To be in a healthy and peaceful relationship or marriage aren't both genders suppose to complement each other?

[Anonymous]

I believe the reason why so many relationships or marriages crumple is because the genders are trying to outdo one another, to turn this into a competition. Bad move.

For instance a fork and a knife shouldn't be fighting one another. While the knife cuts your steak, the forks helps select what you're going to eat. They have different fuctions, different needs but complement each other so well. Same with the genders.

Why would I want to compete with a man? Or vice-versa? We're suppose to make each other feel better and embrace the differences. If I want to argue, compete or fight, then might as well do it with another woman.

[Askforthree]

Here is a reality and biology check: there is no such competition because a man on average outperforms a woman in general because of obvious biological reasons (men are stronger, faster, less prone to being irrational, better leadership, do not have monthly period that halters their performance, etc.). That is why top hardest labour (both physically as mentally) are filled by 99% men. That is why top performers in pretty much all kinds of sports are dominated by men. You almost never see a man trying his best to be better at something especially physically related to women. It is women nowadays aka feminists who are so obsessed being men. Most of them resent not being a man because of the biological advantages that men have (strength, rationality, speed, etc). If men and women truly were equal, then there would be no need for the evil force behind the mainstream media to create feminism and other “girl power” propaganda like “female empowerment “ articles and songs to generate revenue from those women in the first place. You see, the evil force, the ones that are shaking the jar are behind all these tensions.

[Berethor]

Kinda pointless for women to compete with a men, that's why there is women's sports. :)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Women%27s_sports

[Asker]

Precisely. There is time and place for fair rights such as rights to have an education and work. Trying to compete with a man is delusional and going too far with the equality thing.

[DishLady]

I don't think that those who marry are necessarily competing with one another... To a degree, your knife and fork metaphor is very close to what they are... But considering that metaphor, there are a variety of flatware involved in the table setting of life; add free will to the flatware (an automated set of flatware) and you'll see where the confusion starts to arise. It's not so much competitiveness within the relationship, but sociological confusion prior that leads folks not to know which bit of flatware to use for what so they improvise...

[Askforthree]

But women are superior. There are many studies showing the reasons why. You will never see an article saying what men do better.

[DishLady]

@Askforthree Hmm... I think we need each other. It's not a matter of superiority.

[Askforthree]

But science proves that women are superior. Why would you think otherwise if science already proves it. And women do not need men. Men need women. Women are stronger.

[Askforthree]

My girlfriend says that women are superior because males have testicles. She wrote these jokes about males:

Why did the woman bring a pair of scissors to the debate?
She wanted to make sure she could “cut down” any inflated egos!

What do you call a man who thinks he’s superior?
A candidate for “Operation: Reality Check”!

Why did the woman start a self-defense class?
To prepare for the day she might need to “disarm” a few overconfident men!

How do women celebrate girl power?
By reminding men that they can always “take away” their confidence with just a snip!

Why do women love gardening?
Because they’re experts at “pruning” back anything that grows too wild!

What did the woman say when she finally got fed up?
“Time to take matters into my own hands—starting with your ego!”

Why did the woman carry a toolbox?
In case she needed to “fix” any misguided notions of male superiority!

What’s a woman’s favorite tool for an argument?
A pair of hedge clippers—perfect for trimming the nonsense!

Why do women make better leaders?
Because they know how to “cut through” the competition!

What did the woman say after winning the argument?
“Looks like you’ve been ‘disarmed’—better luck next time!”

[DishLady]

@Askforthree My goodness... Well she's lucky to have a guy who just accepts that women are superior. Personally I think that's a load of ___. We're all equal.

[Askforthree]

What is wrong with believing that women are superior? Women create life. Men cannot do that. Just by knowing this already proves female supremacy you can just bail out the rest. And in case of more: Women are better leaders, superior immune systems, live longer, more productive, no testicles, better understanding, more empathetic, more endurance, multitaskers, etc. this has been proven by science multiple times and it is so weird for women to say that males are equal to women I think most women know that women are superior to males but you just do not want to hurt us.

