...or should this not even be a question for which you should ever be even asking your SO about, it should always be a hard NO without you even having to ask them?
Like with anything else, it depends.
All because someone is your ex doesn't automatically mean you need to cut ties with them immediately. For some people cutting off completely may be the best course of action, sure, but if you and your ex were genuine good friends but things just didn't work out romantically/sexually, then you can still be friends with your ex or at least acquaintances. So in that case the answer would be a yes.
But at the same time, if there's still romantic/sexual tension between you and your ex, then it's an automatic no. That's just course for disaster all around.
It also depends if your ex was a recent breakup or one from long ago. With a recent breakup it might be more iffy, but if it was a long time ago then it should be a lot safer.
I'm not that great with numbers and time passage so I don't know the time frame for that, but at least 6 months up to a year should be a sufficient amount of time. Less than 6 months probably wouldn't be enough time to properly move on from all those feelings for your ex, though.
Even if you’re not cheating it is very suspicious, I know there are some weird situations but more times then not having your ex over when your significant other has no idea never leads anywhere good.
A healthy relationship people are able to communicate and have trust with one another as well as would never cheat on their partner, if someone looses attraction and starts liking someone else they will either break it off or at least dexclusives the relationship.
In most cases I think this is just something people wouldn’t do. But I can imagine cases where it does make sense (for example if someone has children with the ex and it is a child’s birthday party), but, I can’t think of a situation where it would be OK without knowing your partner doesn’t mind. Whether you ask for that specific event or whether you have discussed it as a general concept your partner should not be surprised and the two of you should agree on it.
Great question but I truly believe it’s circumstantial.
My said current partner would have to be okay with me having kids, for example and also be okay with the fact that my ex and I interact professionally in regards to our kid (s).
-that’s an example but I don’t know your situation
Navigating the choppy waters between past flames and current sparks, aren't we? 😏 The rule of thumb in relationships is clear communication and respect for boundaries. It’s less about if it's okay to invite an ex over and more about how your current partner feels about it. Love, always involve your SO in decisions that have the potential to affect the dynamics of your relationship. Falling in love with transparency and trust is key. So, yes, before you even think about sending that invite, having a heart-to-heart with your current amour is not just recommended, it’s essential! And remember, if the idea of doing this seems like walking on a tightrope, it might just be a signal to double-check your intentions. 😉 Keep the love strong and the communication open!
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As a general rule, you should always consult with your SO before bringing anyone over. That goes for friends, colleagues, or exes.
This is wiser than it sounds on the surface
u Absolutely verboten without asking, and even asking will cause problems. Why do you want to stay involved with your ex (assuming you don’t have a child together?)
Absolutely not. It's a matter of trust and communication to get the current partner's OK.
What the hell are you talking about? Of course it’s not okay but if go beyond your SO’s back it shows you have a major integrity problem and it’s a YOU problem.
The only rare exception would be if you had kids with your ex and has something to with your kids. That’s it.
It depends on the sort of relationship you three have. If your SO has no problem with your ex, or is even friends with them, then I guess it's okay to invite them without checking. But most people don't have that kind of relationship, so for most people, you would ask as a matter of principle.
My brother's ex girlfriend invited us to her Sweet 16th birthday and he took his new girlfriend. My brother's girlfriend couldn't help but talk trash about his ex girlfriend not being as pretty as she was. Definitely awkward to have a current girlfriend and ex together in a dance hall.
You should always ask your significant other. I mean, I know I wouldn’t like it if I was seeing someone and they invited their ex to go somewhere without asking me how I feel about it.
It makes me think about if you ended up having to work together. Especially if it were on a project where both your reputations are in eachothers hands. I can see why in that situation someone might be reluctant.
Depends, if it's not okay to talk or hang out with your exes, than is a hard no, but otherwise you should ask. The only way not asking your SO about it isn't fucked up is if you are all friends and you know your SO doesn't have a problem with it.
Discussed beforehand, apply each person's boundaries, if it's left to a reason... like visitation, then parameters for which will need to be discussed. If I came home to my partner and their ex was around without any wsrning, I'd probably go to jail. I know many who'd do worse.
That is a hard NO. By doing something like that you betray trust and looks like you're trying to hide something. Put yourself in his shoes: how would it make you feel if he did that with an ex?
I don't understand why you would need to stay in contact with your ex in the first place. However, if you do have contact with your ex, make sure to talk to your current partner before inviting.
The answer is just is that okay for u if your SO doing the same to u. If you are okay, everything is alright.
Open communication!! Always!! Or... if it's not for a good reason and might cause issues? Don't do it!! Why would u?
You already ask this question. Get over him your ex is married with a wife and kids. Girl your history STOP BEING SO OBSESSED!
Irs all about trust and respect. I tell my partner everything, even when making decisions i consult him. If its affecting me, then ultimately it will affect me
You should ask your SO about inviting anyone over. Luckily we are good friends with our exes so we don't have any insecure issues with that.
Yeah. Unless it's to our house, I don't need anyone's permission or blessing to invite anyone anywhere
My husband and my ex are friend/buddy. My ex come over often and I see him quite often.
@TheLovelyWoman
anything extra?
@QuietRunner maybe
The ex shouldn't even be around unless they have kids together.
Break up.
If she plans to keep up with an ex or get together then I do not date her.
Contact with an ex = cheating. Always end the relationship over it.
Unless you and your ex a long time before you got with your current partner and your current partner is aware of this, then no.
I think it’s fine. It’s nothing romantic right?
No. If I found out my girlfriend had invited her ex to something, I would tap out.
No. Give a head up first. And yes, it's ok to be amicable with your ex.
Yes it’s respectful to your SO to inform them before reaching out to your ex
I find that kinda tacky. To me it screams your not over them or you wanna rub their nose in that you mood on. Or you want to see them fight.
I think it should be fine to invite whomever you want. If it's not, that means your SO is insecure. Not okay.
You should not even be in contact with your ex!
You shouldn't be in communication with an ex at all... unless you have kids together
Even asking this is going to ruffle feathers. Not asking at all? Good luck lol.
Why would you even invite your ex?
Yeah, I wouldn't be having that shit.
ASK!!! xxoo
Nope, always consult.
What would you invite your ex to?
You don't invite your ex, PERIOD.
To avoid trouble, honisty always!
That's fucked up if an ex is invited
Lmao no
oh he!! no...
Not really
Never ok
no not really
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