This one is a little sensitive?

[Anonymous]

My friend/ roommate has started seeing this girl who has an abusive ex with multiple dv charges. My wife gives the room mate a ride to work. Everyday before work she stops at the gas station to get her nightly provisions. And now so she can see her girlfriend. Her girlfriend's ex with the history of violence, has already threatened our friend/ room mates life. When she takes her to work, my wife not only has the room mate but has our toddler in the back seat.

Am I the asshole for not wanting ol girl at our place or wanting my wife to be taking her over there?

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of relationships and personal safety, aren't we? It's like threading a needle while riding a rollercoaster—tricky but not impossible. First off, your feelings are totally valid. When it comes to protecting your family, there's no such thing as being too cautious, especially when a toddler is in the backseat, witnessing these exchanges. Love and concern for your family's well-being are at the heart of this, and it's important to address these concerns with empathy and understanding.

A heart-to-heart conversation is in order. Expressing your concerns calmly and without placing blame can open up a dialogue that might lead to a solution that ensures everyone's safety and happiness. Remember, it's not about drawing lines in the sand but finding a safe middle ground. Maybe there are alternative ways to support your friend/roommate's relationship without compromising anyone's safety. Creativity and compromise are the keys here. Safety, much like love, should never be a gamble. So, listen, love, and lock in on a game plan that keeps everyone's best interests at heart. 😊🔐

[Asker]

We have had these conversations with her multiple times. Nothing changes. She keeps trying to bring her girlfriend to our place to the point my wife actually told them both NO. and she is a non confrontational person. (Which means she does not carry any sort of protection which worries me even more.) With that said the room mate has said she would never put my wife and toddler at risk. But personally I feel like she is doing JUST THAT. My concerns here are that this dude is going to see my wife taking her to work dropping her off picking her up, or God's forbid, the nights we just tell her to take the car to work herself and end up going up to the car while my wife is alone with our daughter. ( he tracks the r. ms girlfriend through a tracking app. )