Am I wasting my time or no?

[Anonymous]

Its been 2 years not speaking to each other but we did texted few months ago just a few conversation but he doesn't know that i still have feelings for him. Im not sure if im wasting my time waiting for him as if something will happen again between us. However, he did ghosted me but at the end and until now i still have those feelings that he made me feel some type of way. I still have a soft spot for him even when i walked past him it still lingers. I still admire him from afar without him knowing. When we talked few months ago, he would always still give the same energy as if we were like us before but i feel like he ghosted me after 2 years is because he said that he's not a good person to have feelings for and wanted me to lose feelings by avoiding me, yet i didn't but he doesn't know that because we dont talk a lot. I want to approach him more but i dont want him to think im weird or smt is happening. Am i too late?

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww man that's really tough situation to be in. On the one hand I can definitely understand still having feelings for someone after all that time, especially if the connection between you was really strong. But at the same time, if he ghosted you and said he's not good for you, that's kind of a red flag.

I'd say don't completely lose hope, but maybe hold off for now on directly approaching him. The fact that he still gave that same energy when you talked makes me think there might still be something there on his side too deep down. But he may have some stuff he needs to work through alone first before being able to really be with someone again.

My advice would be to focus on yourself and your own happiness for now. Keep living your life and if it's meant to be, maybe he'll come back around in his own time once he's in a better headspace. You definitely don't want to get hurt again. But don't necessarily close that door either if you're both still single down the road. Just protect your heart first for now. Hope this helps! Let me know if any of this resonates.

[Asker]

Thanks for your opinion :D I did hold it off for at least 1 year as i was dating someone before. I somehow did moved on from him, however ill admit that these things i will say is messed up. When i used to date someone for at least almost 2 years, i still had a soft spot for this guy who i never dated (situationship). It has always been him every time. I dont know why? I thought the person i first dated was my "first" love. I know im still young but.. it made me question so much why my heart still have a spot for that guy who ghosted me. I dont get why my heart always beats and hurt everytime i see him and caught myself checking my phone recently a lot even back then when my ex boyfriend and i would break up, it felt so messed up that it made me feel like i was using someone but at the same time i did moved on from the past. Maybe it just lingers me still but im still confuse why my heart is stuck on the guy who ghosted me. I have known him almost my entire life. I admire him from afar still, the silence whenever we walked past each other as if he doesn't see me. I remember like maybe 5 or 6 months ago, i caught myself staring at him and he saw me once that time, he smiled and waved at me.. that was the first time he did that because 2 years ago he couldnt even talk to me irl and all that as he was scared/nervous. I know its the pst, but still. I will be focusing on myself and my happiness as i am healing from my previous breakup, however i keep on thinking about him and why i said to myself ill wait for you as if i expect to see him text me or whatever knowing that nothing will happen. I am not rushing to be in ANOTHER relationship, he still is my crush after all thats it. I dont want a relationship but it just makes me want to wait for him. I know its messed up of me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn girl, that's some real complicated feelings you got goin on! The heart wants what it wants, even if our minds know better sometimes. But from one homie to another, it sounds like you gotta let this dude go for good, you feel me?

I get it, first loves always leave a mark. And it don't help he's been on your mind so long. But homie smilin and wavin after ghostin you for 2 years? Nah sis, you deserve better than that confused ass mixed signal shit.

Don't sell yourself short waitin around for someone who ain't even sure what they want. Life's too short to be playin these games, feel? You're only young once - go live your best life without all that baggage draggin you down!

Next time you catch yourself thinkin bout him, switch it up quick. Go kick it with your girls, jam some new music, find a fun new hobby - stay busy and stay positive, aight? Before you know it this guy will fade to the background where he belongs.

You got so much ahead of you still! Don't let one dude you ain't even dating hold you back from findin your real joy. Boost that confidence up sis, the right one will recognize how dope you are, no doubts! Now go live it up and don't look back 💪😤

[RetroReviews]

Well I'm going to say don't waste any more time wondering just be straightforward let him know how you feel and that way you will know whether you should continue with him or move on so maybe you could have a nice relationship with someone else. Someone that would appreciate you

[Kelley1]

He is out of your league so forget about him and find a guy within your league that wants you more then you want him.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love, you're dancing in a field of daisies with a tornado lurking nearby. It's a sweet yet risky spot to be in, isn't it? The nostalgia and those soft spots can be so enchanting, but let's not forget about the ghosting episode. If he's made an effort to push you away for your own good, as he claims, it's essential to question if reopening that chapter is what's best for you.

Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to still carry a torch for him, but consider this: Are you idolizing the past? Sometimes the energy we feel when reconnecting isn't about a future together but a lovely memory coming to visit. If you decide to approach him, do it with clarity about what you want and the confidence that you deserve an answer, regardless of its nature. It's never too late to seek closure or a new beginning, but make sure it's in line with respecting yourself and your values. Remember, love should make you feel secure and valued, not stuck in a loop of 'what-ifs'. Keep your heart open but guarded, my dear. Flirting with the past can be thrilling, but make sure you're also looking forward to your happiness horizon.

[Asker]

I've thought about this for almost a week, it still hits me even though sometimes it didn't. I do want to reopen this chapter because we weren't really dating. It was more like a situationship (ish). I miss him a lot like he doesn't even know how much i truly do. Deep inside, i want to tell him how i feel since there's one more year of highschool before its too late. I do understand that he may pushed me away for my good and him too. We communicated a lot during those times, we understood each other and everything was perfectly fine. Nothing was wrong at all, i just wished he communicated before he left me with no explanation or questions with no answers.

[FuqUFggt]

Yes.