Do you think leaving someone for someone else/leaving because you think you found someone better, is cheating?

[Slim57]

Yes I do

No I don't

[Pinay_ako]

If you were already talking to that new someone before leaving your current, yes it’s cheating. If you’re talking to someone taken, yes that’s cheating too. Even if you’re single but you know they’re taken. You both cheating bruh. Your turns are next 😂

[Anonymous]

Things to consider here:

• you started interacting with this other person while you were still in a relationship.
• you obviously weren’t happy with the current relationship you are in yet you stuck around using the other person as a placeholder.

I was used as a temporary “placeholder” once and it was beyond horrible. She didn’t want to be lonely and wanted my attention/affirmation just in case things didn’t work out with the other guy she really wanted. She was a selfish piece of sh*t. But the universe had a sense of justice and the other guy ended up burning here and she deserved every inch of it.

From my life observations it’s more common for women to do this instead of men. They seem to always have their eyes peeled for a better deal and yet don’t want to cut the rope and risk being alone.

[coachTanthony]

No it's probably bad decision making because if you knew how to choose someone then you wouldn't be choosing someone else.

[jennifer_bloom]

If you actually leave then it’s not cheating. If you double invest by liking two people while continuing with one person, it’s cheating.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the ol' switcheroo – ditching your current flame for a potentially brighter spark? That's not technically cheating, lovebirds, but let's not pretend it's a move of the year award, either. Cheating's about betraying trust by breaking the rules of your relationship – sneaking around, secret texts, you know the drill. Deciding to leave because someone else has caught your eye? That's more about realizing maybe you weren't as into your current relationship as you thought. Still, it's mega important to handle the situation with honesty and care. Breaking up before making up with someone new is the respectful way to go. No one likes feeling like a backup plan, right? So, while it’s not cheating in the cover-of-darkness sense, it definitely doesn’t win you any good partner points. Always best to be upfront and kind, even when things are getting complicated. 🌟

[bobby_bush_eater]

If you do it honestly and correctly breaking up before acting on it and not openly planning a relationship first then no it's not cheating.

If you're openly plotting with another person while still dating another then yes it is. Be honest and respectful to someone you once loved and end things properly

[NathanDavis]

I think it's very low... and very wrong, now... if you were switching feelings while you were in a relationship, that's as bad as cheating

all of this is bad either way

[IslaTheWitch]

If you are transparent and you tried to fix whatever didn't work in your relationship, so your partner is aware of the reason for the break up - it's OK... not every relationship will survive

[TonyMetal___86]

Okay but that's after they leave each other, not like when they are together, she leaves because she found someone better!

Or not leaving him because she found someone better!

A decent woman won't even look at other guys while she's in a relationship, no matter what's happening she will keep herself for her man until they feel that it's impossible to continue together and their issues cannot be fixed at all, after making the decision to break up, THEN she can look for other guys, as you have mentioned...

[IslaTheWitch]

@TonyMetal___86 it doesn't work that way. As human beings we have our needs. If our partner can't or foesnt want to secure our needs Sooner or later other person appear on the horizon.

What I mean - its normal that if we can't secure our needs here we will look somewhere else. In the end we all want to be happy.

But it's important how we will do it. Our partner can help us solve the problem if we share with them what we need. But can also happen it will be beyond their capabilities.

And then is time for a decision. Can I secure my needs in any other way in this relationship? If yes, we continue, if not - we break up.

[TonyMetal___86]

WoW! So your husband will be living under tests, if he fails and you find better, you break up with him and if he succeed you stay 😄

I'm surprised, we are really VERY different from each other, i don't know what man will accept to live under experiments, unless he wanna put you under test too and once you fail, bye bye! Who's next 🤣🤣

[IslaTheWitch]

@TonyMetal___86 what tests? I can't follow you way of thinking.
When you are in the relationship and you don't agree you make a compromise. You try if it work. Because nothing is set in stone. We are living beings and we feel. So after some tome one of partners realize that this compromise doesn't work for them at all. Do what thdn? Should speak to their partner and look for another solution or grit their teeth and endure it?
I believe people should talk and look for working solutions
I'm also a realist and I know that not everyone is able or willing to do everything needed to make other person happy.
and this is where break up is the best option.

[TonyMetal___86]

Ah ok, now i agree!
Now your explanation is more clear, if the compromise is working good with both of you but someone you knew turned out to be better, will you be a loyal wife and stay with your husband no matter what or just dump him cause the man whom you knew is better?

For example: he is rich and good looking and have better traits...

[IslaTheWitch]

@TonyMetal___86 there is no someone better. If I decide to be with someone it's consciously made decision. I don't assess other people as possible partners.
The only reason of break up for me is when the relationship doesn't work and there is no will to fix it up

[TonyMetal___86]

👍🏻👍🏻

[Daniela1982]

No, more like the relationship/marriage is over. The only thing left to do is sign the papers and move on.

[TheorionMage]

Depends upon whether your straying partner ENLIGHTENS you as to what your competition he/she has... does... that YOU presently DON'T do!

ALL relationships have a natural arc... sometimes its just the 'magic's run dry.

[alice55]

It's not cheating but that's an assholes things to do.

[Delle123]

Yes, absolutely. Most of the time people end up regretting their decision. Unless your current partner is abusive or toxic, people usually regret it.

[Anonymous]

Not if you end it with the other person first. I mean it MIGHT make you a shallow, egotistical person (since you didn't post the specific reason (s)). But that's not the definition of a cheater.

[Anonymous]

Depends if you're already "involved" with the new person or not while you were in the process of breaking up

[handsomelad70]

Yes, though I personally would have to think hard about whether I'd do it, because theoretically, you promised yourself to your partner.

[Cheapskate]

I don't understand why people get so butthurt about being dumped for someone else.

Would you rather be dumped for. . . singledom?

[slatyb]

Cheating would be seeing both of them and putting to one or both.

[LaurenM1997]

Yes both is and if you don’t think that then you need to get your eyes tested

[Pudsmucker]

Sometimes you have to leave somebody to improve yourself especially when that person will put you down

[Lottydotty]

Competition always makes better product. We're always in competition.

[Starrrboy]

It's devastating , but no.. it's not cheating.

[laly520]

not if done after breaking up with em

[TonyMetal___86]

True as long as she didn't broke up with her man because of the other guy!
That's what loyalty means

[laly520]

yes agree

[wiltingrosepetal]

No, that's just a way of breaking up

[TonyMetal___86]

It's worst than cheating or equal to it!

[dustybiker2]

Not as long as you separate first. Respect is key.