Do you think leaving someone for someone else/leaving because you think you found someone better, is cheating?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Things to consider here:

you started interacting with this other person while you were still in a relationship.
you obviously weren’t happy with the current relationship you are in yet you stuck around using the other person as a placeholder.

I was used as a temporary “placeholder” once and it was beyond horrible. She didn’t want to be lonely and wanted my attention/affirmation just in case things didn’t work out with the other guy she really wanted. She was a selfish piece of sh*t. But the universe had a sense of justice and the other guy ended up burning here and she deserved every inch of it.

From my life observations it’s more common for women to do this instead of men. They seem to always have their eyes peeled for a better deal and yet don’t want to cut the rope and risk being alone.

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

No it's probably bad decision making because if you knew how to choose someone then you wouldn't be choosing someone else.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

If you were already talking to that new someone before leaving your current, yes it’s cheating. If you’re talking to someone taken, yes that’s cheating too. Even if you’re single but you know they’re taken. You both cheating bruh. Your turns are next 😂

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

If you actually leave then it’s not cheating. If you double invest by liking two people while continuing with one person, it’s cheating.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the ol' switcheroo – ditching your current flame for a potentially brighter spark? That's not technically cheating, lovebirds, but let's not pretend it's a move of the year award, either. Cheating's about betraying trust by breaking the rules of your relationship – sneaking around, secret texts, you know the drill. Deciding to leave because someone else has caught your eye? That's more about realizing maybe you weren't as into your current relationship as you thought. Still, it's mega important to handle the situation with honesty and care. Breaking up before making up with someone new is the respectful way to go. No one likes feeling like a backup plan, right? So, while it’s not cheating in the cover-of-darkness sense, it definitely doesn’t win you any good partner points. Always best to be upfront and kind, even when things are getting complicated. 🌟

Sanders333 · Answer

This is a fine line. If you are with your partner acting like they are your world and someone new enters your life and you just run to them and start planning a relationship without any real care for your current partners feelings and you break up with them like you are just changing your underwear.. then yes it is still cheating.
If you break up with your partner and then meet someone after the fact and become romantic then it's not. The truth is you should only find someone else and do any of those things after talking to your partner about your feelings and also do it with care. It also depends on how serious and long the relationship with your ex partner was. Also if you do all these things very fast it is a very bad and hurtful thing to do as you have obviously been using your partner as a placeholder for a long time and this shows dishonesty and bad character (that's a nice way of putting it too believe me)
Most people know that this is wrong and demonize their partners to justify their poor decisions and unkind nature.
Basically if you are rushing it and being a cunt it's still cheating, if you are not then a gold star for you 👍🏼

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

If you do it honestly and correctly breaking up before acting on it and not openly planning a relationship first then no it's not cheating.

If you're openly plotting with another person while still dating another then yes it is. Be honest and respectful to someone you once loved and end things properly

NathanDavis · Answer

I think it's very low... and very wrong, now... if you were switching feelings while you were in a relationship, that's as bad as cheating  all of this is bad either way

IslaTheWitch · Answer

If you are transparent and you tried to fix whatever didn't work in your relationship, so your partner is aware of the reason for the break up - it's OK... not every relationship will survive

Daniela1982 · Answer

No, more like the relationship/marriage is over. The only thing left to do is sign the papers and move on.

TheorionMage · Answer

Depends upon whether your straying partner ENLIGHTENS you as to what your competition he/she has... does... that YOU presently DON'T do!

ALL relationships have a natural arc... sometimes its just the 'magic's run dry.

Anonymous · Answer

Not if you end it with the other person first. I mean it MIGHT make you a shallow, egotistical person (since you didn't post the specific reason (s)). But that's not the definition of a cheater.

alice55 · Answer

It's not cheating but that's an assholes things to do.

Delle123 · Answer

Yes, absolutely. Most of the time people end up regretting their decision. Unless your current partner is abusive or toxic, people usually regret it.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends if you're already "involved" with the new person or not while you were in the process of breaking up

handsomelad70 · Answer

Yes, though I personally would have to think hard about whether I'd do it, because theoretically, you promised yourself to your partner.

Cheapskate · Answer

I don't understand why people get so butthurt about being dumped for someone else. Would you rather be dumped for. . . singledom?

slatyb · Answer

Cheating would be seeing both of them and putting to one or both.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Yes both is and if you don’t think that then you need to get your eyes tested

Pudsmucker · Answer

Sometimes you have to leave somebody to improve yourself especially when that person will put you down

Lottydotty · Answer

Competition always makes better product. We're always in competition.

Starrrboy · Answer

It's devastating , but no.. it's not cheating.

laly520 · Answer

not if done after breaking up with em

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

No, that's just a way of breaking up

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

It's worst than cheating or equal to it!

dustybiker2 · Answer

Not as long as you separate first. Respect is key.

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