I’ve got a girlfriend I’ve been seeing for 3 months. 2 dogs and 2 kids. She is great without the two little dogs, but I can’t stand them, move on?

[Hansomedevil69]

I like the kids but the two dogs it’s like they are an all the time deal, can’t be left alone, I can’t stand them. She wants them to sleep in the bed, I’m like not a chance. They are pugs really cute if they are someone else’s problem. I get ignored when they are around like they are the only thing that matters. She thinks it’s ok to cuddle the dogs all night while I’m by myself. She is like cuddle me. I’m like Not while your cuddling dogs., they stink have bad breath and snore. I’m feel like her 5th most of the time. Should I ask her to get rid of them or just move on?

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+1 y

I listened to you and had a talk with her and she has agreed to no dogs in the bed and they will be away enough I can’t hear them whine. We are moving in together because I found us compromising over the dogs has brought us closer together.
I like all animals and ultimately I like the dogs too, they are super friendly and just young still, they will get better. What kind of person would ask someone they love to get rid of animals they have had before me. She agreed no more though.

[molonski2]

NO NO NO.. no way they are sleeping in the bed , make sure that's a never.

Look , like you generally I like dogs , but dogs are dogs , and I get really pissed off with this humanisation of dogs , pushing them around like babies and the like. Sadly , I can't see this woman changing , and this one just has to be a deal breaker I'm afraid , I did have this once in my life and I lasted 2 weeks.

I also have a friend ( a mate ) who has managed to push aside every female in his life with what he calls " The bitch " , its an unhealthy friendship.

[molonski2]

Thanks for the update , but be extremely careful that those dogs dont continue to make progress , they are DOGS , and always remain so , not humans.

[Mr_twoface]

Sadly I guess you have to move on. Be an gentleman about it and share your thoughts with her. I doubt she will let the dogs go... At least you can, if you want, continue the friendship.

[sheikalana]

Honestly I couldn't be with someone whose pets are dependent on them. I know it's a lame excuse to breakup with someone I mean if you really love her tell her this is a huge turn off for you but would like to make it work and find a solution. If you're not that invested in the relationship then break things off before you kick the dogs LOL.

[Apple1996]

Crazy that the dogs are a bigger issue than the kids 😂

[Hansomedevil69]

Kids are actually really good, no complaints about them. At 41 it’s unlikely to find girls with no kids. I’d be single forever.

[AI Opinion]

Embarking on a romance adventure with someone who's got a full circus—kids, dogs, and all—definitely adds extra flavor to the concoction, doesn't it? Now, asking someone to choose between their pets and you can be akin to asking them to pick between chocolate and vanilla when they adore both. It's a delicate dance, my friend. Instead of heading straight to the "it's me or the dogs" ultimatum, how about seducing the situation with a heart-to-heart chat? Express how you feel like the fifth wheel in this love wagon and suggest some compromise. Maybe there’s a cozy dog bed that could become their new favorite spot instead of the human bed. Remember, it's about finding that sweet tune you both can groove to, not turning off the music. If the rhythm just can’t find its sync, then perhaps moving on might be the kindest step for both your hearts. But give love a chance to rewrite this paw-printed script first! 🐾💫

[Hansomedevil69]

Way past that, bud, I live somewhere I can’t have dogs unfortunately it’s a rule. There is a heated shop I can put them up in with a heated blanket. She requests that I break the rule even though they are loud and would get busted for sure, big fine possible eviction. Over them staying in the big shop that is safe and warm instead she would rather get a hotel that is like an hour from my house and I have to wake up early to drive 2 hours into work. Fine but that can’t happen every night or even once a week. I’m not sleeping with the damn dogs and probably not getting any anyways because they are there. Sounds like a bunk deal to me.

[WhitneySnow]

She won’t get rid of them. You’ve either got to put up with them or dump her.

[WhitneySnow]

Awesome!

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's taken you 3 months to realise you don't like the dogs?

[Hansomedevil69]

Long distance at first and the dogs were not involved for the first few months.

[Dbtr99]

A pet is a lifetime commitment, I’d never get rid of my pet for someone, you’re kind of a jerk for suggesting that. Just tell her you don’t like having dogs in the bed.

[Hansomedevil69]

I realize this but how am I a jerk for having boundaries?

[Dbtr99]

Telling someone to get rid of their pet because you don’t like it.

[Dbtr99]

I’m glad y’all came to an agreement and hopefully she doesn’t put them in the bed anymore. That can cause allergy issues and dogs aren’t always clean so I see that argument.

[midnightmoon05]

When I was on a dating app…guys with pictures of cats…I pass…I’m allergic to cats.
your situation? Move on.

[Hansomedevil69]

Not allergic to dogs, I am a warm person and they gravitate to me so right up next to me, I don’t mind the cuddles. I do mind not being able to move at all. Or how about when they light up a silent but deadly beside me. I doubt they would understand why I’m giving them a Dutch oven in retaliation.

[midnightmoon05]

To your update… so you are moving into her place?
3 months…may still be a bit too soon… but up to you.
And good luck.

[Hansomedevil69]

No getting a place together, it benefits us both. For me so I’m not driving 2 hrs to work and 2hrs back. For her so she can have me, dogs and her kids in the same place, and her ex can’t control her with the fact he has a more consistent place for them. He’s a terrible person both kids do not want to be there.

[midnightmoon05]

Just make sure the relationship is stable and finances are inline … it’s a lot to take on from knowing only 3 months.

[Anonymous]

okay, do you just hate animals and dogs? you can't be trusted as a person. what a weirdo.

it is pretty weird to break up with someone because of their dogs. but you'll be doing them a favor.

[Hansomedevil69]

I think you’d do a favor not talking.

[Opinion Owner]

i'm not talking, i'm typing ya dummy! LOL
also, i think you'd do a favor (is that English?) of not being in a relationship.

[poshspice123]

I say have an honest conversation with her… but yea some people may take it personally. Some women bend as well…

[CallmeTheKnight]

Bro that crap isn’t gonna work out. Just cut your losses and move on. Find someone for you and she’ll find someone for her.
I honestly think you don’t want to be with her anyway

[Anonymous]

You should probably just move on. I feel your pain. If my boyfriend had two dogs, I don't know if that would be a deal breaker but if he carried on with them how she is carrying on with them then I probably would call it quits.

[Anonymous]

Spend some time bonding with the dogs, because they are part of the package. If you can’t adapt, move on to someone else. She isn’t going to change.

[Anonymous]

If you are triggered by 2 dogs, you will be triggered by many other things as well. You are NOT relationship ready.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

thats a really shallow judgment, sleeping with animals in the same bed is not very usual and not hygienic

[Hansomedevil69]

Really because I’m not a dog person that makes total sense.

[Paul09]

First I'd take the dogs over kids any day. Second it dies sound like she babies the dogs too much. Third that poor breed should stop being breed. If you can't handle the dogs , leave.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

they sleep IN the bed? I'd be out too. Move on dude, you dont deserve to be third place in a relationship

[DextroShade]

Move on bro. This chick is broken if she can't put you ahead of her fucking dogs, and that's not even getting into the fact that she's a baby momma.

[Anonymous]

share this with her , and talk to her , and come up with a solution that works for you and her at the same time , if no , then just break up

[serious_miss419]

Show her this post you made and asked all of us.

[Saykonx]

Move on

[Anonymous]

Work it out