as breakup?

[Anonymous]

Being transparent I thought would be the best practice so I was upfront about having Asperger’s syndrome, having obsessive compulsive disorder, ptsd. So she started bullying me in the relationship accusing me of doing stuff on purpose. So I went out and bought material so she could better understand me she never had time to read the stuff or she was always too busy. The bullying continued she wouldn’t act normal when people would talk about the future of the relationship. Then one night she goes is there a possibility of the kids having autism cause if so I don’t want that for my future I replied I don’t know cause I don’t it’s not a guarantee. Weeks later she starts bullying me in my car on the way to the grocery store and I pull over and have her get out she walks home and calls her mom and says she can’t be with a guy who drops her off and forced her to walk home. She had hit me when she was losing in a video game to me, she hit me when I didn’t have a fast reaction to the dog doing something. She would constantly get in my face in a physical manner knowing as a guy you really can’t do anything. She constantly made light of her sister threatening me cause it was bad before this point that I wanted to break up but her sister threatened to kill me if I broke up with her. Her sister was also living with us she was very disrespectful and didn’t have job she laid up all day ate all our food in the fridge and constantly did drugs in our apartment even though we said she couldn’t. I would come home expecting to be able to eat something and it would be gone and I would be pissed her and her mom painted me as a villain and I’m inhumane for her sister not having anything to eat so basically anytime I got DoorDash or Ubereats I had to get her something too.

Updates

1 mo

Appreciate all your opinions

[Daniela1982]

You can only be used if you allow it and don't speak up. Her sister should have been kicked out of the house on her ear as she was just a mooching drug addict. If I were you, I would just leave and get my own place and write them out of my life.

[Asker]

I wanted to she refused to do it actually I believe that I wanted her to go and when she said she wasn’t then I said ok then I need to exit and I wanted to break up which led to her temper tantrum and her sister threatening me

[Daniela1982]

Like I said, if you allow it then you really can't cry about it. You do have a choice.

[Asker]

So what was I to do I had no where to go

[IslaTheWitch]

As a fellow Asperger's... the first rule is to not get into relationship with someone who doesn't UNDERSTAND our way of thinking or reacting. Another rule is, you have to have a therapy to take care of PTSD, OCD and whatever can be worked on in autism. It's not an excuse we were born like that or we had such experiences. We just have to work more.

[Anonymous]

Your situation, no. Certain things, yes. If I told him every day that he had a big peepee then when we breakup, I would reveal the truth.

[Asker]

Yeah more often than not my deficiencies were made fun of and not taken seriously or completely ignored. She wouldn’t talk through things she would just do stuff. As a person on the spectrum I’m used to routine and even that was hard to find at home because I would come home and she would have the apartment completely rearranged and didn’t give me any warning

[Opinion Owner]

She did this on purpose. she's horrible. You deserve better

[Anonymous]

I avoid people like that. Life is too short to deal with it.

[Asker]

I had no idea they were this unstable