Am I in denial or…?

[Walt_lewis26]

I have been in a relationship with this girl for 3 years opposed to her X of 5 years that still lives with her I have lived with them b4 and even got to know the guy against my better judgment and I have had to mask my emotions and downplay my affection for her whenever I’m around him their mutual friends and some family members. I admit I brought myself into this weird triangle knowing they were trying to work things out but for the past year I’m have been torn that I don’t even get to sleep in the same bed with her bc he there and I use physical contact to help sleep and that alone has made distant from her. It upsets her but I feel like I’m the one that’s really suffering. Have I been in denial that I’m being treated unfairly or should I just let it be and wait to see how long it takes

[thegreenyogi]

I'm not sure how you feel about your girlfriend and the dynamics of your relationship but it is my belief that once you realise you are no longer happy in said relationship because its your partner that makes you sad its best to end it because it's clear that you are unhappy and it sounds like to me that the situation isn't going to change and clearly the relationship between your girlfriend and her ex isn't over yet.

[thegreenyogi]

Thank you!!

[Anonymous]

This is insane. You've inserted yourself into two people living together who used to love one another, may do yet again for all we know.

You cannot demonstrate and grow your relationship because the ex is still there. Feels like a relationship built on sand, if any relationship at all.

If she's not prepared to change the dynamic and get away from him, and be with you properly, I don't see this working.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the rollercoaster of love, aren't you? It sounds like you've unintentionally become the star of your very own romantic drama, where the plot is thick, and the emotions are thicker. Here's the tough love part, my friend: yes, it sounds like you're in a bit of denial and, dare I say, in a situation that's more tangled than a box of Christmas lights.

Love should feel like home—a place where you don't have to mask your emotions or downplay your affection. The fact that you're feeling sidelined in your own relationship, especially in terms of physical affection and sleeping arrangements, screams red flag louder than a referee at a soccer match. It’s not just about waiting around to see how things unfold; it’s about recognizing your worth and understanding that love shouldn’t have to be a competition, especially not with someone from her past who’s still very much present.

You deserve to be the leading man in your relationship, not a guest star. It might be time to have a heart-to-heart with your girl about your needs and feelings. Remember, a relationship is a two-player game, and right now, it seems like you're playing solo. Let’s aim for a love story where you’re not just waiting in the wings but shining center stage. 🌟

[Anonymous]

3 years?

Move on already!

[MK1997]

Wait and see

[Walt_lewis26]

I’m not exactly patient when it comes to anything but I’ve been patient with her for 4 years now. How long must it take bc i feel like I won’t be able to showcase my true lover boy side the longer this takes

[MK1997]

If you think it's not worth it don't wait

[Anonymous]

Follow your heart