The world would have been better off if males just focused their lives in just pleasing and obeying their girlfriends/wives. The reason why women are in bad place in relationship is because of males in their relationship with bad behaviour. If all males just gave up and focused their lives in pleasing their partners in all ways possible, I am 100% sure that women would be soo happy in their lives and keep thriving and ruling the word.

[Askforthree]

Girlfriend asked if you’d like her castration jokes.

[DishLady]

@Askforthree Personally, I don't read them. They're disrespectful to 1/2 the human race. Lmk if she'd like a bunch of HPV/Hysterectomy jokes. Probably not.

[luvstoned4him]

You are right. Competition definitely puts a damper on relationships

Compliments are nice to remind the person that you see and appreciate them. Even gift giving as well,

[luvstoned4him]

@Asker thanks for mho

[AI Opinion]

Oh, you've hit the nail right on the head! Love isn't a battleground (even though it might feel like that when you're fighting over the remote 😉). Think about it like a dance - sometimes you lead, sometimes you follow, but always together, moving to the same beat. The goal? Harmony, baby!

In a world too often caught up in the "who's better, who's best" mentality, remembering to complement rather than compete can feel like discovering a secret ingredient to a killer love potion. Imagine this: one person's strengths balancing out the other's weaknesses. It's not about being the same or even always agreeing (where's the fun in that?). It's about bringing what you've got to the table (like that fork and knife duo you mentioned - spot on!) and making a feast out of it.

So, to anyone thinking of turning their love story into a competition, remember: the only race worth winning is the one where you both cross the finish line, hand in hand, out of breath from all the laughing and lovebombing, not from trying to outdo each other. Keep dancing, loving, and complementing each other - because in the end, that's the true spice of life. 🕺💃

[V_Injector]

I think you are 100% correct. At least 4 times a day I'm confronted with women that have issues finding a man and almost every time, they're acting like a man. He'd go gay if he wanted a man. She might be physically attractive still as a woman, so yes, he will have sex with her, but she's dropped her femininity down the toilet with how she is as a person.

Thus it's just arguments, competition, or fights... which men and women shouldn't really be having any of that with each other. That's how a couple of dude bros act... and what dude-bro wants to come home from a long days work, and snuggle next to his dude-bro girl... and talk about his fears or sensitive subjects? His dude-bro girl will probably call him a pussy and start busting his balls.

[Asker]

Pretty much that. I don't really like this "girl power" phrase, as if needing to prove we're totally equal to men or something. The irony is some of those radicals insist on trying to act like a man, to treat then like one but wouldn't like being treated totally like a man if it's not in their favor or they end up losing. So contradicting.
Personally I'm not going to act like something I'm not. Competing with a man seems idiotic to me. I will gladly compete with another woman (at least that makes sense), within my own element, in the ladies world.

[V_Injector]

That makes absolute sense. I just don't understand the psychology of women that somehow acting like a man will attract her dream man. That's like if I acted like a woman, it's supposed to attract women? Makes no sense.

I'm pretty sure if I started wearing makeup or doing girl shit in general... most women wouldn't want anything to do with me. And I think that's the mistake these gay men are making when they go trans. They have an unusually high suicide rate and I think it has a lot to do with them becoming a woman in order to attract men, but then find real men don't want to fuck a half man half woman looking thing. They should've just stayed gay and remained what a gay man is attracted to... not try to become what a straight male wants. Just a side subject that came to mind that has a lot to do with this subject.

They're connected by becoming something they're not... and then just mindlessly wondering why it doesn't work. I mean think about it, a woman becoming a man behavior wise... Yeah it's a woman, but it's like a trans when it comes to behavior. She a real woman but acts like a man.

When it comes to long term relationships... us dudes don't want a woman that is a man on the inside and is going to woman boss us down at every chance they get. On the surface sex might be fine because it's a woman... I mean when I was younger I would fuck my pillow and pretend it was a woman I was so hard up, but long term... I need someone that isn't raping their pillow to sort of balance me... as well as satisfy those desires so that I stop raping my pillow.

