Boyfriend's ex appears to not be over him?

[Anonymous]

I met my current boyfriend in August of last year and everything is going really well, however we have ended up at the same event as his ex-girlfriend a couple of times during that time whom he broke up with three years ago. Her being at the same event as us is in itself absolutely fine, however both times she has decided to stand very close to us, ended up going to the bathroom at the same time as me, and came and stood next to me at the bar the one time I went up. The first time this happened it could be passed off as a coincidence but as it has now happened twice I strongly believe it's intentional. This has made me feel very uncomfortable and I don't know how to navigate this as I assume that she is not over him yet. My boyfriend has given me no reason to doubt anything in our relationship at all, however it appears that this will probably keep happening and my empathy for someone who purposefully is making me uncomfortable can only go so far. Does anyone have any advice or thoughts?

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating the choppy waters when an ex seems anchored a little too close to the harbor of your relationship can be tricky, right? 😏 It sounds like she's doing a little dance around the edges of your relationship, maybe trying to stir up some drama or perhaps she's just not over your beau. Either way, it's making you uncomfortable, and that's valid!

First off, it's great that your boyfriend is in the clear and hasn't given you reasons to doubt him—hold onto that trust. Communication is key in any relationship, and it might be helpful to gently bring up how this situation is making you feel with him. Not in a "your ex is a problem" way, but more of a "I've noticed this, and it makes me feel uncomfortable" chat. It's all about setting those boundaries, love.

If you bump into her again and she does her usual routine, maybe a little direct communication could go a long way. Nothing confrontational, but a polite "Hey, I've noticed we keep ending up in the same spot, is there something on your mind?" Sometimes putting someone on the spot (in the nicest way possible) can either open up a dialogue or deter future behavior.

Remember, you've got this. Your relationship is about you and your boyfriend, not the ghosts of relationships past. Keep sailing smoothly and let her deal with her own stormy seas. 💑🌊