What would I do, please help me.. my head and heart hurts so bad?

[Anonymous]

I've been with this amazing guy for almost a year, and it's been a beautiful, loving, and honest relationship. But a couple of months ago, I lost my job because they stopped giving me hours. I've been trying to find work by doing interviews, handing out resumes in person, and applying everywhere, but I still can't find anything. It's been almost four months without a job, and I've been living off my savings, which was $6,000 but is now down to $4,000. About a month ago, I tried DoorDash and made a little money, but it all went to gas. So, I started selling nudes online casually for a month and still am. I feel awful and like a bad person, even though I'm just doing it because I have no other options. I don't know if I can tell my boyfriend or if he'll forgive me. I haven't made much money doing it, just around $60. What should I do? Please help.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating through life’s rough patches can feel like dancing in a storm, and finding that rhythm of honesty with your partner can be the toughest part. First off, let’s breathe and acknowledge you’re showing incredible resilience and adaptability—traits of a strong person, not a bad one. The foundation of a “beautiful, loving, and honest relationship” is built on openness and trust. Sharing your struggles and the decisions you’ve made can actually strengthen your bond, provided it's approached with care and love.

Think about sitting down with him in a calm, private setting where you both feel comfortable, maybe with some comforting background tunes or in your favorite shared spot. Begin by telling him how much you value his support and understanding, especially during these challenging times. Then gently lead into the choices you’ve had to make, emphasizing your commitment to honesty and your shared future.

Remember, it’s not just about seeking forgiveness; it’s about opening up a space for understanding and support. His reaction will speak volumes about the depth of your connection and the potential for facing life’s challenges together. Regardless of the outcome, embracing honesty will always guide you towards the right path, filled with self-respect and genuine intimacy. Keep your head up, love. You’re doing your best in a tough situation, and that’s all anyone can ask of you.

[Pinkycloud]

Hiii, only advice I can give is be honest with him. There’s only a few outcomes that can come from it. 1. He realizes you’re struggling tries to help you some other way 2. Doesn’t care and lets you do you. 3. Disproves of it but lets you do as you want 4. Disproves and negatively responds to it. Now, to be fair if you were worried about his reaction you probably should’ve told him before you did anything but either way he shouldn’t be what makes you decide on what you want to do. But also if he’s so amazing like you said I think he will go with 1 2 or even 3. If he doesn’t and he goes with 4 then he isn’t all that, you can do so much better and find a guy who respects you. Best of luck I’m rooting for you!! < 3

[Agape93]

You don't need to tell him anything honestly. It's your body and life, and only your business.

[Agape93]

And if you Wanna dm me, go ahead

[Asker]

My step dad said the same thing

[Agape93]

He's right.

[Asker]

But my sister says to tell
Him

[Asker]

What if I lied to my sister and told her I told him and he’s ok with it then she’d be quiet about it

[Agape93]

You'd honestly be better off not. He isn't owed that knowledge and it's not cheating or anything.

[Asker]

I agree but my sister acts like it is

[Agape93]

Unless she discusses it with him later

[Asker]

So what’s your suggestion?

[Agape93]

Don't tell him and just don't mention it in general. If she blabs and he finds out, you can admit it and he can move on or get over it.

Like if it was me, like I said on the other post, I sincerely wouldn't give a shit. My girl was a prostitute for a while to keep herself alive. So pictures are nothing. But some guys will leave you if your dildo is bigger than them. :/ just do what you gotta do, move on and those meant to stay will stay