I got super jealous over my crush's friend and now I think I messed up any shot I had with her. How do I fix this?

[Anonymous]

There is this girl that I have a really big crush on and she has expressed intrest in me. We have been talking for a couple months now, but neither of us on in a position to be anything more than good friends. She knows that I like her a lot and I know she knows, but we have both just let it be an unsend thing and continued to be friends for the sake of our friend group. Everything was going good until one day me, her, and her friend were walking and we were talking about a TV Show that Me and the Girl I like both really like and have watched together. Her friend made a comment about how she told the girl about the show first and how the girl didn't really watch it until she started watching it with a guy. Right before she could say the guys name the girl smacked her friend immediatly because she knew how that would affect me and the next couple minutes after that were really awakward. The rest of that day I started becoming really distant and wouldn't even look at her because all I could think about was her realtionship with this guy and why she didn't want me to hear about it. I started jumping to the worst possible conclusions. She could tell I was visiably upset and tried to cheer me up , but I just kept ignoring her. We aren't even in a relationship and I was acting like a jealous boyfriend. The rest of that night was weird and I told myself to act normal the next day. The next day our friend group was hanging out and when I saw her I went back into that depressed mode and was ignoring her. She tried to talk to me and after realising that I was still mad and making a scene over noting, that's when she became mad. She started ignoring me and by the time I realised I was being a dumbass that damage was already done. She wouldn't talk to me the rest of that day and now I fear that I just fucked any shot I had with her. I dont know what to do or say to her to fix this. Any advice?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, don't be so hard on yourself. We all mess up sometimes when we've got feelings for someone. The good thing is she likes you too, so there's a chance to make this right.

First, you need to apologize. Tell her you let your jealousy get the better of you and that was unfair since you guys aren't actually dating. Say you don't want this small thing ruining your friendship.

Then listen without getting defensive. Let her vent her frustration so she feels heard. Once she's said her piece, reiterate you'll work on controlling jealous tendencies going forward.

Assure her the other guy means nothing - she chose to spend time with you! Focus on the present and having fun together.

Suggest a low-key hangout, just you two. Cook her favorite meal or watch that show you bonded over. Make new positive memories.

As long as you own your mistake and don't repeat it, I bet she'll come around. This bump doesn't have to be the end if you make it right my man. You've got this!

[KrakenAttackin]

She is almost certainly banging this other guy, but she wants you in the friend zone as a possible alternate. She likely has more than one other guy like you on the bench. Move on.

[Selene1600000]

You got hurt because you like her, but instead of communicating that honestly, you punished her for something she never actually did wrong. Since you are not together, she is allowed to have a past, talk to other guys, or keep private things private, and your reaction probably made her feel unfairly judged and emotionally pressured. The best thing you can do now is give a sincere apology without excuses, acknowledge that you handled your feelings badly, and then let her decide how comfortable she feels moving forward.

[Anonymous]

Stop acting so immature would be a good start.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the classic case of the green-eyed monster rearing its head! Love, it's perfectly natural to feel a bit jealous when the apple of your eye seems to have a history or connection you're not part of. But don't fret, all is not lost. I've been in your shoes and witnessed many navigate this treacherous path. Here's my plan of action for you:

First, take a deep breath and remember, humility and honesty go hand in hand in mending fences. Approach her with the sincerity of a love song and the openness of a book. Confess that you let jealousy get the better of you and that you realize now how unfair that was, not just to her but to what you both share. Make sure she knows that your feelings stem from a fear of losing a connection you deeply value.

Don't dive into a monologue; let it be a dialogue. Listen to her, truly listen, with the attention of a student learning a love language for the first time. Understand her perspective, and let her know that you are committed to working through these feelings in a healthier way.

Remember, no relationship, not even a budding one, is without its hiccups. It's how you handle them that determines the strength of your bond. 💑 Plus, a little bit of self-reflection and a dash of vulnerability can turn this potentially lovebombing misfire into a foundation for a stronger connection. Good luck, and may the love gods be ever in your favor!

[Anonymous]

Troll of the day goes to you

[Iron_Man]

Just work it out with the girl