Husband’s ex from 7 years ago contacted him out of nowhere they spoke redflag?

[Anonymous]

My husband & I have been together for 7, & we’re been doing really good, just had our 2nd baby this past Nov. randomly, about 6 days ago he comes to me after work & goes “guess who contacted me. My ex” & immediately I felt a pit in my stomach, just not something I’d expected & safe to say she was pretty bitter when him & I first got together. He told me they had spoke on the phone catching up while he was driving bc he drives for work. Catching up about us having kids, being married, on her love life & how her boyfriend recently left her alone in Cali.. & things that have went on since they haven’t spoken. (I don't know I didn’t like this detail. Is this why she reached out?)

him and I spoke briefly about it & I tried my best to be optimistic since it’s been awhile, but I just couldn’t shake this feeling. A few days went by & I saw on our phone company she had called him 2 days in a row on his way home for work. Again it made me uncomfortable bc maybe the girl has no one but it seemed she was getting too comfortable speaking to him bc now this was 3 days in a row..

when he had came home, I spoke to him & told him how it made me uncomfortable, & surprisingly he said “i understand what you’re saying I get it, I just want you to know before we even spoke the first time she set a boundary bc she knows I’m married” as much as appreciate, it almost felt like she was already overstepping a boundary she set bc why was she calling him after work each following day. She even called during this conversation but he didn’t answer.
I told him I just really wasn’t comfortable & would prefer they didn’t talk. He didn’t seem thrilled but he said “if u don’t want me to talk to her I won’t, it’s not worth the fight. I liked talking to an old friend but If u don’t want me to talk to her & block her I will.”
I felt he was a little irritated tho, he never deleted her info or blocked her either.

should I be worried? Does ex have pure intentions or is this weird?
Was I wrong? Opinions pls

[BonzoInBitburg]

Ironically, this happened to me recently. The fact that he told you is a good sign but I didn't think she is respecting boundaries by calling him repeatedly. He needs to stop taking her calls. He's obviously saying something that makes her comfortable to keep calling.

[spartan55]

You told him to stop and he stopped. Yet on you go... no wonder he is irritated.

[sheikalana]

I don’t think you should be worried but I think your Husband should cut contact with her out of respect for you and what you both have with each other.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the deep end of past connections while in the bliss of current love definitely sends the heart racing! Your feelings? Totally valid. Reconnecting with an ex can sometimes be as harmless as catching up on old times, but context is key. You've both been building a life together, adding not one, but two beautiful chapters (aka your kids) to your love story. Out of the blue, an ex pops up, especially one with a history of not cheering for your love festival? That's bound to raise some eyebrows and maybe even a red flag or two.

The fact that your husband was upfront with you about this unexpected call speaks volumes about his intention to keep things transparent, but your spidey senses tingling at the frequency of their chats? Totally understandable. His response to your concerns, although slightly flavored with disappointment, shows he values your feelings and prioritizes your relationship over a stroll down memory lane.

Should you be worried? Well, it's less about worry and more about keeping that line of communication wide open with your hubby. It's crucial for both of you to feel comfortable and secure. As for the ex's intentions—while we can't read minds, the timing and frequency of her reaching out might indeed be a signal that she's not just looking for friendship.

Were you wrong? Absolutely not. Feeling uneasy and expressing that to your partner is part of navigating a healthy relationship. It's not about control but about mutual respect and understanding boundaries. Keep talking, keep loving, and remember, your relationship has already blossomed into a beautiful family garden. A little rainstorm of exes can't dampen that magic. 😉