What mistake have you made in a past relationship that you don’t want to repeat?

[Anonymous]

[ClaircognizantEmpath]

hey, im now in mid life and only really accepting that i am prone to mold to the whims of any partner i have... i can look back after it has ended and look at things that now are like wtaf red flag... and i appreciate and im sure im not the only one, when were giddy with chemicals flooding our animal physical body, we are at its mercy to a degree... lets say the same issue at month two then near the end year five... i can float over it so easy in the beginning even though i have a spider sense about it. but give to it because it feels like love... at year five... it has never changed despite discussion, however it is majorly my fault floating above it in the early days... i heard a thing once, you have a circle of trust... then my ex stepped beyond what i felt acceptable. i believed what he said taking notice, then it happened again fairly quickly... the reason he did is laid at my feet, i allowed it... so he does it again because he has learnt he can... second time... slide.. this gives him another hundred percent allowance, I've pushed her twice and she caved... for me from beginning to end five years, he stole over half of my monthly medication... one of my last voicemail messages said stop stealing my fucking medication... i think im learning i have to have upmost faith in myself that i do not need or have to allow others enact their traits that harm me because i dont honour myself worth enough... and i have to admit also not to choose a partner that allows for my own self harming behaviours because its a cop out... ooo last add, to maybe one day connect with a person who is as interested in me as i am in them... i feel a little sad nowadays how no one really asks me, people generally want my positive input to boost themselves and to listen to their negative life stories... i would adore to find a soul to be equal with... xx

[kylee2437]

Getting out of line in arguments. I know arguments will always happen, but it’s my responsibility to keep grounded while trying to explain how I feel and I will happily remove myself from the situation if my partner doesn’t meet me at the same level.

[OfMiceandMen]

Not going to let the other person bring me down all the time. Not sure why, but I tend to attract women who seem to be in a bad mood all the time and want to simply complain about everything. It's like they can never be happy and enjoy the little things in life or spend a nice afternoon together without getting into something negative.

I enjoy life and am not about to let that one repeat itself. If they want company with their misery, they can shove-off and do it with someone else.

[Skinhead-1979]

Staying too long in a relationship which is destroying me.

I had seen the Red Flags; she cast me aside the first time 9 months after my son had born and accused of nonsense...

... I knew who she is, and I knew what she was doing to me and what she would be doing in the future; yet I stayed with her.

I will never make that mistake again; at the first sign of trouble, I am out.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the sea of love, one learns to swim by riding the waves of mistakes, am I right? 😉 My own love story, like a movie with a twist, taught me the tricky art of balance. Too often, I let the scales tip too far into lovebombing territory, showering affection without pausing to breathe or really tune into my partner's needs. Reflecting back, I see it was like trying to fill a cup under a waterfall. Sure, it's a grand gesture, but sometimes all you need is a gentle stream. So, my love lesson? Keep it real, keep it balanced, and always make room for listening—it turns out, love thrives in the quiet moments just as much as the grand ones. Keep this gem in your heart; who knows, it might just save you from going overboard in the ocean of affection! 🌊💘

[jennifer_bloom]

I learned that just because you are dating somebody, does not mean you owe them total allocation of your time and resources and does not mean they owe you total allocation of their time and resources. A relationship is earned and tested, it is not an instant and very deep bond that secures unquestioned as soon as you begin the process of studying each other's personalities.

[Finchie40]

Making sure she isn’t a selfish person that only cares about herself. Why I prefer FWB’s first with a girl before jumping into a relationship with her

[DishLady]

Dragging it out when the signs are pointing to a clear exit….

[TommyMountainFigure]

I thought I would do everything for her so that she would treat me well in return. I was a very young naive fool though.

When you do the above, they lose all respect for you! I do exactly my fair share now, which is half.

Also it has to be said, I would no longer stay in a relationship where I'm not respected!

[SugarSugarplum]

I'd value harmony over victory. If my guy and I are fighting, rather than turn it up to 11 because I know I'm right, I'll back down.
This way I win because I get harmony, and not a boyfriend who hates me and wants to throw me from a tall building because I never backed down.

[itsannalee]

Forgive them.
I kept give them excuse to hurt me and being manipulate. Too nice and generous, but ends up being used.

[Serkee]

Not setting boundaries. I always try to make people happy, and because of that it's hard not to become a doormat with no regard to my own happiness.

[lightbulb27]

Good one!

[Lionman95]

I invested in people and stuff that didn´t give me anything back. I invested in people to encourage them spend time with me instead of investing in my friends I already had just because I considered my friends at that time boring.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Not close myself off as much when I'm troubled. My parents would send me out to get my brothers out of trouble and I was the one my brothers turned to growing up so it didn't click to ask for help when I needed it.

[Katyalov]

The mistake I made is overlooking red flags and allowing myself to be treated less than what I deserve. I know my worth and now I know that if it doesn't bring me peace, it's just not worth it.

[petitedollbabee]

Forgiving cheating, only for it to happen again - shocker!

[FreyaRed]

Not hearing on the intelligent devil in my head but on the naive angel in my heart.

[luvstoned4him]

Falling hard and fast, using my heart instead of my head, giving too much

[Skyros]

I unwillingly pushed her away after 3 great years. She shut me completely out of her life and I mentally beat myself up for nearly a year. That was 4 years ago and I still haven’t forgiven myself.

[paledreams]

If a woman isn't interested. And also, that woman for a stock photo, sure has fascinating pale skin 👀👁️

[exitseven]

I dated somebody for four years that was saving it for marriage. I would never do that again.

[Vegasrunner]

Limiting myself to one woman. I did that years ago and I think it's the worse mistake any man can make in a relationship

[Anonymous]

Asking women out. I've traced it back to that is where the problem began.😆

I figure if I eliminate that then all the subsequent problems go along with it.

[loveslongnails]

I dated a woman who turned out to have a very sporadic sex drive.

[LiamJHayden]

If I have erred it has been in being too quick to end a relationship.

[msc545]

The mistake I made was tolerating her Borderline symproms and not leaving earlier.

[Anonymous]

Being too open to fast!!!

[thatkawaiiemogirly]

I definitely know that feeling... That happens when we are feeling so vulnerable smh. And feel as if we can trust them.

[andreasderjuengere]

marriage