Raping pillows is bad.

[Asker]

Yes, exactly. Vice-versa (a man acting like a woman) would be just a turn off too. In that case, I'd rather hang out with my female friends.

[V_Injector]

I should've also shared my personal experience with a girl boss. Once she thought she had me figured out, she just tested me constantly. I felt like I was walking on eggshells all the time except during sex. With that relationship, we had agreed it was going to end at a certain point and it ended with no fights or stuff like that. I felt nothing but relief once she was gone... which is the same feeling I was feeling anytime she wasn't around at that point. If I didn't have that easy way out... I'm pretty sure she would've pushed me to some absurd shit just to get rid of her.

My story is given as just an example of what it's like for the male side dealing with a girl boss trying to dominate him. Imagine the world of dudes that cave in to it... and get dominated. They either turn into a weirdo that no woman respects or they just become a "Yes Ma'aam " hen pecked dude that is afraid to even tell a joke because he's gonna get ridiculed or something like that.

[Finchie40]

Yes, you should be with someone that brings happiness into your life not misery , if you are with someone that is constantly arguing with you and fighting with you , you are best to walk to other way , if it’s a consistent thing. No relationship is perfect but if you choose someone the same way they choose you you will more thank likely have a long lasting happy relationship , Never stay with someone that brings constant negativity and misery into your life

[SugarSugarplum]

This is the current "Power Dynamics" psychology everyone is preaching.
All relationships have a dominant and submissive, and one party is always using the other.
So male-female relationships have devolved into two parties each trying to get something from the other and "win" the encounter.

"He bought me a $200 meal, and I didn't put out. I WIN!"
"She came over for Netflix and chill and she even paid for the pizza! I WIN!"

When in reality, men and women are meant to work together (a concept that power dynamics denies exists).

[imtiaz45]

Yes, a healthy and peaceful relationship or marriage thrives when both partners complement each other. This means recognizing and appreciating each other's strengths, supporting each other's growth, and working together to balance weaknesses. Complementary roles don't have to adhere to traditional gender norms; instead, they reflect the unique qualities each person brings to the relationship. Mutual respect, communication, and understanding are key, allowing both partners to feel valued and fulfilled. When both individuals contribute to the relationship in a way that complements the other's needs and desires, they create a harmonious and lasting bond.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/cdY9N1kIRQQ

[jahaims]

Obviously healthy relationships are supposed to involve teamwork. You aren't saying anything ground breaking here.

[Asker]

Yup it's all about teamwork. The vetting process should be done from the beginning and once it's someone like-minded, there aren't huge deal-breakers nor any drama. Then it's up to both to lead a healthy, productive relationship or marriage.

[Anonymous]

You are obviously correct, and it is feminism that has gotten us to this sad state of affairs.

[Asker]

yeah I don't like the 3rd wave feminism did. There was a time and place for it such have obtaining an education, working and having the rights to vote. Good enough. I don't want more. Honestly, I'm actually happy showing my feminine, submissive side. No one taught me that. It just comes natural.

[FLAMBOYAntMAN]

Absolutely it's always good to boost your partners confidence and it shows appreciation for them. I would definitely always let my lady know that my attention was hers.

[ManInChains]

Yes, they are. But women consider all men to be predators and men consider women to be untrustworthy sluts 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Unit1]

There's this thing called friendly competition, that doesn't harm. It doesn't have to be a bad thing.

Other than that, you raise a good point about complementing one another.

[Nifrayu]

No. Same gender marriage can be healthy too. Furthermore marriage can be healthy without gender at all.

[Crazzyyworld]

In reality wife’s fucking dream to become a princess and husband who is not satisfied and bored and children who need so much money for their success dream

[noohair]

Correct.

[Anonymous]

*both sexes, not genders.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes.

[missindiana93]

Healthy relationship