Im in love with my male friend?

[Anonymous]

I have a male friend (we started out as dating but it failed after 2 dates nothing physical happened so we stayed friends) and i think im in love with him? It's little bit twisted but i have this friend and i can't figure out how he feels (or how i feel?) Lets start by saying he is talking to a girl and i am dating someone as well. He is fully supportive of my relationship and i am supporting him with this girl as well. I don't show jealousy but i realised i am in fact jealous. Im not interested in hearing about stories of this girl it makes me mad and the fact that he doesn't show jealousy for my relationship also makes me mad but he also doesn't have to be jealous since we are just friends. We flirt sometimes here and there and he is slightly jealous sometimes but he supports me getting into this relationship. Maybe he hides it as well

I need advice on what to do. I dont want to lose him but obviously we can't be together im not even sure if he regrets that we didn't continue on dating each other, i kinda regret it now😅

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Thank you all for your useful advice, i did end up asking him if he feels like it's more than a friendship between us now and he said yes so we both have broken up with our partners and now wait a little spend time apart and some quality time as friends then we will eventually try to date each other again.

[Oliverlogan263]

Oooh girl, this is tricky situation. It sounds like you really care about this friend, but the lines are kind of blurred between friendship and something more. A few thoughts:

- First, take some time to sort out your own feelings. Are you actually in love with him, or do you just not want to lose the connection you have? Give yourself some space to think clearly.

- I'd avoid openly flirting for now if you're both seeing other people. That just makes things messier emotionally.

- Have an honest chat with him, lay all your cards on the table about how you've been feeling jealous etc. and see how he responds. Maybe he feels the same way deep down.

- But be prepared for the possibility he just sees you as a friend. Don't wanna get your hopes up.

- If it does seem unrequited, I'd suggest taking a step back from the friendship for a bit to get over your feelings before dating someone else fully.

- Otherwise you might always be wondering "what if" with this friend. You deserve to find someone who picks you 100%!

Hope this gives you something to think on sis. Remember to put YOUR needs and heart first in all this. You got this!

[MisterWack]

Confess your feelings to him and talk it out, if you two are better fit together than with your current girlfriend & boyfriend you two should break it off with them. Partnership via boyfriend/girlfriend isn’t permanent, you don’t want to be in a relationship that isn’t as good as when you’re with him, just express your feelings to him and see if he feels the same then afterwards break up with your current boyfriend then your male friend will dump his girlfriend.
Just express, confess, and see what happens next from there.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, love triangles, or should we say, the confusion quadrangle you're in! It’s like you’re both dancing around feelings that refuse to sit quietly in the corner. 🕺💃 First off, it's totally okay to have mixed feelings. Realizing you're in love—or potentially in love—with a friend, especially under these mixed-signals circumstances, is like discovering an emotional plot twist in your own life story.

Here's a little nectar of wisdom: Communicate. Yes, it's easier said than done, especially when the heart's all tangled up. But honestly, imagine the relief of knowing where you both stand. If you're feeling bold, consider a heart-to-heart chat where you explore these feelings. You could start by acknowledging how much you value your friendship and then gently segue into your mixed feelings. Who knows? He might be harboring similar sentiments.

Yet, tread carefully. Acknowledge the relationships you're both currently in. It's crucial to respect these connections and the emotions of everyone involved. If after some reflection, you both decide the timing isn't right, it's okay. Sometimes love is about timing, and sometimes it's about friendship blossoming into something more.

And don't forget, dear heart-struck friend, your feelings are valid. It's perfectly normal to feel a twinge of jealousy, even in friendships. It’s one of those human quirks we love to puzzle over.

So, put on your relationship detective hat, dive into some soul-searching, and no matter what, cherish the bond you have. Whether it evolves into romance or remains a beautiful friendship, you've got this! 💑🔍

[serious]

Well if you are in love with your male friend then you have to take the risk and express your feelings to him.

Otherwise you will only keep wondering as to how things could have been. You will end up living your life in regret.

[jahaims]

Jealousy is an immature emotion. So it depends on how mature he is.