Is it normal to sometimes worry about my girlfriend's romantic past?

[ForevrLonely29]

I am her first serious boyfriend, first kiss, and I took her virginity. She is 26; I am 29.

But she did mention to me one time she had boyfriends in high school. I guess they weren't much of a big deal back then because she didn't kiss them. That, or they were very short-term.

But it sometimes bothers me. I don't know... I am just afraid to ask for details. Sadly, me and her can no longer say we grew up together or knew each other during our youths. We met during our adulthood. However, other guys may have gotten that chance.

Yes

No

[IslaTheWitch]

it looks like you have too much free time if you worry about totally normal events in life... maybe learn some new skills to keep yourself occupied and not overthink too much...

if it bothers you - talk to her. Open communication in a serious relationship is a MUST!

[Anonymous]

It’s normal to sometimes feel jealous or bothered about the other guys she’s been with in the past but hey, she’s with you now. You’re the special one that took her first kiss and all. Why does her past matter if they never even kissed. Those other guys didn’t even get the chance to kiss her while you get to be her first serious boyfriend. Don’t mess it up and just look forward to the future with her, don’t dwell on her past.

[236color]

Her "romantic past" is irrelevant. This expectation that you will ever be the only one a woman in her mid twenties will have ever considered romantic lyrics is delusional. If she's currently cheating on you, ok you've got a complaint, but if you're tearing yourself up over what might have happened before you got together, you are too insecure to have a relationship.

[LiamJHayden]

To worry might be common, but unless you are concerned because she had been abused or something and is projecting that upon you, it is pointless. At our ages, we should expect that we are not the girl's first love and that she, like we, will have some baggage from less than pleasant experiences.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the world of relationships, it's like being at a buffet with all sorts of emotions on the platter. Feeling a tad worried about your partner's romantic history? Totally normal, my friend! 🌟 It's like wanting to read the earlier chapters of your favorite book to understand the current vibe better.

However, let's put on our love goggles here – what matters is the now. You and your lovely lady are writing your story, one kiss, one shared memory at a time. Sure, she mentioned past high school sweethearts, but you, my dear, are the leading man in her romantic saga. You're her first in ways that count deeply, forming a connection that’s beautifully unique.

Embrace the journey you're on together. If curiosity is tickling you, a heart-to-heart chat could clear the air, but remember, it's the love you share now that's the blockbuster hit. Don't let the extras cloud your scene. Keep the focus on crafting those unforgettable moments together. After all, in the grand love story of life, it’s the chapters you write together that sparkle the brightest. ✨

[ForevrLonely29]

Lol, I wouldn't say "sweethearts". She didn't even kiss them, so I assume maybe they were a short, 2 week sort of thing. Who knows.

[Miristheiss]

If you don't like her past then don't commit to her and make her your girlfriend. No one is holding a gun to your head that you have to be with her. There are 4 billion women. If her past grosses you out or bothers you that is your gut telling you she is not the one.

Don't commit to her and make her your girlfriend, your one "special" girl.

Here is the truth. Many men care about sexual exclusivity to their special girls. WOMEN DO NOT CARE. (about a man's past) that is why they so often shame and act offended that a man doesn't like her past. Men don't shame women for liking men taller than them, liking confident, successful men that have passions. Women, however, expect men not to care about the things that they do. Women expect to f around all they want and then for the past to just ***POOF*** go away.

Marrying and having kids with the former town tramp isn't a win for guys. It is 100% to not like her past or to accept it. If her past is too much, LEAVE.

[Alwayreckles93]

Oh my goodness their is something seriously worng with you! You was avirgin when she came to you. You do realized 26 year old vurgins are very rare now a days. Yet you are having secound toughs? Grow up your acting like a jelous college boyfriend. You are about to be 30 not 20 . Your not young anymore so you better be thinking about marriage with this girl. Rediculos at your age why aren't you married yet?

[handsomelad70]

Twenty-six-year-old "vurgins" and twenty-six-year-old virgins are as rare as Detroit Pistons victories the past three seasons. Personally, I'd wonder about a non-religious man who expected a 26-year-old woman to be a virgin.

[Alwayreckles93]

@handsomelad70 I apologize Sir. My phone spell check ca get out of control and hoes off like crazy.

[ForevrLonely29]

I do still love her and I absolutely want to be with her. Sometimes it comes to mind, but is not consuming.

[ForevrLonely29]

And I never said that I didn't want to to be with her. I absolutely want to be with her.

[Alwayreckles93]

Yet you ca talk to her like adults your acting like a 13 year old child that's had his first girlfriend. Boy childhood is over. Relationships will alays have ups and downs.

[JacobJordan]

What romantic past? She had a childhood relationship that is akin to a best friend of the opposite gender that you spend time with. They didn't do anything so clearly it wasn't that deep. I mean really mate are you worried she hugged the guy? Cause that is about the only thing they could have done

[bobby_bush_eater]

Bruh if you are her first basically everything I have no idea why you are worrying about that. You're 29 years old thinking about her high school past when she didn't even have a first kiss? That's honestly nuts. Reading this title I figured it was going to be some OF girl.

My advice is get over that completely, you're 29 and if this bothers you and it doesn't work out with her, good luck finding a girl with as clean a past as that as you continue to get older.

[Anonymous]

It just means you are insecure, inexperienced, immature or all three combined.

[war_daddy]

you're already her first kiss and sex partnery, what more do you want you freak?

[ForevrLonely29]

Maybe I am just overthinking things

[LazerBean]

So sad that she wasted her virginity on the likes of you. Major L

[ForevrLonely29]

Not true. I still love her.

[LazerBean]

Not all love has value

[Lliam]

There's so much wrong with you that it would be pointless to explain.

[laly520]

yes

we worry as humans its all natural just dont sabotage urself

[handsomelad70]

Yes. Though this is supposedly evolved (?) 2024, lots of guys still believe they should be their girl's first.

[exitseven]

It is normal but if you do it too much it will make you crazy.

[Anonymous]

Yes it is , a leopard cannot change it's spots.

[rosemilk]

what exactly are you worried about?

[In_Trance]

I don't know what there is to worry about

[KrakenAttackin]

You can't turn a hoe into a housewife.

[handsomelad70]

I DIG that.

[Goku1001]

Yes!