Is it hard to forgive or to trust again?

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mstbooblover · Accepted Answer

Trust is a confortable feeling. Once broken, I'm not sure anything can be done about it. Forgiving on the other hand is possible, even if often not easy, and indeed liberating, which still does not mean trust to be restored.

This is case sensitive of course, but in general, when I loose trust in someone, I'll avoid having to deal with them anymore.

ChicoFromThe305 · Accepted Answer

The more the trust is broken the harder it becomes

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the age-old dilemma: forgive or trust, which one's harder to master? 🤔 Well, lovebirds, here's my take. Forgiving is like letting go of that heavy bag of bricks you've been lugging around—it's about finding peace for yourself, so it's tough but oh-so-liberating. Trust, on the other hand, is like giving someone a piece of your heart all over again, not knowing if they'll cherish it or squish it. Yeah, ouch. So, if you ask me, trusting again is the real challenge. It's about taking a leap of faith, hoping you've picked a partner who's got their love boots strapped tight this time! Both require a heroic dose of courage, though. Got to admire anyone willing to dance that delicate dance of love. 💃❤️🕺

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ohsheeT · Answer

. I look at it like this it's really kind of easy to forgive because you almost have to thank them for doing whatever it is they did because when somebody does something like that whether they're doing it to try to get away with something or whether they don't know they're doing it but they're in a roundabout way teaching you who they truly are and I mean sometimes that little pain right there sucks but in the long run you have to thank them for not wasting more time or breaking your heart even somewhere down the road so when things happen to me I just kind of like look at it and say okay. Well that happened. LOL... I can be angry I can be pissed but it's nothing but a waste of time and energy and it takes your focus off of where you're headed where you're going it holds you back it's okay to be angry it's okay to be hurt but also know that when things like that happen you always are going to get over it no matter what I know it sounds kind of like a cold heart but it's really not it's just that you've accepted things faster easier and you can always flip the person off and smile and say goodbye but no matter what you have to forgive because that hold you back if you don't you'll always be thinking about it and you have to trust again because not everybody is the same and if they hurt you again you have to keep going forward because each time you're learning something I'm sorry if that's happened to you one day they will go through it to see how it really feels but yeah be strong and understand who you are choose who you want to be you know you can use that person that takes the pain and just holds on to it forever and doesn't go anywhere or you can accept it and say well thank you asshole for hurting me right now and just keep moving on

Rei13 · Answer

Yes and no. I can forgive others relatively easily but I’ll never trust them again. Once that’s broken that’s it.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Forgive someone for what? Trust again after what?

Altheavas · Answer

I can forgive, I don’t want to hold anger and negativity within myself. It’s draining holding hate for someone who has proved they are not worthy of you and your energy, or you never mattered to them, but I can’t trust again them again! I don’t want to make my trust issue general for everyone, but At this point I have no expectations that anyone will do good by me. I’ll accept and cherish the little moments.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Depends. If she cheats, I will forgive her but not trust  her  again romantically and thus I will end it. As far as trusting another... the new lady will be a distinct individual and I will not judge her because of what a cheater did.

SotiCoto · Answer

Ultimately trust isn't about whether the other party is honest or not, but about how well you understand them. It is a measure of your ability to accurately predict how they respond to things, how they behave, and what you can do to accommodate that.

That means that trust is something that you can take control of, and not merely leave up to what sort of person you're dealing with. At that point forgiveness doesn't really matter.

Sharkstealth · Answer

In my life I have come across many males who are alcoholics or drug addicts that get angry and disrespectful from jealousy. Aggressive bullying behavior is an unforgivable action when it comes to my life. I have absolutely zero tolerance for extremely low intelligence people who's only contribution to society is to beat on or threaten people.

Crimsyjo · Answer

I both forgive and trust too easily. It really hurts and it really sucks 😥

bolverk · Answer

Yes - when you've been cheated on twice in a row it is hard to trust again, and next to impossible to forgive

gayesblog · Answer

Forgiving and trusting again can both be challenging... Forgiveness requires letting go of hurt and anger, which takes emotional strength. On the other side, trusting again demands vulnerability and the willingness to risk being hurt once more. Both involve deep emotional processes, but trust may be harder due to fear of repeated betrayal.

DishLady · Answer

Not really, but you have to be honest with yourself throughout the process and not pretend you’re ready when you’re not. Give your heart and soul time to breathe between relationships.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Family yes. CO workers no. Neighbors no. Anyone in retail / companies it depends. GFs never really got cheated on except once and I was cheating too at the time so I was kind of like "whatevs" and got past it very quickly. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Samantha_Stevenson · Answer

The topic of trusting again comes up only if you forgive in the first place right?

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

It's hard for me to trust again when someone hurts me.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Honey there is no such thing as unconditional love or everlasting love. It all goes down the hill. You will have to eventually pay for love so be ready

TheDaydreamer · Answer

if a guys breaks my trust good luck getting it back tbh

AlexEfron · Answer

I don't hold grudges, but I do remember what someone has done. The trust will never be the same, no matter how much they change.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I think it's significantly harder to trust again. Forgiveness is much easier

sheikalana · Answer

Yes, it can be hard. If you're not able to trust yet you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I think maybe to trust again is harder than to forgive.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Surely it's harder to trust again, you can always forgive but to trust again, it's very hard!

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

Yes its hard. Resentment makes people spiritually sick. Forgiveness is the only way to be free.

nawtee_me · Answer

Not really, it is a choice. Either you do or you don’t

MacDaddyRico · Answer

Definitely. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't trust girls or women today, learned my lesson or lessons.

lovegooro · Answer

it is hard to trust again as trust is built over time once destroyed it is forever destroyed

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I don't think so

LaurenM1997 · Answer

I would say both

boobliker · Answer

only time helps here

OddBeMe · Answer

Depends on forgetfulness.

ryancg · Answer

For me it's always been very difficult.

ApplePie409 · Answer

Sorry. Let the AI explain it,

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes it is cause I can forgive but I never forget

NathanDavis · Answer

I forgive

madpete1111 · Answer

Nope

AhemAhemAhem · Answer

After what?

eagle1951 · Answer

yeah it is messes everything up

elizamichale1 · Answer

Yes it is honey

red324 · Answer

Eh you can't trust anyone these days

Dongie · Answer

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