I am married and can’t stop sleeping with my best friend’s brother. I either go to his place, he comes over to my place, or we meet up somewhere at the park, hotel, motel, or hiking trails.
It’s a choice , you are choosing to cheat on your husband for whatever reason that may be? You don’t really love your husband , you just like the convenience of him , because if you really loved him? you wouldn’t be cheating on him period. Unless your husband knows you are cheating on him , than that’s a different story. Sadly this sort of thing happens a lot in relationships and marriages. I had my fair share of married women and girls’ that were already in relationships that I slept with , that weren’t happy at home with their spouse or their partners’ Some of the girls’ lied to me about their relationships and some were honest. I got to a point in life that I really don’t care what her relationship status is anymore because so many people lie. So I am all about honesty , if a girl is honest with me? her chances of ending up in bed with me increases. Mainly because I am sick and tired of lies and dishonest people. No matter what we choose to do in life? , their is always consequences to our actions, if she wants to cheat on her partner with me , that’s her problem not mine , All I tell her is don’t drag me down with her , if the shit hits the fan with her partner. And her partner confronts me? I am going to tell him the truth about everything. I already was confronted by a husband and I honestly felt bad for him , I told him the truth about everything. I didn’t give him every little detail , but enough to let him know that his wife is lying to him and that he should really reconsider staying in that marriage with her especially if I was in his shoes . For whatever reason he took her back into his life. That was a shock to me to be honest , but again, Not my problem. So my advice to you is to just be honest with your husband and let him go , let him go find true love because sadly you are being selfish by stringing him along , while you are cheating and betraying him and your marriage , you clearly want to be with the other guy you are having sex with , since you are spreading your legs for him. In all honesty it’s the right thing to do , it will just be a matter of time before your husband finds out that you been betraying him and cheating on him , he is going to be more upset that you been stringing him along Put yourself on his shoes and think how you would feel if your husband was cheating on you.
Of course it’s a choice. Quit looking for someone to tell you that you somehow still a f*cking “victim” in this because you are not.
You are just a cheating hoe who has no respect for her husband. But you are hoping someone on here will tell you “oh it’s okay” to protect your precious ego.
Just divorce your husband if you want to do this crap. You obviously have no respect for him a anyway. At least then your actions would be legitimate.
You don’t see men posting stupid questions like this fishing for sympathy. Because we know we aren’t going to get it. Scumbag or not we are held accountable for our actions. And yet I always see women try to self justify their crap on here.
The proper question you should of put up is “I have been cheating on my husband and I make no excuses for it. But what should I do now?” But nooo your too precious to admit you are doing wrong. Oh you delicate blameless flower.
I am so sick of women who refuse to take accountability for their shitty decisions. Like they are just so powerless over their own emotions. It’s only getting worse in society too.
Cheating is a choice. How do you live with yourself doing that to the man you married to!
Why did you marry him?
That man you’re cheating with, do you think he’ll ever take you seriously? Do you think he’ll ever sees you as a potential wife in case your marriage doesn’t work with your current husband?
If you can’t handle commitment, and traditional marriage don’t work for you. It would be simpler to discuss open marriage with your husband, it’s doable these days, and you wouldn’t have to feel guilty about it, and your conscience would be clear because you’re not being dishonest with yourself or him!.
That also depends on which country you’re located.
Both.
It's a mistake because it's the wrong choice.
It's a choice because nothing is forcing you to be a slave to your hormones.
In the realm of love and relationships, cheating is less about slip-ups and more about deliberate paths we take. Whether it's driven by emotional needs or physical desires, it reflects a choice made in the moment, not an accidental stumble. Being entangled with your best friend’s brother suggests a pattern, rather than a single lapse in judgment. This recurring decision indicates deeper issues that might benefit from some introspection or professional guidance. Remember, the heart wants what it wants, but our actions are in our control. It might be time to evaluate what you truly seek from this connection and how it impacts your marriage and friendship. Lovebombing ourselves with justifications can only cloud our judgment for so long.
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Choice... nobody slips and falls with their genitals bumping and grinding.
It starts with little choices of cheating, and then it progresses. If you take a step back from the choices you consider acts of cheating, you'll see a big long line of choices that were leading in that direction.
To further what I'm saying... think of that saying, "Once a cheater, always a cheater" and then ask why that is? It's the pattern of choices and they all lead in that direction and they will again and again et cetera.
When you meet someone new and they tell you they've cheated on someone before... that's why it's a red flag. 🚩 They made all those sets of choices before, and they'll do it again. They get used to making the basic choices that lead to the other choices.
So what? You accidentally tripped and fell on his dick? You made a choice to be a whore. You can stop and you choose not too. Good news is your husband will find out and divorce you and then you will be whining about how no man wants to commit to you and when you are 60 or 70 and alone with no one to care for you you will look back at your life and ask yourself why you felt it was a good idea to be a slut when you had a husband who cared for you and provided for you. Personally I approve of the Roman's approach to cheaters. The person affected (in this case your husband) was allowed to stab the slut and the 3rd party. Wonder how fast cheating would stop if we did that.
