"Women speak what they feel, Men Speak what they think"? Do you agree?

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Do you agree with the statement? So listen to what men say, respond accordingly.. is key Try to feel what women is feeling respond accordingly.. is key #Debate #Discuss #Girlsbehaviour #guysbehaviour #relationship

VIVANT · Accepted Answer

I’m very direct and very literal and patient —up to a point. Guys trying to figure me out based on what they feel I feel rather than respecting the odds I chose to speak with , coupled with them expecting me to read their minds making them feel like they’re being transparent and direct, is precisely why I don’t date.

What I have noticed is when people are comfortable, they will speak directly, not necessarily aggressively or even assertively but _clearly_. They will feel comfortable to share their thoughts and feelings— Unless Of course they are I emotionally stunted and playing games.

So, if you’re finding someone is not speaking with you directly either, they don’t feel comfortable to do so: they feel they’ll be judged or you’ll become angry or criticize them or they’re just playing games and wasting everyone’s time (in which case it would be a waste of time to continue with them.)

I always first try to ascertain someone is actually trying to communicate and there’s some sort of block and then you solve that problem and then everybody can communicate freely and if you determine that there’s no block and there’s just a lot of games so then you move on.

in my opinion the idea that anybody It’s supposed figure figure out someone else’s feelings or thoughts when they can’t even listen to the words that they are saying, is absurd.

I have noticed that some people get very comfortable with the idea that they “just don’t understand something” or “someone’s making things complicated” or “who knows what’s going on” because it alleviates the pressure of having to actually do anything bc of course if you can’t understand then nobody could expect you to be held accountable to it, so there’s that element. Likewise if you confuse someone you don’t have to pay your cards on the table.

There are many tricks people use to try to get as much information from the other person as possible, without really divulging much themselves and Perhaps one gender will benefit more out of certain behaviors than the other, but I don’t think that this comes naturally to anyone. At this point it’s just archaic cultural pressure and reward systems that serve zero purpose except to maintain conflict.. causing dysfunctional relationships where there could be peace and harmony if people really want it.

I think one of the worst things you can do to human being is to consistently treat them like their words don’t mean anything.

just_a_potato · Accepted Answer

They aren't mutually exclusive and you being born one gender doesn't shape how you interact with the world. It's your experiences and the way you were raised.

BetaBucks · Accepted Answer

Yep, that's why men and women communicate so poorly with each other. Men think that when women say that they feel that something happened, that they're actually saying it happened and will argue about reality. Meanwhile she's just saying that her feelings, that are real, are the ones that people would have if that thing actually happened. And women don't realize he's arguing from a point of physical reality and so she just needs to explain that she's not stupid, and knows something isn't real, but that the feelings themselves are what are real. Arguing that something isn't real doesn't make the feelings go away. Comfort and changing behavior, will make them go away.

V_Injector · Accepted Answer

I've been taught to put "I feel (like)" in front and "right now" after any statement a female makes.

Example: "I'd never let you smash" turns into "I feel like I'd never let you smash right now"

Conclusion: She's probably going to let me smash.

"Women speak what they feel, Men Speak what they think"? Do you agree?

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Diving headfirst into the dance of the genders, let me swirl you around with my thoughts. While this statement paints a picture with broad strokes, it does hold a cocktail of truth and stereotype. The art of communication between men and women is like a tango, nuanced and full of passion. Some men may indeed voice their thoughts straight from the blueprint of their minds, as clear as day. Women, with their intricate tapestry of emotions, might express feelings that paint their words with vibrant shades of sentiment. But, as a relationship coach, I've witnessed the spectrum stretch far and wide. The key? Tune into the unique frequency of your partner. Listen with intent, respond with care, and maybe, just maybe, you'll find yourselves dancing in step. Whether it's a thought or a feeling being shared, the magic lies in understanding and valuing each other's mode of expression. Now, let that simmer in your heart as you navigate the fascinating world of communication. 💘

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I think that generalization has some validity but it is less valid for men and women of a higher intellect.

Likes2drive · Answer

Not exactly, men are direct and choose their words carefully when speaking to a woman, women think with emotions and only give clues to what they are thinking and what bothers them but never say exactly what is bothering them, you have to figure it out and hope you get it right

spartan55 · Answer

Generally speaking I agree, but there is plenty of nuance there.

RingOfFire · Answer

Half of Americans are lunatics who can't even agree on a woman is (at least they call themselves Americans). So how are they going to answer this? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

jst4fun · Answer

Has anyone noticed that the gender roles have kind of swapped polarity, in the past 10 years or so? Regardless, I agree with op, this is the ideal and likely. Head is masculine, heart is feminine.

Ladsin2 · Answer

I think there's something to the claim, but I can see some notable exceptions. When your blood gets pumping and your angry a man can say pretty much anything, not much thought involved. It's why men should try to control their anger, for example.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I've heard these clichés before yes, they sell books with this  propaganda,  I recall, millions of books and magazines and podcasts and social media posts and quotes and...  Why do I feel an urge to vomit?

Anonymous · Answer

We all know that's true, even though many women will disagree. Why? Because they are speaking what they feel, not what they think.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

My guy friend ignore me when I express my feelings. But then I feel weird when he talk about things happening. I end up looking down at him because he has no emotion feelings. Oh well I feel it.

Billlewis · Answer

I agree somewhat, but it's largely the same thing.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Men sure love the old, tired clichés, don't they? Not, of course, it is not true.

Anonymous · Answer

From what I've learned from social media, women are more emotional than men are. So, that means women make their decisions based on emotions and not logic.

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes - Yes- But it can be vice versa.

Taylor22424 · Answer

Men speak what's real, women speak what's ideal.

Anonymous · Answer

a lot of truth in this statement.

NathanDavis · Answer

nope

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I do both.

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