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I meant for it to be a challenging question. Obviously, most DONT like it. Maybe I could of worded it better. "Have you ever been in a relationship that was violent?"
Holy Shit, @geminidiamond OMG NO! Who would actually LIKE this shit? I’ve been abused by men since I was 6 years old! I have finally met an amazing man who, to his very core, is against cheating because he caught his mom cheating, when he picked up the house phone and overheard his mom telling a man she loved him! I’m against violence because I’m a woman of character, and hurting someone who you “claim to love” is antithetical to love! Lee is against violence, because that “upstanding man” who broke up a family, did everything to destroy him! Lee's step father beat the shit out of Lee and his mom! So no, I do not like violence, and neither (thank god) does My fiancé, Lee!
@GeminiDiamond they do not stay in the relationship because it’s abusive. Your replies make it sound like you have no clue how abusive relationships typically work
Oh I have been a victim. I learned later to stop making myself a victim and to realize I was in fear. After, I learned to own my culprits for what they are, a coward bully.
@GeminiDiamond just because you have again gaslighted yourself out of being a victim, doesn’t mean other people have to. I have been an abusive relationship and while I’ve moved on, I will never ever say my ex wasn’t abusive. You can say you were a victim and not fixate on the fact (which is more healthy ) than just pretending like your ex isn’t shitty. Takes accountability away from someone that should be called out for their nonsense
Now, if you're wrestling with fear from someone and have negotiated in yourself reasons, like I did to justify their actions, then suppose we can relate. And you should stop living in fear.
No worries, I have a new boyfriend. The point being is just because we move on, doesn’t mean we excuse what someone has done. We can move on, and still address that someone wasn’t nice to us while in a relationship.
I am assuming you mean like spanking or pulling her hair during sex? Or something like that. If you mean violence in the true sense of the word, then no. I just couldn't imagine myself being abusive towards any woman, let alone someone I am supposed to care about or especially love. Not to mention, I honestly don't think I could ever face my sisters or my mom, if they ever know I was violent towards a woman. I know they would just be so disappointed in me. I was raised to have the utmost respect for my partner.
I've only even been in a relationship that was violent once. Not from me though. I've never (nor would I ever ) hit a woman!
She use to punch me and then scream blue murder because I would stand there and stick my arms in the way. She use to say it was like hitting a concrete wall
@dustybiker2 It sickens me to the pitt of my stomach when I see stories of men abusing women DB. and I know It's very wrong, but I just can't feel the same about a guy getting beaten up by a woman!
There we disagree a bit. I don't think it's fair for men to feel they wouldn't get the same protections if a woman in their life snapped and went psycho on them. Just because they are strong doesn't mean they should suffer the experience.
@dustybiker2 I know.. nobody I know agrees with me on that. but I can't force myself to believe something, and you know me.. I'm never one to keep schtum when it comes to sharing a view here and there lol
Absolutely not! Whether we're talking friendships or romantic relationships, violence is a big no-no and a serious red flag. Relationships should be about love, respect, and mutual understanding, not about power struggles or physical confrontations. Let's aim for those heart-fluttering moments and love-filled glances, not scenes that would need a content warning. Keep it kind, keep it respectful, and remember, the strongest connections are those built on trust and mutual care. 💕
@GeminiDiamond but nobody truly enjoys abuse. They just enjoy the pattern of their abuser being nice to them on occasion, so they can disrespect them later and it isn’t viewed as entirely bad because “at least they did this a couple of days ago for me”
Absolutely not, the only kind of violence i'd allow in my relationship is if she'd ask me to in a sexual context and then only the right amount she actually likes. Other than that no matter how angry you make me you won't be hurt, neither will I tolerate violence towards me.
Ill also go one step further, my last relationship? I never not a single time have used verbal violence on her either neither did she towards me. Never using her insecurities against her, never yelling at her, never insulting her, etc. Even if I was mad or we had some conflict to talk out we ensured we calmed ourselves down as much as possible and then tried to solve the issue. Fighting with your true love and partner isn't the right approach. The best relationships are built together in absence of the things that destroy it. My girl would always deserve the best from me no matter my mood.
Not at all. Why would I ever hit someone I care about, it just seems to be at the other end of the spectrum.
If I ever came across someone who wanted that, I would be like R-E-A-L-L-Y? and explain, if that is something they desire/need, their not getting that kind of satisfaction from me. I would be out.
I've never been in a violent relationship nor would I want that. 2 of my exes like aggressive sex and that's the most "violent" I get, but I don't hit outside of sex. And even in sex there's boundaries.
If a girl hits me and it's not justified, I'm out. If I hit a girl and it's not justified, that's even less okay because I'm a man, and whatever consequences I receive I'd likely deserve.
This is highly controversial, but I do like violence in an intimate relationship. I give my girlfriend serious spankings—not just kinky—if she’s out of line. I think men can and should discipline women like that in relationships to show dominance.
Well, after she blacked my eye, knocked out a front tooth, and threw me down the stairs, I decided I didn't want any more violence in my relationships 🤷♂️🤷♂️😁😁
As Burt Ward (who was 79 yesterday;he was Robin on the 1966-68 TV "Batman" series) would say,"Holy fists in the face, Batman!!!" H**L NO !!! Violence has ZERO PLACE in a relationship !!!
No, I dated with a girl who abused me. Every few weeks she would just go off on me. Once she bit me so hard I still have the scar. She would get drunk and just go crazy. I really wanted to take care of her because I knew she had issues.
My ex was physically abusive to me and would frequently hit me when she got angry. I never hit her back but it took every ounce of strength. I had to not do that. She never hurt me badly and her attacks were like those of a child. But nonetheless, it was humiliating and enraging and she would engage in that kind of behavior.
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