As a person who is. unattractive in the face mostly and no woman ever expressed any interest in me, is it bad that I believe in the "blackpill" ?

[Anonymous]

Yes. It is bad.

No. It is not bad.

[Lionman95]

I would say yes though I understand why you do. The problem is that mindset has an influence on success in dating. Since mindset determines how a person lives their life, a person with a low self confidence doesn´t leave the house often and doesn´t eat healthy but instead gets food delivered that´s cheap and maybe tasty but it´s not good for the body. The worse you think of yourself the less likely is the chance that a woman will find you attractive. I also took longer to understand that the way one dresses and a guy´s body language have an impact on how a woman perceives a man. It´s not just your physical attractiveness that plays a role. So believing in the blackpill and saying: "I´m unattractive I´ll never find a woman.", can kill your dating chances and make you miserable nonetheless.

[Asker]

I eat healthy and tryti worknout regularly. I am in looksmaxxing so I try always to become better.
I agree with the self esteem things though. At least partially...
I am not miserable. I like my life.
I think my life would have been much worse if I didn't realise the importance of looks.

[Lionman95]

That sounds good so I would specify my original post in saying it can end bad. I would just advice you not cut yourself from the possibility of a relationship and tell yourself: I´ll never be in a relationship. Because a relationship can provide one with a different perspective on life and it can create something that´s meaningful. Looks are important for sure but they are not everything. I´m not saying you should chase women because that might end worse. If you like your life then enjoy it.

[Asker]

Looks is the most important thing. As far as relationships are concerned, If something comes, it comes but I am not going out of my way for something due to the way I look.

[NamerOfStars]

Biological determinism is no less stupid- and no less dangerous- than biological denialism.

Despair is the coward's way out.

[Asker]

We are determined by our genome and epigenome. Nothing stupid or dangerous about accepting that.
Also I am not desperate. In fact my life became happier, healthier and merrier after I found the ''blackpill''.

[NamerOfStars]

And that's why all the Thalidomide babies died in infancy, and Stephen Hawking died at 26. Why we can't survive outside of the African savanna, and living past forty is a pipe dream for most of us.

Of course you're not desperate- you don't feel the pressure because you've already surrendered. But those of us who haven't know better.

[Asker]

What '' those who haven't surrendered'' know?

[NamerOfStars]

That biological determinism is no less stupid- and no less dangerous- than biological denialism, and that despair is the coward's way out.

[Anonymous]

What is the blackpill?

[Asker]

To me, it means that looks is the most important thing in attraction.

[Asker]

If you do not have them. No matter how good your "personality" is, doesn't matter.

[Opinion Owner]

Well that isn't bad per se but I don't believe that's necessarily true.

[Asker]

It is very true. Good looking people are just treated better. Putting aside the relationships.
There are many articles that prove it. Also many articles that prove that looks are the most important thing in attraction.

[NathanDavis]

it's stupid

[Asker]

Far from it.