Anyone who claims cheating to be a mistake is just trying to weasel out of it by not taking responsibility for their own behaviour.
Will people agreeing with you and telling you it's a mistake make you feel better? Probably.
Even though it will likely tear your husbands heart from his chest and leave him with paranoia and trust issues for the rest of his life...
You should tell him that you're not worthy of him and that you should get a divorce because you chose to cheat because you view your husband as inferior. Not only to yourself but to another.
If he was truly enough for you, then the thought of cheating wouldn't even cross your mind.
It is a choice. If it's the wrong choice, then I guess you could say it's a mistake, but that does not absolve you of being responsible for making it. I find that cheating is often a series of choices that lead to cheating. Maybe a choice to text the other person, or saying something provocative. The choice to go to a location where you know the other person is. The choice to flirt with another person. The choice to ride in his car or go to his place. If, from the very beginning, you don't put yourself in the position for the cheating to easily happen, you can prevent it. But I believe ultimately, you need to fix whatever may be lacking in your marriage so that cheating isn't even a consideration.
Cheating is a choice - that is done with Malice and Forethought, it is NEVER a mistake!
If you want a relationship with best friend’s brother, divorce your husband and let him move on with his life. You want to "have your cake and eat it too" and in the end that will not happen as sooner or later your husband will catch on (if he hasn't already and is gathering evidence) that you are cheating on him and depending on his personality it could go as easy as a 50/50 split and nothing happening to the best friend’s brother, or at the worst you husband could go 'scorched earth' and wreck the lives of you and your family, the best friend’s brother and his family, and him and his family, and at the very extreme end up taking the lives of all three.
I've see the last one happen and it was very, very messy.
A mistake is getting shit faced and waking up the next morning to find someone misunderstood what you were saying and you didn't realize what was happening.
Cheating is getting on your phone, flirting, setting up a time, coming up with an alibi, dressing up nice, traveling to another person and inviting them to get naked with you and your partner didn't know about it.
Of course if you had told him beforehand then it would have just been swinging
I'm going to disagree with everyone who will probably criticize you for having an affair with your friend's brother, and I applaud you for being bold enough to seek out the intimate sexual fulfillment you so richly deserve. I hope your relationship with your clandestine lover continues for a long, long time, and that you both experience ever greater satisfaction as well.
It is a choice. In your case it is a choice that you decide on a regular basis. You make a plan to meet this guy and you get in your car and drive to his place and then decide to have sex with him. Your husband will eventually find out if he already hasn't already.
Choice. No one is forcing you to stay in a unhappy relationship. You decided to betray the one person you not supposed to. You're also old enough to know already. Not sure why you're pretending to care to a bunch of strangers. I guess you'll take attention anyway you can get it 🤷🏻
Unless a person can prove they were raped cheating was a choice. In your case cheating is 100% a choice. You have chosen to cheat multiple times and have in multiple places. Your husband deserves to know the truth that you don't love him or care about him. He deserves to know you cheated on him multiple times in many places.
It is a choice, and it indicates that you're either unhappy or you're missing something crucial with your current partner. It would be better to talk to your husband first before cheating but what's done is done.
both... it is both... you are doing because something is missing in your marriage.. so finding this missing part is harder than finding enjoyable things with another hot attractive men... dont say your best friend that you are sleeping with her borther..
I guess in extreme circumstances it could be considered a mistake , your partner has a twin 😝 but otherwise it’s Always a choice I reckon. We can all makes mistakes and do but committing to the same mistake over and over again well your not in a lapse of judgement or I wasn’t thinking straight after our argument territory you have arrived in the land of your a shitty partner /wife and honestly an awful person and you need to take a long hard look at yourself
If u become aware of the pattern /emotional needs triggered/the time u feel most wanting to cheat then u can stop it , but try not stopping it bc u can't fight it , don't start a fight trying to not chezt bc you'll end cheating more , just be aware of it and let it happen ALLOW it to happen and then eventually you'll stop cheating bc it's making u suffer
which wouldn't be good It's a choice that turns into a mistake you make the choice to cheat you don't have to cheat but if you choose to then that's your choice but if you tend to keep doing it then it becomes your mistake that you keep repeating
Cheating is obviously a choice, your actions prove that you never loved your husband.
Cheaters are selfish creatures, they exist without empathy, without a soul. They are monsters of the worst kind. They are narcissistic sociopaths. They aren't human, they are less than human..
It's a choice dear. A mistake is something that we do unwillingly or when we are unaware. When someone's cheating they know exactly what they're doing they could either stop or go on and you chose to go on. It's a choice.
It's a choice your making the conscious choice to go and betray your partner and ruin your marriage for a good time.
A mistake is doing something once realizing it's bad and not doing it ever again.
Darlin your a repeat offender.
Choice. There are multiple decisions that have to be made long before the physical affair starts. You can choose to stop and NOT cheat at any point before that.
It is the choice to make a mistake. But sometimes the mistake isn't the cheating but rather the choice to stay too long in a relationship you don't actually want.
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