Are you into material possessions? Does your "stuff" define the types of relationships you pursue?

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Hey Guys and Gals,

Are you into owning pricey stuff that makes you feel somehow special? Is your "stuff" what makes you feel unique (as opposed to your personality or accomplishments)?

Does your "stuff" define the types of relationships you pursue?

Kaneki05 · Accepted Answer

I'm a collector so yes. And kinda yeah, I would ideally want to be with someone who gets it, and can understand why such things are important to me.
If one can't share their passion with a partner I think that's a bad thing.

I collect things from Media franchise like video games or films etc, also collect Magic the gathering and a little bit of yugioh. Such things are all fiction because it's what entertains and speaks to me.
The things I get have value and this can increase much like an interest rate only difference been no tax, looks cooler, and is tied to things I enjoy.

I'm smart in what I buy at least I think so and typically always try to aim for more value total in the end. And the thing is money is less real than any of the things I buy, money is just a number on a paper or not even that just a number on a screen.
Converting that into stuff I can enjoy and look at will always be better.
Though I am also trying to save money by keeping it in a savings account.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I've never considered myself materialistic and never really resonated with people that are or judge people based on what they have. If someone looks down on the garbage man or janitor and doesn't treat them at their level, then I don't want them in my circle.

If a girl likes brand clothing like Gucci or Coach, cars or whatever other brands out there, I highly doubt I'd be compatible with her. However, when it comes to health products and food, that's when brand knowledge is helpful.

There are material things that I want. An off grid self sustained house that I build myself has always been a goal of mine. A campervan that I convert myself, an outdoor fireplace, a greenhouse, a tent, hammock, and surfboard. And I do want to dress nicely. I'd dress in linen clothing 24/7. Other than love, that's all I really want in life. I don't believe that's materialistic.

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

No way. I like quality, but the reason is that I don't have to deal with buying the item again for a long time.

I am a minimalist (which does not mean I own two plates and one towel). I just focus more on what I want my life to be, rather than holding onto the past or being afraid of the future. It's tremendously freeing. You can check out my MyTake on the topic if you want. :D

Damaged00 · Accepted Answer

No it's a waste of money. I'd rather spend money on having experiences and making memories with people. The connections we have to others is what's important in life. You can't take all those things with you when you die so what's the point. They only bring you temporary happiness at best.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I drive a 2001 Ford Explorer with 175,000 miles on the odometer. 'Nuff said?

mobiusforniner · Answer

If you’re buying material things to define the relationships you'll have, you’re doing it for all the wrong reasons. I have a few big ticket items. It’s not for defining my relationships, rather; they are things I’ve acquired over time, through hard work and commitment, towards a vision of who I see myself being. It’s part of who I am.

exitseven · Answer

I am sort of a cheapskate. My financial guy tole me that I live frugally and saved a lot of money. I never bought designer label stuff and always tried to buy stuff made in USA because they are better quality and last a much longer time. I still have American made power tools I bought when I was in high school and I still use them

Iron_Man · Answer

Well when I was younger, I had Diamond 💎 Rolex watches diamond 💎 rings and I have a gold chain in my safety deposit box now and I had all that fancy stuff, but it can be taken away from you at any given moment and my house was robbed but no, I don’t want fancy material on a woman at all. I want them to be humbled and come from nothing With no money in their bank account hardly because I feel like I want to spoil them and give them what they don’t have

worldscolide · Answer

I'm into weird material possessions. I font care if anyone takes everything I own, save for the star trek spock cup my wife bought me, or really any of the gifts my wife gave me. So I guess my stuff doesn't define me, but heaven help the person that takes things my wife gave me.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Nah I never felt really into owning things super expensive. I like life to be easy and when you don't have any real obligations or things you value, life is super easy. I usually like a guy to be mature and able to afford a decent life but besides that I don't really care lol.

LiamJHayden · Answer

If I am honest, I am somewhat. I don't need a new car each year or anything like that, but I do love my guitars and have far more than I reasonably need.

But when it comes to relationships, I do not care what she has as long as she is not over-the-top wasteful. I've dated girls who make like $20/hr who have everything sorted and others who make like $250K/year who are always on the brink of defaulting on credit cards. I much prefer the former.

Serkee · Answer

I was gonna say I don't buy stuff for vanity's sake, but that's not entirely true. I do have a suit of 15th century armor on display in my living room and that was pretty pricey, and I only bought it because it would be really cool to wear at a renaissance faire. But aside from one expensive costume/decoration, no, I'm not a very materialistic person. Expensive stuff doesn't mean much to me.

MicahRaine · Answer

I do enjoy having some nice things, but I'm not much of a materialist.

I like to spend my money wisely too, so I rarely buy myself anything expensive. The last expensive item I bought was a computer for work, and I bought it refurbished and 51% off 😎

So no, stuff doesn't make me feel special, make me feel unique, or effect my relationships.

nawtee_me · Answer

My toys seem to be more expensive as I get older. I naught a zero-turn lawnmower. A few years age I naught a 16 foot equipment trailer to pull behind my truck. So after getting it I needed equipment to put on the trailer so I bought a big tractor with bush hog and grader box and disc. I may need to get a bigger truck now…. lol

Lliam · Answer

I'm not interest in impressing people with material possessions and I wouldn't be interested a girl who was into consumerism.

I do like quality furniture and things that are made of natural materials like wood and metal. Plastic is crap, for the most part.

Bubbles934 · Answer

So my definition of “stuff” is cutesy crap for my house. My home is very fantasy themed with faeries and twinkly lights and cute things. Lots of colour too.

My stuff helps my mental health. My home takes me to another world and that makes me happy

ryanrhino · Answer

Only pricey if functional. Computer hardware and televisions, for example.

Dongie · Answer

Pkay, now you have Segway from the last question. Or maybe that's nor the right word buts kind of reverse. Last question the answer was I don't give a f#$%.
This is the reason that's my favorite saying.

My dad used to do his thing and Christmas, summer, 4th of July we'd come and everything would be broken smashed and burned. So that and sentiment was burned out to.

Juxtapose · Answer

I like things that make me feel good, like a good shower. I don't place some sort of self importance on my possessions though. Some are sentimental.

Stef12 · Answer

I hate stuff. And I don't like shallow people. Things don't matter. People and love matters. I'd rather live in a cardboard box with the right person than a mansion with the wrong person.

Bricealan · Answer

No idea what your question is intended to mean? "Does your 'stuff' define the types of relationships you pursue"?  My "Stuff" doesn't define anything about me? What does YOUR stuff define about you?

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Not at all, I have some decent stuff, but it doesn't define me. I find if you spend a little more on the things you use regularly, it just makes sense as they tend to last longer.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Im not materialistic but people who know me know me to own a lot of music albums, movies and skateboards

MrGSpotHer · Answer

I like things I need it only matters if they work well and don't brake on me

Mark987 · Answer

Not at all.. Material possessions only last so long.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Not at all. I collect and treasure experiences.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I feel special in my ten year old sports shoes :p

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not at all

CubaPirate · Answer

Not in an unhealthy way

legalboxers · Answer

No not really

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